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6/2/2012
We found out we were expecting before we were a year into our relationship, I was nervous to tell him but he was actually really happy about the baby, but he's been getting less and less happy about our relationship. Even thought he suggested we get married and found us a home to live together, he isn't committed. I have realized that he doesn't consider our marriage to be a real commitment. His parents have both been married multiple times and he feels that the moment things turn bad, he can bail, and I personally feel that marriage should not be a temporary thing. I'm actually doing this without his knowledge, I started it before but my heart wasn't in it so I started over. This does mean alot to me. I don't believe in divorce, I'm only 21, and I will start day 1 again tomorrow.
6/1/2012
Recently, the Lord confronted me about my addiction to pornography on the internet as well as self gratification. I have dabbled and struggled with these two for 25 years (since I was 13).
I had to come clean with my wife of 12 years and she forgave me. Then she recommended that I should watch Fireproof over and over again. We discuss it regularly and then I decided to do the love dare and here I am.
It's a journey I am willing to take for the sake of giving glory to the Lord as well as working on our marriage. My prayer is that I should continue the love dare beyond the 40 days and make every day a "dare day"
5/29/2012
My husband and i have been married for 2 years with 2 children. i got pregnant when i was 19 and we decided to get married because we wanted our son to grow up in a home with a family. and i wasnt mad because i loved him and i thought he loved me too. we have always had problem since the beginning, always fighting for everything and he claims that i was the problem. i admit i can be controlling and want everything my way or the high way. i am embarrased to admit that this isnt the first time i try the love dare. all the other times i just give up because it seems too hard! but most importantly i think its because i havent asked God for direction and wisdom. unfortunately my husband said he is leaving. he says he has fallen out of love with me and doesnt wanna do this anymore. because we got marrie so young he missed out on alot and had most of the responsibility financially. and i wasnt exactly the supportive wife i should have been. he considers himself an unbeliever now and stopped attending church too, he was the drummer in the worship ministry. ive tried convincing him that we should keep on trying but his faith in anything and everything is long gone. well for now because i want to start this love dare and hope that the results are glorious! keep victor in your prayers.
karen
5/28/2012
My husband and I are very much new and this is both our second marriages. We rushed into marriage without really taking time to know each other more because we became pregnant very very early in our relationship. We love each other very much but we are letting the problems of new relationships, new baby, new living environment all pile up on us and stress us out. We are striking out at each other and I don't want this. I know he is a good man and I know his heart is good, we are just stressed. "This too shall pass" we just need to get through this hardship in our lives. And I want to get through it all with us still together in the end. I have just fell in love with the movies like this. I have high hopes of our love and I am doing what I can for our love, for our marriage, for our lives. Thank you so much for the inspirational movies and the books. I can't wait to start this book now.
April
5/28/2012
My husband and I have been married for 4 years come next month, even though we have known each other for 6 years. We are a blended family, me bringing 2 children and him bringing 3 children into the marriage. My husband is in the Army. 7 months after we met he was deployed overseas for 15 months. We were both going through divorces and weren't ready for a relationship. He came back and we got together and shortly after that we were married. 6 months after that he was stationed to Korea for a year. During the last 4 years we have had our ups and downs, hurts and resentments as well as dealing with past hurts from past relationships, dealing with the fact that he has been coming and going due to the military. I admit that I haven't treated him the way I'm supposed to. This last deployment I sunk into a deep depression and struggled to get out of which I'm still struggling to get out of. He's been home since March and it's been extremely rough and now he is not sure whether or not he wants to fight for us. He has lost all faith in me and in us as well as he thinks I will not ever change, but he is hoping that I will show him that I am changing. The only thing is that even if I change everything that needs to be fixed it may still not be enough. I may still lose the love of my life. I am praying that God will lay his healing hands on his heart and protect us from Satan's attacks. I really want to make our marriage work and I know that I can't do it without prayer and Jesus Christ. I know that I have a long road ahead but I have enough faith for the both of us and I still believe in us and in our marriage.
Mandy
5/24/2012
My name is Joyce. My husband and I have been married almost 19 years, we have been together for 24 years. We have two beautiful children ages 12 and 14. We used to be best friends and lovers. We had so many dreams and goals. Life has become busy and the little things have gotten in the way. Both our children have challenges ranging from anxiety and adhd to learning disorder and mood problems. The struggle of managing the children, two full times jobs and daily life has left the marriage in the dust. We have not made our marriage a priority. Finances have been tough, and our dreams are looking further and further away. I blame and resent my husband for many things that are not totally his fault. I am often angry and rude and have threatened separation and divorce. I have begged my husband to help me fix this, but he does not do what I ask. I want to start to take responsibility for my role in the deterioration of the marriage, and start to work to get it back. This is literallly my last hope, my last prayer at getting things back and having the life we dreamed of together.
