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4/5/2014
As I've watched the movie, it reminds me of one thing. And that is to get back on the right track. It is not just for a married couple, it can be used also to remind the people that we need Him to do everything. And CHRISTian without CHRIST is IAN which means I AM NOTHING. Thank to this movie.




4/2/2014
my husband an i have been married 7 mths. we argue all the time and i feel like we are headed for a divorce. i know most of the time i am to blame but wen i do try to stop he aggregates me even more. im so tired of arguing about the same thing over and over again an times i feel like giving up. i feel like i have been used and deceived and that is what cause me to react the way i do.i really want out marriage to work i love him despite what we go through. that is why i still stay and pray that it will work out. it just seems like im the only one doing this and all he can say is im crazy. i care about him and want the best for him not just in life but after this life too. i just feel the people in his household is hurting him more. he has his own kids and i have seen them disrespect him call him names that no child should say steal from him and all he does is come up with excuses why they do it. it drives me nut it makes me hard to respect him as a person if he could allow his kids to treat him the way they do. i know all kids do it but common on when do you put a stop to it. but let it come to him and he is ready to let me go. i just dont understand. i thought i was marrying a christian man. i know none of our walks are perfect but man why stop trying. i have decided when they treat him like that just walk out the room. i also stated for him to not tell me when he has problems with them to not tell me anything because any advice i give he makes accuse for their behaviors and we fight. not my problem anymore. he rather be a friend than a parent, im just tired. leaving it all to god .




3/26/2014
We are watching together tonight. We have been married for 5 years and have made it through many many things that should pull us apart. We still argue like siblings and we have every problem you might imagine. I'm thinking that this may not even make a difference at all. He is very adverse to change. ANY change. We are both in our second marriage, and we still speak in terms of my kids and your kids and my family and your family. He belittles me, he's always angry. We still aren't ONE family. My Mother in Law hates me and they speak everyday and she says ugly things about me and my children. She will not even acknowledge my presence at family functions. I pray and pray for GOD to help us. But I'm almost convinced that it's a list cause. I need help. I truly love him. He truly loves me. I know there must be a reason that we have come into each other's lives. We DO have good times. And they have been VERY good. But the BAD have started to REALLY outnumber the good.

Hope he doesn't doze off and pays attention. I will try to do this myself if he won't.

It's our last hope.




3/23/2014
I have watched this movie before and just watched it again yesterday. I am going to try this on my husband but don't think it will work. We still communicate and tell each other we love each other but it's not looking good. We have been more for over 6 years and have a 22 month old son. My husband enjoys talking to other women even if he don't know them and likes dating websites. He keeps all that a secret and says it's his privacy as long as he's not doing anything then its ok. I on the other hand nag about all of it and constantly want to watch him and keep him from doing it so I'm pushing him to do it more. We married very young right out of high school fast. I love him with all my heart and I do everything possible I can for him. Everything like take his boots off most of time, just stuff like that. Is there any advice on how I can get him to change and grow closer to God to save us? I can't imagine my life without him but I cant live with a broken heart and being in the dark either.

Jessica



3/17/2014
My wife and I have been married for 5 years. Most of it has been good, but the rest horribly bad. All we seemed to do is fight and argue. Recently we had a bad argument and I raised my had to her. Now we are currently separated, possibly heading for divorce. I am trying to make things better, but I believe her live for me is gone. If anyone can help me or tell me what I should do, please do so. I love my wife, our son, and my stepson. I don't want to lose them

Everett



3/16/2014
My husband and I fell head over heals for each other while we were dating and sadly fell into temptation and had sex with each other. We would try to stop but couldnt. We ended up getting married and now we've been married for almost 5 months.

I love him so much but he doesnt seem to feel the same way anymore. He doesnt love me. I always try to encourage him, that with God everything is possible. And that we should grow closer to God and he wants to just not with me.

We go to church and youth service. Were pretty church active. Hes a singer and im on the controls & projectors.

This hurts so much. I love him. I try to not worry and pray and trust God but it just hurts. I dont want to get a divorce. And sometimes i get so angry and slash out. I dont know what to do?

-Stephany




3/14/2014
Had I seen this movie a year ago, even 4 months ago I probably would have been able to save my marriage. I had the spirit of anger all through the 15 year marriage. Three beautiful children and an honest, golden-hearted wife who was only trying to love me. What a fool I have been. At this point we are legally separated and I am in the process of moving out at her command. I don't blame her. Men if this is your first visit to this site I highly recommend watching the movie, especially if you have the spirit of anger. I thank God that he lifted it from me, it just happened too late. Husbands, I want to recommend www.ultimatehusband.com which will go hand in hand with what this movie is all about. Listen to the sessions by Reb Bradley. Again had I discovered his site last year or even a few months ago things could be different for my soon to be ex-wife and I. So now I can only help lead those who have the same problems in this direction. IO ask for your prayers.


