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7/3/2009
7/3/09
My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years. We have two little girls who are 6 and 2. I guess we started growing apart after our children were born - but the last few months have been awful. We fight about everything and even though we have told each other before that we want out - today he told me that he doesn't want to be with me anymore that we are not happy and want different things so it's better this way. I am devastated I guess I chose not to listen the previous times and now it seems so real that I don't know what to do. In my heart I know I love my husband and hope that he loves me too. I want to try the love dare and see if we can work things out not only for us but for our kids as well. I feel like if I don't try I'll be failing my kids and that would just break my heart.
Claudia
Claudia
6/29/2009
29 June 2009
Beyond Church the past four weeks, I don't recall the last time I got down on my knees and prayed. I did it in the bathroom this morning after I got ready for work.
I prayed for salvation. I prayed for my wife and my kids. I prayed for her uncle and her mother's husband, both of whom are ill.
What I have to learn and what I have to dedicate myself to doing is letting go and letting God. I have to have Faith. I feel so tense and anxious and unsure of this process that I am allowing myself to be consumed. My stomach is in knots and has been since Day 16, Thursday, 25 June 2009. Last night after she fell asleep, I was kneeling at the bowl, feeling like I was about to puke my guts out.
I want to ask her things. I want to know if she is buying what I am selling. In situations like this, she doesn't want questions and she doesn't want pressure. I am reasonably certain that she has huge doubts about me and whether or not I am sincere. Sometimes I feel as though, even if she said she didn't believe I would follow through on this, that at least I would know. I have no idea what she is thinking. I feel incredibly alone.
I want her to know how deeply I love her. But I don't feel as though she is in the right frame of mind to hear it. I tell her all the time that I love her and she responds that she loves me, but something is missing.
I have to continue to pray that God will change my heart and my way of thinking. I pray that God take this tension and anxiety from me and give me the strength to continue this process.
I must continue to remind myself that this process is not about rewards. It is not about receiving but giving. It is not about me. It is about her. It is about demonstrating to her that my actions and words are sincere. It is about chosing to love her because she deserves it. It is about expressing love even when those expressions are not returned.
Dear God, I pray that you grant me the courage to continue this process and have faith in You and it's object.
Peter
6/28/2009
I started doing the love dare on my boyfriend for about maybe two weeks now.The result is a man who feel so special and happy about how I treat him. There has been day(s) when I feel like He has not responding to me at all, but most of the time I feel very bless to give more than I received or just to show him the love of Christ through me.I believe love dare really work but one must God everyday to show them how to love their partner with agape love,which is the love of God. Dorcas. London Canada
Dorcas
6/25/2009
My husband and I have been married 1 month and were already talking about having a divorice. It is so different then dating. All he care's about is making money to save up for his boat and having fun without me. When I try to talk to him he makes me feel like garbage. After watching the movie FireProof I realise I just don't understand him. I'm buying a love dare book for him and me and am hoping with Gods help it will help us save our new marrage.
Sarah
6/25/2009
OK, I just ordered my book and can't wait for it to arrive. On Tuesday 6/30 my husband and I will have been married for 30 years and for nearly all of those years my husband has been extremely self-absorbed (his term, not mine) but because I'm pretty independent I was able to keep myself busy with our two children (now 26 and 23) and my career (writer-editor). I haven't felt satisfied with our marriage in a long, long time and have almost always felt that everyone and everything came before me. In order to get my husband to listen I would have what I've come to call my "melt-downs" where I fight and yell to get him to pay attention - not really very effective but he did atleast pretend to listen. For the last 18 months my husband has had a female "friend" who was his gym partner - I frequently expressed my unhappiness about this "relationship" but was told I was crazy and they were "just friends". Seven weeks ago I reached my breaking point and said that either we go to counseling or I was done. Thankfully my husband agreed and since then has told me that he was "falling in love" with his female gym partner but that they had broken it off at my request. I was feeling pretty good, after all, we were in counseling, he read the 5 Love Lanaguages book and agreed to end his relationship. Guess I shouldn't have been so confident because a week ago my husband told me he had called his female friend to "tie up some loose ends" and that he had kept it secret from me cuz he didn't want me to be upset - yeah right, not calling her would have been a guarantee that I wouldn't be upset - keeping secrets and sneaking around just wasn't going to cut it. Anyway, I'm having a major struggle with this man who thinks everything is wonderful and I'm miserable - if I express my needs I'm nagging, if I say my needs aren't being met I'm told I'm not expressing my needs and that he's not a mind reader... geez, can't win for losing. Last night I had another "melt-down" and because I had a friend who said this movie changed her life, I insisted that we watch it together. My husband agreed. His comments were that the movie was a good one and that maybe he's not capable of love ... maybe he's not and that's pretty scary but I'm willing to give this one last try - if after my 40 days he still can't love me then I'm out of here. Someone please pray for me - my prayers alone aren't working
6/21/2009
I am 43 yrs old woman married to a wonderful man - We will be married 25 years come this August 09, He just told me that he has not loved me for the last 3 years and that he is in love with a co-worker but she is married and nothing has happended and she no's nothing about his affection. I am totally heart broken. We have 2 daughters, 22 yrs and 15 yrs. old - and we are raising our Grandson who is 2.5 years old. It was recommended by friends to watch the video and we are totally opposite. We don't argue and I kinda took the approach of the 40 day love dare without even hearing of it. But What a wonderful tool. I ordered mine today. I am going to continue praying for us and I will be kind and never ever say hurtful words to him even so I am so devastated. I believe God has given me this challenge to become even more stronger as a woman to stand alone but also as a married couple. I pray that we can get past the hurt and get past his unloving feeling and have him to feel love again.
