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1/29/2009
I watched your movie tonight "FireProof" and I was impressed to say at least. As a former career fire Captain I have seen marriages and relationships come apart during my tenure. I truly wish this movie could have come out sooner. I wish every firefighter would watch this video and hear its message. The job of a firefighter is a strenuous one and I believe with all my heart this movie will make a difference. When our firefighters would go to a structure fire we called that a "Job". When they came home I would tell them you guys did a "good job today." Well you folks put together a great movie! Job well done! Best Wishes and thanks for the training.
1/29/2009
What an incredible movie. I watched it for the first time tonight. I have a landscaping business while my wife is blessed to stay at home with our two daughters. Needless to say after coming home tired I feel sometimes that I don't need to lift a finger because I worked all day. Kirk Cameron's role in the movie made me realize how wrong I've been and that I need to strive to help my wife at home as well and not feel that I'm relieved of my duties just because I worked outside the house.
1/29/2009
My wife and I met while I was and still in the Military while I was visiting my hometown on leave and at that time she was working in the postal service (retired now). We dated little but wrote one another. Then months later she transfered her job to Loiusiana where I was stationed and we Married. We were married about one year when we adopted a brother and sister ages 10 and 12 in 2002. We knew that God put us in a time and place to start an extented family soon because these kids needed parents to love and guide them through live after all that they have been through. So immediately I had to learn to be a good husband, a loving husband and father all at the same time.
My wife and I have been and still faithful to God and very active in church, but then I received orders to deploy to Iraq in 2003 and I had to become a praying husband and praying father understanding how far dedication and devotion with a loving spouse will go over 10,000 miles away.
She was there for me, giving me support while learning more about our children, I felt as though I was taking her for granted but when ever I got the chance to call, email or write her it would be like the day we first met. I would remember every date needed to celebrate and send flowers or a gift through mail from Iraq. She would have issues with the kids but would fine that time for me. Although I was there with the kids for a short time, I had to discipline by phone I rely on my faith in God to restore what I missed not being there with my wife.
Well, I redeployed and we picked up where we left off. I transferred to another post in Kentucky where we bought our home. We got more involved in the church, My son plays the drums, my wife and I were involved in the youth ministry and my daugther sings with the choir. We began to have problems with my son in school and the teenage attitude, along with our jobs our together time took a strain, the weekend were family time but we have to reserve little time for ourselves. We prayed that much harder, God heard it, we continue to dedicate our time and promised god until death do us part. Things were great and then I received orders to transfer to Texas and deploy to Iraq 2007-2009 once again I'VE MISSED (2)THANKSGIVINGS AND (2) CHRISTMASES without my family, I had to rely on God through it. I found this movie FIREPROOF and got my wife involved in the web site and the movie and it is great, it serves many purposes in a marriages we talk about it often.
I'm here in Iraq today writing about a distant love and marriage that has been strained through the test of time but with God's unchanging hand we are able to talk and email one another everyday and will start a couple's ministry. I redeploy in a couple of days and then I retire from the military July 2009. Nothing is greater then God. Today I can say "My marriage is nothing without God"........
1/29/2009
My husband and I have been married for 10 years this March..Our love story is rather an odd one..we met by chance in a phone chat room....I had searched many many years for my soul mate and i found him on a telephone..i don't know if it was so wonderful because the physical appearence didn't matter when we started...we talked for hours and hours about life and what we ech expected from it..we had both been married before to other people but it just had not worked out..I never expected to find him but i had prayed for him..and god answered my prayer..we have struggled through many hard times..he was diagnosed with diabetes shortly after the birth of our daughter..and has since lost all of his toes and is officially disabled..this has made him feel very unuseful..and not able to be them "man" of the house..I have had to go back to work and can no longer be the stay at home mom..I work full time as a nurse but we still struggle with the finances..we seperated for 2 months last summer and it was miserable..we are back together and loving every mintue of it..We haven't watched FIREPROOF yet..but i hope that it will bring us even closer together..