Dan



3/4/2014
My husband and I are on day 4 today. We haven't done todays dare, nor did we complete yesterdays. The first thing we did today when he got home from work is fight about something I heard him say in a conversation with his friend. I didn't see the convo, only heard. The incriminating sentence is in what I believe to be my husbands voice, but he claims it isn't. Do I believe him and let it go? Or do I stand my ground? We've been married for almost 10 years. I know my husbands voice like the back of my hand. Why would I not be able to recognize the voice changing into someone else's midsentence? Is he being dishonest or am I crazy and in need of a hearing doctor? I don't know what to do. Are we hopeless? Or do I believe him wholeheartedly and press on with the dare and the hope to save our marriage? I'm feeling lost and alone... And incredibly frustrated.




2/28/2014
Hi

My name is Themba Mhlongo from South Africa, I am a divorcee and not proud. I first watched Fireproof the movie in 2011. I still say that if I would have watched the movie before I signed on the dotted line to dissolve my marriage, I don't think I would have went through with the divorce.

I gave up on my marriage and I am not proud. i always blamed my ex wife for everything that wasn't going right but i later realised that it was not her but we both didn't know how to make it work. I am getting married to another woman later this year and the Love Dare is protecting what I have with my fiancé. She is so amazing and I never stop reading and doing the Love Dare on her. Great book

Themba



2/12/2014
Foremost, I'm not married what I read here really is mouthful.

Honestly, I'm in a learning curve about what keeps a marriage strong and when I went through all 40 love dares, I realized if I could practice such a profound attitude it will surely keep my marriage together for years to come.

On a personal experience, I found myself convicted to perceive the authenticity of marriage that its now what I thought it is. It ain't just two people becoming one but there are goodies which tag along.

All I can say is that, this page is about to make me a even better husband to be.

Tumelo



2/11/2014
My husband and I have been married for 12 years but togethervfor 13years. lately we just can' t seem to get along because of some things that happened with out 17yr old daughter, she assulted me and he didn't want her sent away so i had to leave and i slept on a guy friends couch and came home the next day but i found by going thru his phone that he has been on many dating sites talking to all these girls and even got pictures that were no appropriate and so.it has caused alot of fights. we have 8 kids and i love him.very much and wojkd do anything to save my marriage. I know that staying on an old friends couch was wrong but incouldnt go home but what he did.was way worse and he is.still doing it.




1/24/2014
I have been married to my husband for 4 years now. We have two beautiful kids together. Ever since my first pregnancy we kind of stopped having a relationship and started having a family. Then 6 months after my first pregnancy I had another unexpected pregnancy. We are both in the military and we knew that financially this 2nd pregnancy would hurt us and hurt my career potential as well. After the pregnancy I became more and more depressed and withdrawn, my husband, not knowing how to handle any of it became more distant. We are at the point now that we no longer live together and barely talk to one another. He is getting ready to move to Korea for a year and we have begun the divorce process. I have tried my hardest to make things work and this movie was suggested to me by my mother in law. I always have hope, but not as much faith... I will try anything I can to bring back the man that I love...

Amanda



1/13/2014
Hi my name is Doug, I have been with my wife for almost 5yrs we have been married almost 3yrs. My wife has changed my life, before I met her all I cared about was myself. I love her more than anything we have a beautiful 2 yr old daughter together. Recently a past has contacted her and is starting trouble. I am currently sleeping on my parents coutch because of this unfortunate mishap. I have watched the movie numerous times. I want to get the book an try it out. See I believe god had introduced me to my wife for a reason, an that would be her uncle. I love my family dearly but that
Man is truly an inspiration to me. And I hope he knows that. So to say, I am putting my faith an hope an my marriage in gods hand. Praying that in the end I will be back into my wife's arms again. My prayers are with everyone going thru these tough times an encourage them to stay on path an not give up. And plz remember "The greatest battle won is in your knees". Also "The hardest steel is refined by fire". You truly are my inspiration uncl Carol, thank you.