6/20/2009
My name is Cheryl. I've been married to the same man since 1993. It was 3 years before we had kids, and God moved or I'd still be barren. Then, instead on one, he gave us three. It's an outright miracle that our marriage has lasted this long, and to be honest- the main reason I stuck by him was because I didn't feel I had any other alternative. In Spring of this year, I came so close to leaving him. Not like the petty "shows" of before, but leaving no matter what it costed me. But, I also knew what it would cost the kids. We're in counselling, but he's not honest about what goes on, and blames me for almost everything. When the pastor sees through it, I'm grateful, but I also have to go home with him. Right now, no one knows how heavy my heart is but God. I wish to God I could be sure of anything. I don't have a love dare book yet, but I'm pricing one on ebay right now. Until then, I can just make stuff up. I don't know what good it will do, but when I face God someday, I'd like to prove to Him that I tried.
Cheryl
6/17/2009
I was with my boyfriend for 5 years before we got married. I was 18 and he was 19 when we got married. We had never had sex before we were or been with any one other then eachother. We were church going kids our entire lives. 7 months later we find out we're expecting our first, a little girl. A few months later, I was unaware there was a problem, but I caught him on a live porn chat, he was watching them and making requests. He was looking at other porn sites also. While I was asleep alone in our bed. I woke up and walked out and there it all was, I'd never felt so worthless in my life and 5 months pregnant. He promised to stop but I've caught him several more times. I threatened to leave him and he finally stopped or is trying to hide it better. I no longer trust him and I feel that because of the unrealistic views those women gave him, I can not be intamite with him anymore. He was the boy that lead me to the Lord and the Godly man that i married, but Satan got him and I'm praying that he makes the changes needed to save our marriage. I'm waiting for got to bring him back.
6/17/2009
I am a 45 year old women. My husband and I will be going on 8 years next month. We have 2 children together, a son 8, and a daughter 6. I brought 3 children into our marriage that he always accepted as his own. 3 daughters, 14,18, & 20.Our downfall began several years ago. We have immense finanacial difficulties and health issues as well. I've become increasingly depressed by these issues and knew that I was withdrawing from him over the last several years, intimately, too. When I discovered that he had been talking online and then through calls & text to someone, I was shocked. The affair had already begun in his heart, although he hadn't acted yet. This was only a few days ago that I figured this out. My hardened heart broke in a million pieces. I feel like half of my chest has been ripped out and I cannot eat or sleep.We both still love eachother, but the spark is dead. We are both counting on it coming back to life. We decided to put effort in to make our marriage. I feel so much distance right now and I don't trust him. I'm very scared.
6/11/2009
My wife and I have been married for 10 years with 2 kids, 9 year old boy and 7 year old girl. We began to grow apart after the kids were born... I neglected my wife and concentrated more on the kids and my career and worrying more about buying a house in the suburbs and living the American dream. It took its toll and we seperated about 5 years ago for about 4 months. I came back home and things seemed to get better but it really didn't. Today, my wife wants out and she says she has no love for me. Showing my affection to her only drives her away even more. We watched the movie 'Fireproof' together but it had no effect on her. It moved me completely and now I understand why my life is the way it is now. God has never been a part of my life. I pledged to make God a part of my life and to receive guidance from him. I pray to God to soften my wife's heart and for her to forget about the past and move on from it. I am doing the Love Dare on her and it has been changing me for the better. I feel my life improving even though my wife doesn't want to be with me. My relationships with my children, releatives, coworkers, friends is greatly improving because I am making God the center of my life. Watch the movie, learn from it... it will change your life. It's going to be a long difficult journey for me and I give it all to God.
