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8/11/2012
George, I have the same story. Except we have been married for 10 years and I am the he is walking out on with three small children. I ask the lord to change my husbands heart to follow him as well. I will pray for you and your wife. I know the lord will work his magic if we only allow him to. God Bless!
8/8/2012
I have been married to my wife for 14 years. We both know the Lord have have served him in many different capacities. We have gone through a lot in our marriage. We lost a set of twins fairly early in our marriage, which was a huge struggle. Just a couple of years ago, my wife told me that she was never really in love with me. Now, I know that love is action and the feeling side of love is temporal, but that was a blow. Since that time, things have been pretty rough around our home. Problems have popped up all over the place and my wife really wants nothing to do with me. I know that I have been selfish and hard to deal with, but I have tried to show her love and she just won't accept it. I have been spending these past couple of years consumed with loneliness. I have only seen my wife's faults and have constantly let her know about it. Don't get me wrong, my wife has been doing things that she shouldn't and in many ways has neglected me and our family. And for everything that she has done, she doesn't see wrongdoing at all. I have been trying to play the role of the Holy Spirit in her life - not a good thing to do.
I have struggled with this so much! However, I just watched Fireproof again the other day and cried like a baby, wishing I could have an ending like in the movie, but I realized I haven't been loving my wife with a selfless love. I have been too concerned with what I have not been getting in our marriage and not concerned for her. I have just been as wrong as her. I struggled with the idea of doing the love dare because I feel like she needs to change and be the wife and mother she should be, but God has gotten ahold of my heart. This morning I decided to take the Love Dare. I can't say that I don't want to see a storybook ending. I want my wife to fall in love with me again. But I have to say that I want to become the kind of man that she needs whether or not I ever win her heart back. I want to show her the love of Christ even if I have to continue going through this life without her love and care. I am committed to my wife and to our marriage. I am committed to serving our living God. Please pray that God would give me the strength to change my heart regardless of the outcome of my marriage.
8/5/2012
My wife and I married in 2003. We have 2 beautiful boys and were trying to have a third. I have always been a relegious person, and I was fortunate enough to grow up in a house that believed in the Lord and went to church every sunday. Even though I had a house that believed in the Lord I still had a difficult childhood. My father was 2 different people. There was the "perfect" man that everyone else saw, and then there was the man that we knew at home. Early on in life I learned that I could lie to get out of trouble. I have carried that thought process into my adult life, and because of it I have hurt my wife over and over again. For the past 7 years I have lied to her about smoking and dipping. She has caught me on about 8 different occasions. My marrage is in real trouble. We watched the movie a couple years ago. I know that my lying is distroying everything and everyone around me and that I need serious help. I also know that God can help me through anything if I'll just follow him. I ask that you pray for me and my family and ask God to help me with me daily struggle.
Joshua
7/21/2012
I recently watched Fireproof as a recommendation from a friend. I laughed, cried, and thought very hard as to what part I was playing in the downfalls my marriage was going through. My wife and I have been married 13yrs and have 3 beautifule children. I am really interested in living for Christ and having a household built on the foundations of the Word of God, she on the other hand isn't. Through watching the movie and hopefully reading the book I want Christ to change as to draw her to Him! So today I start day 4 of the Love dare and I know that with the Lord's help all with work out. Please keep George and Karon in your prayers as I am praying for all of you!
George
7/19/2012
Me and my husband fell in love in 2002. We dated for almost five years before we got married. Since then we have had a wonderful life together. He has been there for me through everything. I lost both of my parents three years apart from each other and we lost a child, our angel baby Luke. We have always been able to work through whatever problems we have had. Before we started dating I was headed down the wrong path. I used to party, do drugs and give my body to other men. Once I met my husband that all changed. I was drawn to him and could not get him out of my head. He was a Christian and I wanted nothing to do with that but for some reason I couldn't stay away from him. Once we started dating I changed everything. I believe it was Jesus calling me slowly because I let go of those things one by one. I wanted too be good enough for my husband. He did not want to marry me unless I became a Christian and I fought it for years. I eventually got baptisted but not for the Lord, just so he would marry me. We got married in 2006 and by that time I was leaning more toward the Lord. I loved Jesus and wanted to be His. Three days after we got married my beloved father passed away from cancer. I was only 22. Instead of blaming God I threw myself at Him and dedicated my life to Him. I love Jesus Christ and I know He loves me. Right after the death of my baby in october 2011, I started questioning God and getting father away from Him. I also started being hateful with my husband and our two beautiful children. We started growing apart. Then one day I asked my husband to let me borrow his phone and he tried every way possible to keep me from seeing it. Finally he gave it to me and acted weird. I got away from him so I could see what was going on because he was acting so suspicious. We have internet on our phones and he had been looking at pornagraphy. When I confronted him about it he broke down and told me it was something he had been struggling with for years. I prayed and God told me to forgive him and not judge him because we all fall short and I was reminded of what I have done. We prayed together and he said that God has taken that from Him. I have felt lead to do the 40 day dare and feel it will help us get closer to God and with each other. I love my husband and I want his happiness. Please pray for us as we go on this lifelong journey.