Doug



1/9/2014
Being married for almost 2 years, and together a total of five. My husband and I realized, that not only were we fighting all the time, but we were losing each other and ourselves along the path we were heading down. We love each other, and we love for all the right reasons. The past few years have been hard, we have lost some of the closest people to use this past year. Sense neither of us have been through grief like that before, we didn't know how to be there for one another, let alone ourselves. This pulled us apart emotionally, to the point were separating had become a topic. Other people started coming in between our relationship,and my husband started talking to other people behind my back. Even though he never met any of these people or did anything further than talking, it was still hurtful. I was lost for a very long time, i did not know how to handle it. I didn't know how to forgive or how to move forward, because every time I thought I surpassed it, it would come back to haunt me. I took this out on my husband, even though he made it right. He quit what he was doing and was willing to do anything to get my forgiveness. I am open to say that I am still unsure how to forgive, things have got better. But I know there is so much more in store for my marriage if we can jump these huge hurtles that have been set in front of us. Then we realized that it was not just one of us that needed to change to fix out issues in OUR marriage. We both needed to change, for ourselves and for each other. And here we are. Today is day one for us, and it is odd to me that I can already see a difference. Just knowing that there is a way to save something that we both want so bad, something that both agree would not want to live without. I will post our complete story after our 40 Day journey is complete. *lookingpossitiveandexcitedforthefuture*

Samantha



11/30/2013
Hello, my name is Marie. I have been married to my husband almost 18 years. We have 4 children together. We have had some terrible things happen to us over the years...mostly from our ex-spouses. But, we have both stood by each other and that has been wonderful. I have also been through cancer three times and I am well now. My husband has really been there for me and I have seen what a husband who really loves you can be about.

However, over the years my husband has become very verbally abusive to me and our kids. At night was always the worst. He has shoved me and the two of our kids. I couldn't understand what was going on. My husband's grown sons say..."Daddy isn't daddy anymore." So, we went to a Christian marriage counselor for a while....She helped me get alot of things straight in my mind. But, he would just put on a "Mr. Wonderful" act and not really work on anything at home. Finally, we had to stop going because we couldn't afford it anymore and we had alot of trouble getting a babysitter. Anyway, the counselor has suggested for my husband to go to the doctor to see what was causing him to act this way at home. He got angry and refused. There were many times I really should have called the police because he got so scary at night. I am afraid one day I still might have to. But, then I guess we would be over.

Anyway, he finally had a heart attack a year ago and we found out that he is also diabetic. This explains the horrible nights...esp. with him not eating at night or eating so late. He was supposed to have this heart procedure...but, he didn't. He seem like he is on the verge of another heart attack and has congestive heart failure. Although we are both Christian's, our relationship is very hard for me. I love Jesus very much. I know that my only hope is trusting Jesus with all my heart to heal my life. I am starting the Love Dare today. Pray for us.






11/20/2013
Hi, my name is Jessica and I feel so lost and confused. I seperated with my husband a month ago because for several years my spouse has spoken down to me and treating me like I was not important. He has made comments to me that made me feel little. He see"s nothing wrong with the way he speaks or treats me,but expects me to love him and respect him,but how is that possible? I asked my self this question all the time. But I don't get an answer. But I do know that I have lost hope in our marriage, I have lost feelings for him, resentment took over how i use to feel for him. I need to know what I should do.


Jessica



11/19/2013
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He lost his father 2 years ago and it impacted our relationship and took a tole on me due to his grief. He became withdrawn, felt justified to do whatever he wanted, and didn't seem to be the same godly man that I once knew. We challenged each other to do the Love Dare in the past and it dramatically changed our relationship for the better! God helped him tear down his walls, open up to me, and our love for each other and for God blossomed. We started planning our future together, planned on marriage, moved in together and slowly he became withdrawn again. He's been staying gone for days at a time without telling me where he is. I feel alone. I'm afraid that he's fallen away from God and can't see the damage he's done to our relationship. I don't want to lose him, but I admit I need someone steady in my life to love and cherish me, protect me, and guide my heart. I need him to lift me up and support me in my time of need. Yet, he's not here. I pray that by doing the Love Dare again that God will open up his heart and help him change to be a better more stable man for me. To be my strong and steady. I pray that God will bless our relationship and this time nothing will come inbetween us. I hope that God grants me patience to get through this, for true love never fails and never gives up. There's a song that's been on my heart lately and it's called "Restore" by Chris August. No matter how hard time get between the person you love, God can always intervene and make a change. I pray that this second time I challenge myself to do the Love Dare that God will renew me and him as a couple to be Godly men and women. I choose to fight for the one I love, but I cannot change his heart. Only God can. I'm going to try this dare one more time and see if things change.