5/22/2012
My husband and I have been married for 3 years, together 6 and have gone through a lot in the short time. We got pregnant young, right out of high school and went back and forth being together and then not. After three years of low income jobs and moving from family member to family member he joined the Army and we got married. Soon after we got pregnant again and were really happy about it. A few months later our son got diagnosed with Leukemia which took up a lot of my time. I was always in the hospital with him and couldn't work, while he was always at work and not with us because we live an hour away from the hospital and you can't just call out of the Army. Time has gone on and it has been one month shy of 2 years since the diagnoses and a year and a half since our second son was born. We were doing well for awhile but lately everything has been falling apart again. We are always fighting over stupid little things and he is getting ready for another deployment. One of our mutual friends showed me the movie Fireproof and told me to watch it, then recommended trying the dare. I figure now is as good a time as any. I want to fix or marriage before he leaves for 9 months. I sure hope this works!
Alycia
5/16/2012
You'd think after 16 years, we have it figured out. We don't. I have held onto a lot of unforgiveness toward my husband and my expectations are too high. I never had a positive example in my father as to what a Godly husband should look like (not physically, but his heart). We married when I was 18, had our first at 19, separated at 19, got back together at 20, had our second at 21, and am lost at 34. I want to be the wife to him that God desires me to be, but it is SO STINKIN HARD. I have tried complete submission to him, loosing myself, and seeking the Lord's will with a true pure heart. I don't feel as if I can ever live up to his expectations of me, and that is probably the hardest part. I am doing this so that God will change me. I wanna see my best in him. KMK
5/14/2012
My wife and I have been married 14 years and have four wondeful children two through this marriage and two from previous marriages. My wife and I have been through alot in the last 14 years and to be honest this last year has been the best because of God and his restoring power. We watched Fireproof tonight with our children, and I so desire to be the man that God wants me to be for her and to show my children how Gods love can heal lives. My wife and I decided to do this love dare together cause i wanna heal any wounds in my heart and hers. Please pray for us and I will pray that God will restore your marriages also for his Glory. Todd and Cindi.
Todd
5/13/2012
I am married for 5 yrs in July, and together 10 yrs in Oct. In November of 2011 I was dignosed with a neurological disorder that has changed our lives completely. I no longer can work, most days I am unable to care for our 3 children (all boys). Since I have been taken off work, he is required to work and take care of the house and our kids. When we fight now I feel it so easy to walk away...and it should NOT be so easy to walk away. So I thought I would start the dare, hoping that I and my husband would fall back in love like we did 10 yrs ago.
5/13/2012
Been "together" for 11 years and things are getting to the point of divorce. My wife used to go to church but stopped going 8 months ago. I dont know what else to do but this dare. God told me to do it so I have to. I am on day 2 and hope this works. Satan is trying to get in my head because he knows I am weak. I am a youth director so doing this is even harder. I have alot on my plate with work full time and part time youth director. I told her a couple of days ago that I was leaving in 6 months which is when we adopt our little boy. That is the day God told me to do the dare. WE also have 2 biological children. I want to be loved and respected and I know she wants that to. I want to make God proud and I know divorce is not what He wants. Please pray for us.
Patrick
5/10/2012
My wife and I have been married 7 years in only 11 more days. We have had a rough past and I, unfortunately, have not made it easy on her. When Fireproof first came out I thought it was a good movie, but that is all. Now that we are in the worse part of "for better or for worse", I have watched it again. Our lives seem to mirror the couple in the movie. My wife just moved out of our house last week. I tried to convince her to stay but she said she is "done". 3 weeks ago, God hit me over the head and somehow it all clicked about how I was treating her. He has shown me lots since then, however, my wife feels that it is too late and we should just start over in our own separate ways. I have read the love dare book before, but never like now. I am on day 2 and I definitely have not shown patience and kindness to my wife. She is coming over to the house in about 15 min, first time since she moved out. I am praying for God to grant me patience and a calm spirit and that I will listen before I speak. Please speak through me Lord and let me show her that I am changing to be more like You...
Matthew
5/9/2012
My husband and I have been together for 4 years married for 2 years. He recently ask me to move out said he did not love me anymore and he was tired of trying in our marriage. We have 4 children between the two of us. I love my husband more than anything in this world. I have not moved bc i believe we can conquer this hard time in our marriage. I made a vow to him and to God to be with him until the end and i intend on keeping that vow. I am currently on day 14 of the 40 day love dare and things are still not good. He will not tell me he loves me, shows me no affection and has completely shut down not to mention he will not participate in this love dare so i am doing this individually which makes this so hard. I still have alot of hope for our marriage bc we were very much in love.. any kind of support and encouraging words would be great!!