Lisa
1/29/2009
My story is a sad one. I went to see the movie after I had been kicked out of the house by my wife. We had wanted to see it together, but it was not playing in our area yet. I watched it, saw things that I have not been doing in my marriage. I told my wife we both should go see it, maybe it would help us. And if not at least we tried. My wife at this time will not even try and seek help. She only wants me gone. I offered to talk to someone to help work our problems out, but no deal. She only wants out. We are both Christians, both are set in our ways. I have given and tried with her. But since she cannot get along with my family she says i cannot be there for her. She only wants me, and that does not sit well with me. I only see my kids twice a month, see I am divorced from my first wife. My kids are important to me so much so I got out of the active Army so I could see them grow up. But my wife of today will not let them come over, and I will not get into all the reasons, but from the help I am getting I know I am trying my best, and my best is not good enough. So I say to everyone out there remember that your families are very important. Always try your best. Sometimes your best will not be good enough, and all the trying, changing, and promises might not work, like in my case. God has a plan for me, I do not know what it is right now, but I will follow him and I will find it someday. I am sad I am loosing my wife, but I know in my heart that I have tried my best, but when your wife/husband is not willing to try it makes it hard. I know this movie has helped me, and I know it helps others. Thank you for making it.
1/29/2009
i saw fireproof tonight and may i say its an awesome movie! im 17 years old ,im pregnant still with my boyfriend . as a christian with all the ups and downs in my life it is very true what this movie represents for couples in this 40 day challenge i only hope to grow into understanding my relationship i hope with help from above that my boyfriend can be saved so our child can grow up with a better example from his/her parents. this is a difficult walk and true to say temptations are thrown at us each day as for all the couples out their that have been married for years i pray for many more to come nothing is to impossible to acomplish with god by your side also remember that god wouldnt give you any problems you couldnt handle have patience and it was put in my heart to post this if there has been a verse in the bible that has given me an understanding of love
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MAY GOD BLESS ALL OF YOUR MARRIAGES HAVE FAITH!!!!!
1/27/2009
Where do I even begin, my husband and I met about 7 years ago when I was in a previous horrible marriage. We had mutual friends and kept running into each other, but I could never remember his name. About a year after that marriage ended, we once again met up with friends. We immediately started talking and had wonderful conversation. About a year later we were married. We started off so strong, so full of live, love and energy. Now all we have is love. A boring fading love. Somehow we have forgotten what it was to have that spark light up inside of us. We have come over many many obstacles along the way, but can't seem to get over this one. I am a die hard romantic, and he is addicted to video games. I know, thats not really a bad addiction, but when it is done over 10 hours straight on our weekends, and after work till bedtime and we spend no time together it has gotten to be a problem.
We finally watched the movie Fireproof last night. Much to my surprise, Kevin sat down and watched it, he didn't seem to interested, but he still did it, I guess that's a start. Kevin is not a bad husband, I just want more out of our marriage for both of us. He is addicted to the x-box which I don't really have a problem with except for the amount of time that is consumed on it. He takes away that time from us as a couple that is so vidally important to me right now. I have sincerely had a new awakening to my life and I want us to retrieve that spontaneity and romance that we once had. Lately, all I feel is alone. Even when surrounded by friends, I feel utterly alone. Maybe it is the guilt from all the foolish things that I have done that is catching up with me, who knows... All I know is it is a horrible, lonely place to be. I hope and pray that he has really payed attention to the movie and maybe we can as a team make this work, if not, I am afraid as to what our doom will be. I can not...WILL NOT live in a lifeless, loveless, non romantic marriage. This is what I have based all my dreams and desires upon, and I can no longer settle for less. I hope he sees this and understands with an open heart. It is utterly important to me, to us, to our family. I know I can do more to help him financially and morally, I will. Finally I get it, finally I alone have a plan!! A plan that I am sure will work if I can just stay focused on what is important. He did do one sweet thing today, he was on a business trip and finally figured out how to make his fancy phone send me a text. It was all jumbled in a video, but I got the I love you coming out of his mouth, his face, I saw it. It made me smile. After the last few weeks of war against each other, I guess that was a great step. Lets just hope it continues. If I can over come this court thing, I can over come anything that God puts before me. Now it's time for me to believe and have faith. Unwavering faith, no matter what. That will be the struggle, but for once in my life I am up for it. I can almost say I am proud of myself....