7/15/2012
On September 19th 2009 I married my total opposite. Before this marriage we were together as a couple for 8 years. We been threw a lot of bad and good experiences. We managed to get threw many things, such as, being young parents starting at 17yrs old for her and 18yrs old for me. In the beginning it was very very rough, as for me it was the beginning of a whole new life style. I had to prepare myself for fatherhood and playing a part as a provider. As for her well, she was still in high school. From many doubts from outsiders saying we werent going to make it, she was going to drop out, I was going to not do so well as a father etc..To overcoming all doubts and adjusting to this new life, we happen to stick together, work together because WE is all WE had.
During her pregnancy,I found a job with the help of her father. It didnt pay much but it was a start, it was enough to save up and buy a car and minor things for us. I then got layed off after 3months of working at the landscape company. During that time, I helped out as much as I can, with a car i bought in the winter with no heat and it had only one gear. I still managed to take to her to school every morning. Then i found another job at a hollywood video and became shift leader. Where she ended up having our daughter in April of 02'. At the point while she was on maternity leave. At times I would go to her school get make up work, take her to school every morning while I took care of the baby. I was later released from that job, and I had to quickly find a solution. in the mean time,she finally graduated! After that she moved in with me while i was living with my mom. But who wouldve thought that was the beginning of the hardwork and rough times. After a few months I decided to go back to school and pick the barber trade.
After a year or so we ended up spliting up going our seperate ways, she found new love and job wiht a bank and I continued to study to where i graduated in Dec of 2003. Got involved with lots of women but none that was serious as cynthia. I then got a job at the same barbershop that was cutting my hair since i was 12. After that I stayed as full time barber. I then moved out my moms home and moved into an apt, and had custody rights and spent time with daughter every other weekend and some during the week. That was a rough time in my life. Whatever little money i made i used to buy food for my daughter, daycare and clothing for her. I just ate stuffing for months, until i learned how to cook, and make more money. It was a major sacrifice i had to over come but i did. After several years go buy i moved to another apt and then eventually a house. Cynthia (my wife) was then evicted from her apt, lost her job and split with her certain boyfriend at the time, so instead of allowing her to be homeless i took on the responsablity for caring for her. Under one circumstance, we had to work it out and in 2005' she was pregnent with our son. Stage 2 of our rough life had begun. She started to hang around the wrong crowds and doing the wrong things to where we split up again, but this time it was temporary then she went back to school to study to become a medical Assistant. When she realized her "friends" wasnt really her "friends" we became one again. Then i lost my house and moved back in with my mom.
In Oct 2005 she gave birth to our son, we tend to work things out and she moved back in with me at my moms. After a year goes by we both decided to move in an apt together, I left barbering full time to part time and became a personal trainer and strength coach for professional fighters. We always managed to get by, I worked very very hard with all 3 jobs to make sure we still had heat, food, clothes and bills paid.
After a year in this new apt things went wrong with the building to where it wasnt safe to live in, so we moved out and found a much bigger and better place to live. I continued to work my 3 jobs. once we lived there for 2 years we decided to get married and on September 19th 2009 we got married. She then gave birth in June of 10' to our daughter.
During our marriage life we tend to purchase our 1st house. Now we are happy at times but we still tend to struggle, fight and are going threw rought times. We decided to stick to our vows we promised before god and work it out no matter what. So here we are at the Rebirth of a New Beginning!