Megan



11/11/2013
I am a 48 year old woman- I have been married to my husband for 25 years. We have had a very motivated work life- I am college educated and have a pretty good job and have alway's worked more than one job at a time. My husband has a High school education and has worked at the same company for 35 years. Through the years, the company has made many changes and he has elected to stay with them even though he had no chance of making more money where he was. I think he felt secure there. He and I always wanted to be debt free and worked very hard to have things at lower income level then we could have had. I took care of all the finances , groceries, bills, cleaning of the house, making all the meals and taking care of him, and always worked atleast 3 jobs, so that we could have things we wanted. This is not the problem but it does help to know this going into the next part of my problem. Because we were very buisy making a living. We did not have any children of our own. My husband didn't have a very positive relationship with his father and felt very under achieved by his dad. He did not want to have kids , because he was afraid he would treat them like he was treated or worse. We are Catholic and believe in marriage and that it is for life. Saying that. My husbands health has been very bad the past couple of years, starting with irritability , yelling and screaming at me, telling me I messed up our lives, because I couldn't do things right, ( in response to doing things right, I didn't do a very good job of getting things paid on time- therefore paid late charges, I did try to do my best , but looking back , couldn't do all the things what I had to do . His health , as I said has been very bad especially this past year, but has been on going for the past 5 + years.
He has high blood pressure, poorly controlled diabetes , and a very bad eating problem. This year he has undergone surgery for his heart, lost part of his foot due to a diabetic ulcer he couldn't get rid of and still needs a surgery to loose some weight , so he can get a kidney- that he is despirate need for. Therefore this puts me in a difficult spot. I take care of him every day, wraping his foot, wrapping his legs, watching his diet. working 2 jobs to help pay the bills, running him to his doctors appointments. He hasn't been affectionate for about 15 years, which is the ultimate concern for me right now. I feel I am living with my brother, father or other. I don't feel married, and I feel very alone, when I talk to him about affection he say's that that doesn't even interest him and that he doesn't need that crap. When I tell him I want that in my life, he say's " then divorce me "
I believe in marriage and I do still care for him , I am mixed up because of the roller coaster we have been on and need some help from ??????? please let me know what you think.
I am very confused, frustrated and lonely.




11/8/2013
My name is Alice I have known my husband since 1998, we became friends but he was in a relationship and I was in one. When ever we saw each other we talked or said hi, but nothing more than that. Back in 2007, I start it to work at a calling Center and he was working there and I was single and he asked me on a date. So we start it to date and to get to know each other better. In 2009 we got married, He has 4 children from previous relationships and I have 3 kids from previous marriages. But they got along good, no problem there. I I start it say a year in to the marriage I start it noticing my husband has problems with commitment. He lies a lot, and found out he was unfaithfull. That broke my heart, i decide it to go to counceling and give him another chance. But it seems that He cant stop lying, and the more that I try and try I trust him but a lot of the stories or things that he says it does not add up and makes me feel that I cant trust him. Every time I pick up the Love dare I go as far as dare 10 and I get stuck. No I feel that I am at witts end. I pray to God on what should I do, I do love my husband and my kids do too. But Im really stuck.


alice



10/3/2013
Hi my name is Jeff. My wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for one year. She is on her 2nd marriage with me, and had two kids in her previous marriage who lived with us. My son lives with his mom. (Whom i never married)
I haven't been a loving husband. I have been neglectful to my wife and three sons. i never spent time with them when i was asked. I made excuses to be selfish. I never listened to her. I made fun of her when she cried. I was a real jerk. I loved her the wrong way. I didn't support her or give her any confidence when she clearly needed some. I never helped out around the house at all not even mowing the yard.
On her birthday she went out with some friends and took her kids with her. She said she would call when she was done and never did. i was worried sick all night trying to get a hold of her. The next day when she came home I threatened her with a divorce and told I didn't trust her. I called her names and was very nasty tongued. She asked me if I would do more things with her and the kids and i refused out of anger. i asked her not to hang out with her friends she was with anymore and she blew up. She quite coming home and hasn't been back home in two weeks now. I was constantly being asked to go to church with her so i gave it a shot. I really liked the church. I really love her. I needed god in my life to help me understand what love is. I feel like a bad person for how I treated her. I never meant for all this. I really do love them all. I wish I could show her now and she wont barely talk to me. I think she is getting ready for a second divorce and I want to try to save this. I watched fireproof, a pastor at the church recommended it. I saw how the 40 day love dare worked on the movie. My wife doesn't come home anymore will it still work? Can anyone help me? I know she wants space now.
I dont know what to do.

jeff



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