1/26/2009
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My Husband and I have been together for almost 8yrs and married almost 7yrs . We both have been wanting to see fireproof, but never found the time to go. We have had a pretty good marriage no fights or anything like that. My husband is the only one that works I'm a stay home mom. Even though we both made this choice for me to stay home I still feel like I was not doing my part.
My husband never cheated on me, but with him working all the time he did talk to some of the women he worked with (too much). My husband thinks that he should always beable to fix other ppls problems (mainly women) he said they where always having problems with their spouse and needed someone to talk to, but he couldn't see that our marriage need some help too. I found a Im chat that my husband had sent to another women telling her that had be thinking about her and this other women new about me.
My husband did not hide that he was married and that he was in love with me, but he said that he told her this to make her feel better b/c she was having problems of her own. I was so hurt this man that I married and never thought he would ever tell any other women those words. I gave him a choice I told him he was not to talk to her anymore. He did this and has not talked to her anymore.
We both thought that b/c we had talked things out that we where better,but I didn't feel that way for some reason I had this feeling in my tummy that I could not explain. I called him at work one day and we talked (and I cried a lot) about how we where feeling and I got a lot of my chest. That's when we decided that his next day off we needed to get a baby sitter and go see fireproof. This movie was meant for us. I feel like GOD held off on us watching it when it first came out b/c at that time we where doing fine. We both cried in this movie and the whole time my husband held me tight I felt close again.
We both went to church and believed in the lord, but our problem was we didn't ask him to watch over our marriage and help us thru the bad and good. We know make it a point to take date nights and we let each other know how much we are in love with each other. We took each other for granted saying he/she knows I love them we just stoped showing each other. I know my husband was not to blame for all the problems. I pushed him away a lot from holding me and that is why he found comfort in another women.
I have to thank GOD for saving our marriage from getting way out of hand and for those who made fireproof it was a life saver. We both know that we still have to work at our marriage and ask GOD to help us each and ever day.
1/26/2009
Wow..where do I begin. My husband and I have been married for 8 years, we started out strong, but somewhere in the last 5 years I lost him. I recently found out that he had an addiction to internet porn and swingers websites. That crushed me, I did not feel that I could ever recover from that pain. We went to counseling and it seem to somewhat help until he had a relapse again a few months ago. The pain I have been carrying is very deep to the point of no return...I have considered filing for a divorce. The movie Fireproof had been mentioned to me several times but for my husband and I to go see a movie ...its impossible and just did not happen so I never bothered to mention it to him. My brother is the one who encouraged us to go see it and I cried...that was exactly what we have been going through I knew her pain. I also knew the temptation of an affair because the fact of being told things that your own husband does not tell you....makes you feel good. Having someone there for you to pick you up, when your husband is putting you down. I have asked God to come into our lives and help us try to salvage what we have...the hardest part with me is the pain. Hearing the words that she said to her mom " When did I stop becoming good enough?" - it hurts.
1/22/2009
My husband and I were friends for 5 years before we started dating in 2003. In 2004, we got married and since then our marriage has been falling apart. My likes are his dislikes and his likes and my dislikes. Our marriage is headed toward divorce, but he thinks that everything is fine. It seems as if we have been going through the same storm since we got married. I have prayed and prayed for our marriage and for my family, but it doesn't seem like it is working. I know that I'm not perfect and neither is he, but it seems the more I pray for my marriage, the harder it gets. When we married, we both were doing things that were not Christ like, things that our Father would not approve of, so I gave my life to the Lord so that I could be a better wife to my husband and a better mother to my children. As soon as I gave my life to Christ, my husband was not pleased, because he was not ready for the change. We married into sin and I thought that it was time to do the work of the LORD. We watched the movie a few days ago and it was a reflection of our marriage. I don't know if my husband got anything out of it, but I did. I think my husband has a lot of baggage from his previous marriage that he has not let go, but that is pushing me further and further away from him. We have been to counseling several times, but nothing has worked thus far. I know I shouldn't just give up on my marriage but it is taking a toll on me and who I've become. I am about to just throw my hands up, because I just don't know what else to do, but I have not stop praying. I'm waiting on God.
LJ
1/21/2009
My husband and I fell out of going to church. Everything started to fall apart! Our marriage and relationship with our children and family members. Work went down and bills started to stack up and on the line to lose everything. So much stressed all around.