robert
7/13/2012
My husband and I have been married for one year. He and I met at a concert at my local church were I saw him worship the Lord with his hands in the air. I thought it was so attractive for a man to have a strong desire to want to know the Lord personally. Immediately, I wanted to get to know him and the experience was amazing. He has a 3 almost four year old son, that I also love so much. After dating for four months, we got married early because of our struggle with sexual sin. I knew that with him and the Lord we were going to be alright even though we weren't financially stable. A year past, and we have endured a lot. My in-laws, money, school, jobs, living from place to place. After our wedding anniversary date my husband came clean to me. Telling me of all the things that has been going on in his life secretly. Its been tough for him, but one thing I do know it that what God has joined together let no man separate. Right now we don't live together because he has returned to school on his own. It's hurtful sometimes but I believe that God is going reconcile our marriage even though I don't see it at the moment. I love my husband very much. Fireproof was one of our favorite Christian films and we bought the love dare while we were still dating. I'm glad that we bought that book even though I hoped I never had to use it. Now that I am where I am in my marriage, I choose to walk in the love dare challenge daily with my husband. Its a bit difficult with him being away, but the true challenge is to show the character of Christ in my love for my husband even though he may not love me right now. I will not give up on my marriage, I know God has placed my husband in my life for a reason and a purpose. I will not give up on my husband even though he may not deserve it to others. But when I gave my vows to the Lord, it was "for better or for worst" and that is my commitment Stay encouraged couples, husbands, wives. Lean on God day by day. Pour your heart out to him. Stay committed to His Word as to how to stand and let him fight within your marriage.
7/11/2012
My husband and I have been married for twenty-seven years and will be together as a couple for twenty-nine years on July 15. A few years ago we started having problems because there were many changes going on in our lives at the time. Our youngest daughter had just graduated, my husband was offered a promotion within the company that he worked for, but it would require us moving out of state away from our family. I added to the fire by deciding to go back to school and get a Bachelor's degree. The stress was overwhelming, and I made some bad choices along the way that put extra strain on our marriage. We could not afford to see a marriage counselor, so I did some research and found the movie "Fireproof" and its connection with the "Love Dare." I believe that God led me to it, and I tried to get my husband to do it with me, but he absolutely refused. I wanted our marriage to work, so I did the "Love Dare" on my own. At first it was hard, and I thought, "yeah right," this is not going to work unless we both do it. However, I was able to also come across some CD's of the "Love Dare" and listened to them during my long drives to work and school. At the end we came together as husband and wife, we created our own "date night" each week, and things seemed to be working out for us.
I just recently graduated from college with my Bachelor's degree, and the grant money that helped pay my tuition and our monthly expenses also came to an end. This next part is truly difficult to admit, but I messed up our finances more than once because of a gambling addiction. One day I was feeling particular low and decided that going to the casino was a great idea even though I knew the pitfalls and hazards. I spent all of our money that we had just budgeted for the month, and without a job to replace the lost income, we had to start over from scratch. Needless to say, my husband was furious and demanded an immediate separation and divorce. We fought for several days and then decided to make things work because deep down we really do love each other, and we know that God brought us together, and expects us to honor our marriage vows. Today, I watched "Fireproof" again, and I am determined to find a job to supplement our income until I am offered a teaching position. I am going to do the "Love Dare" again because it has been a few years, and I am going to ask my husband to participate. Even if he chooses not to I will do it on my own and with God's help and intervention our marriage will be better than it ever has been.
7/10/2012
This is day five of the Love Dare on my husband of almost 12 years (please read my story from July 6, 2012). I am loving it and, I dare say, so is he! This really does work, especially if you dedicate each day to God and ask Him to be with you every step of the way! I'm not saying it's easy, but it IS worth it! If you haven't taken up the challenge yet, please do so! You won't regret it! What have you got to lose?
Lisa
7/10/2012
My wife and I have been married for 7 years and she recently told me she wanted a divorce. The reason was that ever since I left the Army, I started to change for the worse. I got extremely lazy, wouldn't complete tasks around the house that I had done in the past. Gained weight and got to where i didn't care about myself anymore. My wife is a great woman and over the past year has told me that my actions were driving her away. I unfortunately wouldn't listen to her cries and didn't change. She works full time and the deal was that I would maintain the house, cleaning, laundry, all the things that she did when i worked full time. She came home from work on July 3rd and told me she wanted a divorce and then packed some clothes and took the kids to her parents house. Since then she has already got papers, filed and we have our initial hearing on August 1st. She tells me that she loves me due to the kids and the fact that I am their father, but not in love with me like when we first met.
I still love her with all my heart and with all that has happened the past week, now realize that I need to change for her and myself to be a better person. With all that she has already done, getting a place of her own either this week or next, is it too late?