6/11/2009
My wife and I have been married for almost 15 years. We have 3 wonderful, bright kids that, after my wife, are the world to me. Over 2 years ago, my wife found out about my affair, without me confessing it to her. Even with all the hurt, pain, and devastation that the affair caused her, she choose to stay by the grace of God and for us to work past this very dark and horrible time in our marriage. Over the past 2 years, we have been to counseling, together and separately. We have had the support of our family and church family standing beside us the entire way. I have watched in horror at my wife during her time of struggle, break down, cry, get angry, depressed, try to move on and forget it ever happened and somehow allow us to work towards turning a corner. I have watched her search and grasp helplessly to allow room for her heart to begin to heal. I have prayed with her, for her, that God would heal her heart of the hurt I have caused and to allow her to one day be able to reach a point to consider forgiveness.
However, two weeks ago, it appears her struggle to achieve that faded as my wife told me she wants a divorce. She cannot find it possible to trust me and in her mind still, everything I say is a lie to her. Agreeably so, I have lost all of her respect as a husband. While there are many contributing factors that lead up to my fall and both of us have taken our own responsibilities for the "slow fade" in our marriage, I have taken full responsibility for the actual affair. It was my choice, my mistake alone.
We both come from divorced households and on our wedding day, committed to eachother that divorce was not an option in our marriage as we are well aware of the consequences from it. I believe it is a lie that children are better off if parents just divorce and start over. I believe with all my heart that we are meant to be together and that God can and will perform a miracle in us to use for His glory.
So, this is the beginning of my Love Dare. I'm on Day 8 tomorrow. I have my wife a copy, hoping she will accept it and waiting on God's time to give it to her. One small brick from the wall that separates us has already been removed as she has agreed to go to counseling once more. It may be a small step, but it was a brief moment of hope as we both search for each other again. I pray the bricks will continue to be removed with each day that goes by and that one day, our marriage will be completely restored.
6/7/2009
My name is Danelle and at this moment I feel lower than ever before in my life. I keep trying to figure out what I've done wrong in my marriage but I have no real examples of a good marriage to base my assessment on.
I am a forty year old recovering addict. I started taking drugs to help me forget the pain in my life, but in doing so I lost more than that, I lost me. It wasn't til I saw the movie Fireproof today that I finally understood that.
I accepted Jesus Christ into my life when I was a child. I tried so hard to be everything everyone wanted me to be. But I just couldn't seem to get my life under control. I watched my parents drink and do drugs, fight and hurt each other, and I just thought that was the way life was supposed to be. I couldn't reconcile my life with the way the church said life was supposed to be, so I pushed God into a little tiny corner in my heart (unless I wanted something).
Then I met my husband. I had 7 years clean and sober. He had 30 days. I relapsed. I have often blamed that on God, why would he let me grow so much just to cut me down??? Then the movie. I realized today that God didn't let me down... I let him down (tiny corners).
So 2 weeks ago after a very rough 3 years sober my husband relapsed. I was so mean to him. I felt like he just quit. I thought that we were going to make it this time. It was so hard to watch him be drnk and high and for the first time in my life feel utter and total hatred, no not really hatred but jealousy toward him.
I said so many mean things to him. I wanted him to hurt. I felt like he gave up on our marriage and the 7 years we have struggled through, and left me behind.
I still kind of feel that way.
So here I sit and he is staying somewhere else. I pushed to hard, but I still feel betrayed. The porn the drugs, the whole idea that he just stopped trying.
I want to be able to show him that we can start over but it comes out more like a lecture. I just want my husband back. He is so kind and loving when he is sober.
We do go to church together and he is a christian too, but he has his own tiny corner and I have no way of helping him clean out the cobwebs. He said he wants to come home and I believe that, but when you've been lied to and manipulated by the person you love it's very hard to belive and take that chance. It feels like he's ripping my heart out every time and all I can do Is pray and cry. How do I let God show me how to forgive and keep going? I want so much for God to help me carry these burdens and give me peace but more than that I want peace and happiness for my hsband and best friend, Sean.
How do I help him believe he is worthy of both God and I?
How do I help him when I feel so lost????