We'd pick up to read the bible here and there, still didn't attend church.
My husband and I fighting all the time and with the children. We both started saying we each wanted a divorce. The last fight we had my husband said, it was it he was out.
I agree and wanted the same too. I heard about the movie fireproof from some friends.
The said it was a powerful movie. I got online to this website that shows movies. I started to watch the movie, and it was so powerful that I started to cry. I turned it off and told me husband that he should really was the movie. One day he did and there was something different about him. He asked if I had watched it, of course I said yes. Which I only watch the first part of it. I brought myself to watch the movie and it was so heart felt. I felt like it was mine and my husband's story. I cried all the way through and told myself, I wanted to change. I have unsaved family memebers that I will share the movie with. Pray it touchs them as much it touched my husband and I.
God bless
1/18/2009
My wife and I have been married for 19 years in November. In July of 2008, she filed for divorce because of my lengthy addiction to internet porn. We separated at the end of July, and I found out about the movie in late November from a realitor involved in our divorce proceedings. I convinced my two Sons to go with me to the movie, and it was like watching my own life story. I was so impressed that I told my two Sons that they had to find a way to get their Mom to go this movie, and they agreed - they are 17 and 16. We had not physically seen each other for 4 months, and the boys convinced her to go as a family to this "mystery" movie, as she did not know what it was about. My wife is a devout Christian lady who stuck with me for many tough years. She was really impressed with the movie, and while watching it, realized that she needed to "stop" the divorce proceedings, and work on our marriage. I have gone through 5 months of counseling and prayer. The Holy Spirit of God worked a "miracle" in my heart, and allowed it to open up to receive His Love. I have never experienced so much Peace and Freedom as I now do with this undeserved Love now present in my heart. My wife agreed to start talking, and noticed something really different about me, namely that same Peace was evident to her. After several Heart to Heart talks, and many tears, we are now well on our way to recovery. We both feel closer to each than our entire 19 years of married life, and have placed Christ as the center-piece of our renewed marriage. This movie enlightened both of us, and was very influentual in our getting back together. Our message to those affected by porn addiction, is that there is hope - and that hope is Christ, if you allow the Spirit of God to work in your heart. Stay in prayer - it is a powerful tool.
We are placing All of our Trust in God that He will walk with us through this time of our life, and will continue to be our guide for the remainder of our lives together. Pray from the heart, and Trust. The Holy Spirit will do the rest for you.
God Bless All.
1/14/2009
I went to see "Fireprooof" the weekend it came out. In the beginning of October 2008 my sister told me that she was not in love with her husband anymore. She made it through the holidays together and brought it up again this past weekend. She says that they have grown apart. She got married right out of high school, and was pregnant within a year. Now they have an 8 year old son...who is honestly a blessing. My sister is dealing with some issues that her husband has hurt her in the past. She is trouble forgetting them. She says that they have grown apart...and she is just basically tired of being married. She says she can't say she loves him to his face without forcing it. It breaks my heart for her. They have been married 9 years. First of all, help me pray that Jesus is first in each of their lives...without Him in the center...it will never work. Then pray for their reconcilation, open communication to hear one another, for a deeper God given passion for one another and to be married. I pray Satan to not enter their home. I am hoping that they might rent Fireproof when it comes this month. I have bought The Love Dare book. Please pray for Jennifer and Jasten. Thank you.
1/11/2009
My husband and I have been married 28 years. In the past 6 years we have grown further and further apart. We had parenting differences when our youngest was in High School and acted out and disobeyed house rules, curfews, etc. I believed in discipline and consequences for disrespectful behavior and my husband ignored our son's behavior and just said that's what teen boys are like. We were on 2 different pages when it came to reinforcing the house rules and disciplining our son. This put a wedge between my husband and me which has only grown larger.
My respect for my husband decreased because I saw a man who could not make decisions and work as a team member. My respect also decreased because he would constantly lie to me about financial and other issues in his life and I grew to not trust him and not know when I could trust him.