Michael
7/6/2012
I have been married for 7 years, together with my wife for 9 overall. We have 2 beautiful children together (a 3 year old daughter and a 1 year old son). We also have 3 beautiful children from her first marriage (all girls- a 15 year old, and twins who are 12 years old). We have struggled like most financially and living paycheck to paycheck. I recently found out that my wife was having an affair with another man. I have noticed a change in her feelings towards me for months and suspected something was going on. Needless to say it was a heart shattering experience as I thought she would never do this to me. She has said that all the struggles along with having children early on and starting over again became overwheling and our marriage was deteriorating and started to crumble around us. An experience like this definately opens your eyes and gives you a new perspective on things. I realized some of my short comings and things I could have done better to provide for my wife and family. At the time of me discovering the affair I had already decided to join a Christian church encouragement group to stand for my marriage seeing that things were going the wrong way. I since have commited myself to GOD and have asked him to mold me into the father, husband, and man I need to be for my family. It's a day to day struggle as she still lives at home but now in a seperate room and still sees the other man. I have decided with GODS help and guidance to fight for my marriage and our 5 children and most of all for my wife. I know they all need me now more than ever. I know in time GOD will restore our marriage. She did recently tell me that she does not love me anymore and that she never really did. She later said she loved that I was so committed to her as her boyfriend before me was not. I went the whole 9 yards with an engagement in Vegas and a great wedding and honeymoon, bought a house together all in a short period of time. My feeling is that if she loved me once before for being committed she will love me again for committing to fighting for our marriage and the well being of our children and grandchildren and setting an example for generations. I believe in the vows we made and that marriage IS NOT such a disposable thing like it is today. I love my wife with all my heart and will not give up on her or our family. I just bought the Love Dare book as it was recommended to me by a church friend. I plan on starting with it tomorrow. I will keep all of you in my prayers and please do the same for me.
7/6/2012
My husband and I will celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary on October 14. We have been together since August of 1997, and have known each other since 1977. I rededicated my life to the Lord a little over a year ago, and He has taken me on a wonderful journey so far! With God's help, I quit smoking cold turkey four days after I rededicated, and talk about deliverance! No nicotine fits, no nothing except peace and better health! Hallelujah and praise His Name! I read the book "Fireproof" earlier this week, and it has really inspired me to commit to doing the Love Dare on my husband. Our marriage isn't in trouble by any means, but there is always room for improvement. I am also on a Faith Journey with the Lord, so this will be a really good opportunity for my faith to grow as I believe Him to bring my husband and I closer together through this and to bring my husband into a relationship with Him. Please keep us in your prayers. I will keep you updated!
Lisa
7/5/2012
My husband and I have been married for three years, together for 13 and have been blessed with three beautiful children. Our lives haven't been easy with work and family responsibilities. We fight every single day whether it be big or small. A few years ago when things got really rough he sought companionship through texting with various woman. I have always had a trusting heart, but ever since then I have hardened my heart and can't seem to work passed the situations always believing they're going to happen again. A co-worker told me about this book and that it was a tool her parents used to save their marriage... Now they're more together then they ever have been and that is something that I long for....... I'm praying with all that I have inside that this sparks our love once again because it is the last straw for both of us.... We've been through so much and we're still trying to hold on to that last string before it stamps. Please pray for our family..........
Dusty
7/5/2012
I will be married 20 years next week. And my husband has decided to end our marrige. I don not wan to get a divorce. I know we both have both done a lot of hurtful things to eachother. I have decided to take the 40 Day Love Dare challenge. I hope it will help my marrige because I love my husband.
Laura
7/4/2012
My name is Brittany and I have been married for almost 7 years. My best friend told me about the love dare and after reading about it, my husband and I have decided to do it. We are going through a really rough time right now. We have both said and done things to one another that we are not proud of. We both share the blame for our disentegrating marriage. We still love each other and are willing to try our best to work things out. I'm hoping that the book will set us in the right direction.
Brittany
7/3/2012
Hello,
Ive been married 13 years to my wife Jenn. We got married at the tender age of 21 with a 6 month old son. We have since had two more additions to the family. My wife has told me she doesnt love me anymore 1 year ago this month. We have money problems and a ton of other problems. I have sat by and just let the year go not changing any of my ways. I saw this movie and it actually made me cry. Alot of their experiences is what I have gone thru. I am not nor have I ever been a religios person, or one to even go to church. I am asking for forgiveness from our father and hope he will accept me and forgive me. I want to give the 40 day challenge my best ever attempt to have my wife fall in love with me again. I want to be able to get a doctorate in knowing her. Kepp me and Jenn in your prayers.