I would love for someone to help me find these answers.
God and my marriage and our family are all I have.
Danelle T
fishergirl68@yahoo.com
Danelle
6/6/2009
My wife and I celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary this past May. When asked in the past "How have you managed to stay married for that long?" my quick answer was that it's not easy, but you've just got to make sure to argue thing to the end. Speak your mind, she may not like it but as least she knows where you stand.
I watched the movie "Fireproof" with my wife. It was my suggestion to watch, I had heard so much about it and wanted to see it for myself. I figured it to be a "chick flick" and something she would enjoy watching.
After seeing the movie I sat back and looked at the perspective I had on my long-time marriage and was astonished and surprised that we were still married. What an idiot I was. I really and truly have married my first love and soul mate and after some reflection saw myself treating her like a doormat. Now don't get me wrong, she is a strong woman that has opinions of her own too. But it was my behavior that had me appalled the most. We argued quite a bit about even the smallest of things. Each of us standing our ground, having to be the one who was right. Sometimes the argument went on for days, never being resolved but rather just tossed aside to be brought up again at some later date. Sometimes I thing that the only reason that we were still together was that we were both too stubborn to give up. I guess in a way that was not entirely a bad thing, after all we were still together. But together and TOGETHER are two different things. There were times that I felt that she was more like a roommate with benefits. It's weird, we both attend church faithfully but we did not live our faith."
After watching the movie it turned to her and said that I was sorry for taking our relationship so frivolously. It was truly moving for me. For days after seeing the movie I couldn't stop thinking about it and how my marriage could have been over a long time ago.
I looked on the internet and found the website www.fireproofmymarriage.com and the Love Dare. I instantly decided that I was going to do it. I want to a local Christian Book store and bought the book. I read the first few pages and decided that I was not going to look ahead in the book. I was going to take the dare one day at a time. I am on day 5 and already I have seen a change in myself. I have not hidden this from my wife. I leave the book on the coffee table and read the dare for that day first thing in the morning. I record my thoughts in the on-line journal so that she won't read them. I know that she has not taken up the challenge, at least not yet. But that won't matter, even if she doesn't that's fine, I intend to see this through and change myself for her and our marriage.
Steve
6/5/2009
My husband has been gone for nearly a year. He woke up one day and said he didnt love me and hasnt loved me for many years. He moved out at 4 am one sad Sunday morning. We never fought before this but after this there was never a moments peace. I could just not understand how he could just leave like that, for no reason at all. I had a nervous breakdown and went to hospital for 2 weeks. Then I started seeing a lawyer about divorce. I was about to start proceedings when I felt God was telling me to try once more. I told him if this really was him he would have to shout real loud. Two friends told me to go and get Fireproof the movie. I bought the movie and the book at the same time. I decided to take the dare because it was only 40 days and it could make a difference. It was very hard in the beginning. I battled when I had to buy something - in the end I bought my husband a JEEP jacket and took it to his flat. The kids said he loved it. He sent and sms to say thankyou. I also battled with the dinner on day 18. I decided to send an invitation by sms because then if he said no I was OK because I did what was required. But he said yes. So I went all out and did flower arrangements, had my hair done, put candles in brown paper bags and made his favourtie food. We had a good evening. He brough one of his train models for us to talk about. We went to fetch the kids together from friends houses who looked after them. After that I found all sorts of reasons for him to come home - to help with the kids projects, the help with the garden, just for dinner with the kids and I, to fix the electricity, whatever I could. So we are friends now. He is overseas at the moment on business, so I offered to feed his animals and have borrowed his car because mine is in for repairs. Dont know where this is going, just know the next spot to put my foot. He says he does not love me, but he cares for me. He cant stand to be near me. But I will continue. This weekend I will clean his flat, put flowers in there and do some basic shopping so he has some food in the house when he returns. I am on day 27. Please pray for us.