My husband began counseling 2 years ago but there has been little consistent change. He reads books, listens to tapes and even went to see Fireproof the Movie with me but to little avail. I never know when I am going to get lied to again or when I can trust his word since his actions never seem to go hand in hand with his words. This past August he made a financial decision by himself which has affected our whole family in a negative way and yet he did this by himself. When he finally told me about it, he called himself a "fraud". I am having a very difficult time loving a man who calls himself a fraud, is not true to himself or me and continues to walk in the same path he has always walked. I am bitter, resentful and angry and I really don't want to spend much time with him.
I am trying to work through the 40 day dare and so far it has shown me what I need to do about my attitudes and feelings. I pray that God will use this dare and the movie to show us both what real love is.
1/9/2009
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January 8, 2009
My Husband and I have been married for 18 years and I thought everything was going like a marriage should be. We have had our fights and threats of leaving, but we have always "worked things out." I have become to comfortable and I have taken our marriage for granted. My husband and I are both christians, but I guess we have never made God the center of our lives, where he needs to be. I have recently found out that my husband has cheated on me and he has taken God out of his life and put his focus on different things. We saw the movie "Fireproof" back in October and we both just viewed it as a movie. I now know how powerful the movie was and I praise God in this storm of our marriage. I love my husband and I'm going to buy the Love Dare book this weekend and I'm commiting the next 40 days to our marriage and this dare. If you read this story please pray for us, as I will be praying for your marriages.
Christina
1/3/2009
My story began back in the 1900's when I met my then boyfriend, who is now my ex husband. He started off cheating on me from the beginning, only I didnt know it. My intuition repeatedly told me that he was lying to me. I ignored all signs. I was weak and vulnerable and falling in love. For years he continued to lie & cheat. I thought I had forgiven him, but never did I forget. Eventually, I started to cheat on him. It was a vicious cycle. Finally, I decided that I no longer wanted to live that way, and that I was moving out of state. He begged me not to go without him. We resolved some things and moved in August 1998. In the year 2000, we were married. We went back to our home town where we had a huge wedding with all of our family & friends from all over to fly in to celebrate with us. We divorced in 2004.
He became more distant and demeaning than ever before. I couldnt prove that he was cheating, and I wasnt sticking around to find out. For years, I had been drinking and drugging out of control which resulted in me hurting him with my words and actions, along with infidelity on both of our parts. We went to counseling prior to our divorce and the counselor commended us for trying. Neither of us had positive examples of what a marriage was suppose to be like. WE were in pain from our childhoods including our previous and current relationship. That was no excuse, though. Our relationship/marriage was toxic. Then, I became pregnant. He was even more distant and cold. The pregnancy was difficult and I felt so alone. There was no way I could go thru another single parent nightmare. You see, I had already had one child that was not his, that he had helped me care for, off & on. Initially, when we found out we were pregnant, we were estatic! Then, slowly, it turned into a nightmare and a mistake. We never talked about anything, including our baby.
I cant even remember what started all of it this time around. I was afraid he was going to leave me with another child I'd have to raise alone with another bitter.angry father to make our life hell. I had already endured that with my sons father, and my husband new it. I had expressed to him, how I felt about the possibility of that problem arising and how much I could never go thru it again. I became increasingly sick as the days passed. He seldom asked about how "we" felt. We were roomates again, under the pretense of marriage. I had an abortion. That was the most painful time in my life, and his. My son was acting out, and he (we) were living in a house of hell, confusion and turmoil. I could not bring another child into this again. I had already been thru that once, with my sons father who continued to fight me for custody his entire life solely bc I left him. My husband knew that. Yet, he never tried to salvage our marriage by communicating with me nor inquiring about our pregnancy or anything else for that matter. So, how would I know that he wouldnt do the same thing that the other father did?
Four years ago, I cried out to God to take away my taste for drugs & alcohol. I have been clean ever since with His grace & mercy. We have since gone back & forth since we divorced. My ex husband knows that I had an abortion. We have never actually discussed it. He says, whatever I did happened bc of what he did to me. Part of that is true, but it makes no difference now. It's too late. We love each other very much, but I am not sure if we can get back together. We are no longer in love, and we had not been in love for quite some time. I dont want what we had. It was a lie. It's like we cant leave each other, but we cant be together. He called me on New Year's Eve nite and left me a message saying how much he loves me and wants me to have his last name again. By law, I still do. He also left my son a message saying he loved him like a son. I have asked God for forgiveness for all that I have done. It is not all my ex's fault. I am no saint. I found out about Fireproof two months ago. I finally made it a priority to go see it. Coincidentally, it was New Years day, the day after my ex and I spoke candidly about why he wont communicate with me...he found a diary of mine where I had confessed my love for another man since our divorce. Per him, that makes it hard for him to open up to me, show any affection or love, other than monetarily. I am determined to give it 100%, and see if in 40 days, my ex husband and I can learn to love each other again. If not, I pray that God severs our ties.