Kimberly
5/9/2012
I am 32yrs old and I am going to have my 3yr anniversary on the 15th of this month which is 6 days from now. I have the most caring, compassionate and beautiful Wife imaginable. She is a nurse, very driven, we have 5 children (the 3 oldest are from her previous marriage). Basically my wife and I are hard headed and it seems like we clash constantly. I had a 20+ ft. fall 2yrs ago and I seem to get irritated and angry at the smallest things. The anger leads to enormous fights and honestly neither of us are able to stop before hurtful things are said. We have both given our hearts to Jesus but the struggle with anger carries on for me. I watched Fireproof this morning with my wife and it was encouraging. I love my wife Melissa and our children deeply and it kills me that my anger is so hard to control. Basically I will try anything to root it out of me in hopes that our relationships and quality of nlife will improve. I believe that our God will meet me as long as I am pushing forward to his higher calling. Thank you for reading and God bless you all. -Curtis
curtis
5/2/2012
My name is Skip
My wife and I have been together for 15 years and married for 14 years. We have a 9 year old daughter and we have had 11 miscarriages. The first on was the hardest because she was 6 months along and we lost our son. We have been through quite a lot together. Recently I have been becoming more and more irritated by little things and I have been taking everything out on my family. We tribute the reason for us staying together is that when we got married we agreed divorce was not an option. this has been working for us but we have drifted apart due to my lack of compassion and her as well. We both believe in God and have just recently started going back to church. We watched Fire Proof last night and it really hit home for me. I realize I need to do something to get our marriage back on track so I started the Love Dare today. I noticed already a change in me and my family. I will write back after each week to show progress in this journey of mine. I have not let my wife know that I am doing this. Please pray for my family and I.
4/26/2012
We have been together 24 years, married 8 years, divorced, still living together. We have tried everything to make this work......and we just could not succeed, but was not willing to leave each other..........
We are on day 11..........we have found each other again and this is just getting better and better.
First thing we do in the morning is to read "current day" and discussed it and work on it.
I feel like a teenager that fell in love all over again.........
Put your heart and soul into this and you will see the change soon
Elna
4/25/2012
Hi my name is April my husband and i have been together 10 years married 9 years evr since we have been married we have had our ups and downs fights and arguments but here lately we have lost that love for one another im here today to find out where i went wrong and try to get my husband back by taking this 40 day journey, for those of you out there who are struggling to keep your marriage going don't give up the bible said til death do you part for better or for worse god will mmake it right.
April
4/24/2012
My husband and I have been married for only 8 months and together for 2.5 years. After our first date I knew I could marry him. But then the engagement came and so did the stress of forcing together two really close knit families. I built up resentment against his mother, and in turn he built up resentment against me. I have seen him change into someone I dont know. He is on the verge of leaving me all together. I have a short fuse and he doesnt understand that I am not mad at the fact he did something small, but I am just frustrated with our realtionship.He beleives that showing me he loves me involves putting a roof over my head and in return I should never get angry....but... We have big blow out fights once a month and it usually involves my lack of relationship with his family or the fact that I dont have an income (I am in law school). In addition I am very up tight and have been very controling when it comes to drinking, I just dont like it, but I need to learn to let go of the small things. I know he doesnt see that I am not the only one to blame for our situation. All the blame is put on me. I have to be the one to change... well maybe its true, and maybe a change in me will spark a change in him. So, I am starting the Love Dare today. I want to be a loving godly wife and rebuild that has been destroyed. I pray for strenght and and the ability to lenghten my fuse and embrace peace.
4/24/2012
My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married for 9. He had an affair while I was pregnant with our first daughter, and I have made every attempt to forgive and move forward. Sadly, I still have trust issues and he still engages in behaviors that make me think he is not trustworthy. We moved closer to his family and life long friends, which has resulted in me staying home while he's out with his friends. We both have busy lives and I throw myself into work and hobbies to mask the loneliness I feel. He now says there is no connection between us. That I choose my hobbies over my family. So now I am fighting to save a marriage. My counselor does not believe that he has any desire to change. So she is preparing me to face my life without him. The lovedare is the only thing I have found that I can get tangible activities that make me feel like I am working towards saving my marriage.
After telling my counselor all of the issues we've had, she asked me why I want to stay. I answered: "Because I committed to love him for better or worse, and it doesn't seem like it could get much worse. Plus... I committed to him. Whether he stays committed to me, or if he continues to love me, it doesn't change my love for him, or my committment to him."
I hope I can help him find his way back to me...
4/22/2012
i would like to know if nthe dare works if the other person just moved out and should i continue please give me suggestions
sonia
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