Mike
7/2/2012
Hello, My name is Yvonne. Mike and I have been married for 20 years in September. Mike has 3 children from his first marriage and together we adopted a son and were blessed with our own biological daughter. Last May, my stepfather had open heart surgery and we found out in July, he had terminal cancer. With me being the youngest daughter and I live right next door to them, I was "chosen" to take care of them. Don't get me wrong I didn't mind but I realize now how much my family had to endure through this time as well. My mom was diagnosed with cancer as well shortly after he was. In October 2011 he passed away.... I was now left to take care of her and help pick up the pieces. Radiation/Chemo started for her in November and ended in March, 12 to 15 hours a day.... Homeschooling my daughter, cleaning house, cooking dinner and taking care of my family... I ran out of time... for my marriage. During this time, my husband reconnected to an "old" friend on the notorious Facebook. Needless to say, things got out of control and he fell into a relationship with her, I'm not sure how long it was going on, but I believe it was January... Now that I have uncovered all this, I'm truly bent towards divorce. I fear the addiction he talks about will end up hurting our 12 year old daughter and I truly can't let that happen. It's been a week and I feel betrayed, abandoned, fooled, dirty and a thousand other feelings wrapped into one. We watched Fireproof today and I decided to try the 40 day challenge to save our marriage. We are in the process of getting into seeing a counselor, together and separate. I love my husband but the thought of all this stuff eats at me and I'm not really sure if I can trust him again. We have been attending church as well! Please pray for peace, wisdom, and strength for us....
6/29/2012
Hello,
My wife Amy and I were married at the age of 19 and 20 after we found out she was pregnant with our wonderful son C. We were engaged at the time we found out so we just thought everything was supposed to speed up and God wanted us married. The first five years were very, very tough. I stuggled with selfishness, rage, anger at times, lust...almost everything it seemed like. There were tons a fights during the day and at night, we were very young too. Lot's of adjusting was going on in our lives and our hearts. We were hit with every imaginable stress the first five years of marrriage, from mulitple jobs, school, finances, in-laws (you know what i mean), and on top of it added not one but two children in the mix! Don't get me wrong we love our kids to pieces, but now, fast forward, we have been married for 6 years going on seven, no have three children and my wife has told me she has fallen out of love with me. I have tried numerous times to reconcile our marriage these last couple years, but it seems like the stresses that we faced so early in our marriage really took a toll on us. I am afraid, but at the same time I know God has a powerful plan. There are thousands of self help books out there and counselors that may help you better your marriage, but if Christ is not the center of our "trying" then we will fail. I pray this book will help us restore our marriage to a christ centered marriage, as I take the plunge into the 40 day love dare in attempts to reconcile, what now is believed lost. I do not want a divorce, because I know deep down that is not what God wants. Keep John and Amy in your prayers.
JC
John
6/8/2012
My husband and I met when I was going through a divorce. He fell in love with me and my two daughters. We got pregnant before we'd been together a month and long before my divorce was final. We split up when I was about 3 months into that pregnancy, and though we weren't together he was still involved in helping me with our child. Things got rocky right before our son was born and I didn't allow him to be in the delivery room with me, but I did allow him to come see our son shortly after his birth (11/07). When R. was four months old, his daddy and I got back together. My divorce was final by then. We were married the day after R. turned one. We were pregnant again three months after our wedding. We were thrilled and welcomed E. in 09/09. Things were okay, not great but not horrible. We separated in 01/11 after a HUGE fight. I thought we were over. We were in the process of getting divorced. I started going to church. I was reading my bible again. And apparently I changed enough that it made my husband curious and we talked. A lot. He started going to church with me. I had watched Fireproof no less than a dozen times before we separated. My husband watched it nightly when I left him. (So he says and I believe him because he knows the movie at least as well as I do). I've never officially done The Love Dare on him. It will be harder now, he drives truck and so I don't see him every day. But I'm certain, I can do it. And we've gotten through all we've gotten through. Our marriage is better than it's ever been, but it can be and WILL be better. (I do chalk some of it up to him being on the road. I've learned what it's like when he's not here and I miss him. So when he's home, I look forward to it. The saying that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" really does have truth on it's side.) Wish me luck as I try this out on him and good luck to all of you wherever you are in your journey. May God hold you in the palm of his hands!
Courtney
6/6/2012
I found this movie after I got divorced. Our relationship started 12 years ago and we were completely and totally in love. Years went by and we did some horrible things, thinking that's what the other person wanted. It wasn't!!! It was after the divorce was final that EVERYTHING came clean. We see times we went the wrong path and still don't know if we can fix it. A lot of things went bad for us. I am now seeing someone else, but every time I see or speak with my ex I cry. Am I suppose to go back? Is he the one? I am so confused. I have no idea what to do. The man I am seeing is ideally everything I have ever wanted ....for the most part. Help someone. Please
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