1/2/2009
My wife and I separated in August. We have been married for 16 years and have 3 wonderful sons (13, 10, 6). For the most part, I thought we had a good marriage. We had our disagreements, and we had our fun times.
When she told me she wanted a divorce, I was devastated. I could not think straight. All I knew is I did not want this to happen. I immediately began counseling. And at the request of my counselor, began a book study of "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge. This book helped me see that, first I needed to restore my relationship with God. Second, I needed to seek God''s will for my life, marriage, and family. And finally, through prayer and God''s perfect timing, I was lead to battle for my marriage, not through mans methods of wooing my bride back to me, but through God''s method of loving and serving my bride and family.
During the Christmas break, my wife and children went to her parent''s home. The fifteen days of only speaking to my children on the phone, provided me the time I needed to think, pray and listen to God. Several times, I found myself crying to sleep. Wondering how I was going to make it through another day. Then Christmas Eve came, I sing in our church choir so, out of "duty" I went to church. It was the sermons on Christmas Eve and the Sunday after Christmas that helped restore my hope. Through this new found hope and some outside encouragement from my mom and some friends, I went to see "Fireproof".
The movie was exactly what I expected it to be. I did not see anything on the screen that, I am not suffering from. I am a work-a-holic. I want my things; mostly at the expense of those around me. And I demand respect that is not duly deserved. I did not see my wife in the character of Catherine, but upon reflection, it was not about her. I was supposed to see the movie, for ME.
Following the movie, I came home and immediately logged onto the related websites and upon reading the sample chapter of "The Love Dare", I ordered the book and committed the first 40 days of 2009 to devote to undertaking the Love Dare.
Over the week that followed that decision, I spent in pray and reflection asking God to give me the courage and fortitude to follow through with the 40 days. To have the courage to share each day with others. And to sacrifice of myself for my family.
The Journey began January 1, 2009
12/28/2008
12/29/08
My husband and I saw the movie last night at the encouragement of one of his AA friends. We have been Married for 20+ hard, painful years where neither of us have been happy. On our 20 year anniversary in July, we decided to get a divorce.
On Christmas Eve we went in for a couple counselling session in which it was suggested that we do a theraputic seperation. I love him - always have - and want to either improve our marriage or end it. I no longer have the strength to co-exist. My husband - he feels trapped and indecisive. He doesn't know if he has ever loved me or ever will.
God must be working within us as many things stand in the way of either of us following thru with the divorce. We continue to attend church, live together and share in raising the children but our relationship is unsatisfying for neither of us.
I enjoyed the movie and loved the message. I felt hopeful about it and the counselling session as I am ready for change. My husband doesn't share my hope and we still are unable to communicate.
I am going to purchase the book and use it for myself and let God take care of the rest.Please pray for us.
12/28/2008
My husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2 years. There is a lot of excess baggage and issues that we both brought into our marriage. I have had some issues with how to love him and how to hold bak my tongue.
My husband told me a little more than a week ago that he wanted a divorce, after I had threatened to call his friend when he wasn't coming home. I got the reaction that I wanted, but it was not worth all that we are going through now.
I have started the Love Dare, and I am also reading a book called, "The Power of a Praying Wife." Together, these two books have changed my outlook on life, and I am hoping they will change our marriage with God as our provider.
I see myself being calm in the midst of the fire, and I see that my husband still cares, but he is hard hearted and still refuses to "give in" because he does not think that the change is for good.
I am hoping that God and the books will help our marriage so that we do not have to go through the divorce that he wants. I love him and want nothing more than our life together back, with the strong force of God as our witness.
Please pray for us as I will pray for all of you in your journey to a wonderful marriage.
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