Megan
6/5/2009
My wife and I have been going through our problems for almost 6 months now. And its has only been since Sunday, when I turned it over to God, that I'm begining to understand what is going on in our marriage. Thanks to God and the love dare, I think I'm headed in the right direction and if it His will my wife will give me the second chance I desperately need. Either way, I know I will be a better person. Let me explain:
Since the 1st day I realized that my wife and I had problems. I began asking her what I had done and what she wanted. The same answer over and over again was " I don't know, I just feel hollow inside. I feel I have nothing left to give you. " I began realizing that I had taken her for granted for most of our 16 years of marriage. She has been a mother to our 2 girls (12 and 10), a mother to me and then my wife. I have been working on that for about 4 months now. I have been doing laundry, helping clean house, picking up the girls when I needed to, bascically pulling my fair share. But things weren't seeming to get any better. In the meantime with the advice of a counselor I read Gary Champmens book " The Five Languages of Love ". Which are Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Quality Time. I just knew that my wife needed Acts of Service to fill her love tank; as it is called in the book. Before I go any farther let me give a little more background information. My wife had told me several times she wanted a tattoo and I did not listen. She got one a little over a year ago. I noticed it, but thought it was a fake one she had worn a couple of times before determining just where she wanted it. Once I found out it was real (a month later) I began to have real security issues. I felt she hadn't been honest with me. I began questioning her every move and became overly jealous and possesive. Fast foward to now, I'm a career fireman of 15 years and thrive on 2 things: trust and the ability to fix things fast: as someone posted in another topic. Which is absolutely the best description I have heard. Trying to fix things fast was a major issue; if things don't seem to be working I'm going to change strategy. I had tried all of the languages except the one she needed, which she couldn't tell me. Which caused even more problems because nothing I seemed to be doing was working. My wife is a very loving and caring person. She would rather make her self miserable trying to keep others happy. Instead of telling the truth or saying anything for the fear of hurting me or someone else. These are issues she will have to deal with for herself.
Here is where I begin to understand. Love dare day 25, love forgives, I was thinking my wife had problems with forgiveness. She has had issues with her past that I thought she needed to forgive. Maybe she does or doesn't, I'm not to sure about that now. However, God spoke to my heart Monday and Tuesday and said you have the same issues. My wife has heard me several times say if someone makes me made enough, I am done with them. I was thinking about someone I needed to forgive and ran into him not 30 min later at the gas station. I haven't seen this guy in more than 3 years. I forgave him in my heart and was able to be polite and coridal to him. Previously, I know I wouldn't have even spoke to him.
Day 26, love is responsible. I took responsiblty for my actions. I asked my wife for forgiveness. I had been trying to blame her for things not working. Her unwillingness to work on our marriage. The way that I was raised. Her tattoo causing my insecurities and several more.
And now the love language, I'm a fireman and work 24 hrs on and 48 off. I don't get home in time to see her before she leaves for work the next day. It isn't a time issue, I can and will from this day forward. And when she gets home from work we would we eat supper and I would go watch tv in one room and her another, because we don't like the same shows. You multiple bascically those 2 days over 15 years and that's almost 10 years of our marriage that I have not been at home. That is not counting the times I was out of town on hunting trips, sporting events with my friends, classes for the fire department, or just hanging out with the guys. What I think my wife is missing is Quality Time. I on the other need Physical Touch, along as I had an intimate relationship with my wife I thought everthing was peaches and cream. With her lacking the ablity to tell me any different for the fear of hurting me or making me mad she has caused herself to feel hollow and used. She has said she has given all she has to give; which is VERY much understandable. I'm still not sure if this is all of the problem. But, I can't help but to think that this has to be a major part the problem.
Steven
6/4/2009
hI My name is Tracy I watched Fireproof at one our church summit which my husband was also with,We are running our own ministry in Cape town the Movie really open our lives up so that we can see our down faults in our marriage.We are running our own marriage covenant we statred in may 2009 the same week we got calls from couples that attended the covenant and asking when can we have another one we are planning once a month to have a covenant marriages change after they watched the movie.Thank you very much for sowing into our lives so that we can so into others God bless your ministry.
Tracy
6/4/2009
Well it's been 40 days since my wife told me she did not love me. She also told me she was moving out. I had allready seen the movie about a month before so I asked my wife to give me 40 days before she moved out. I bought the book and started doing the dare. It's 40 days later, I've done most of the dares that I can by myself. My wife does not want to be included in this. But i carried on as best I can. Over the last 40 days she has told me three times she is leaving me. Today she is still living in our house, and sleeping in our bed. I thank the lord every morning when I wake up and see her there. Today is the first time in a long time where she came to my work and spent the lunch hour with me. She continues to tell me daily that she does not love me, but I continue to tell her it does not matter I still love her. No matter what. The dare has opened my eyes to a lot of things and I know I have gotten closer to god. I have no idea where the lord is taking us as a couple but I am so glad that I did not give up halfway thru the book. There was a few times I almost did. I really believe the book has helped me and time will only tell if it helps my wife. I believe it is because of the lord why she came and had lunch with me today and I am so thankful for what the lord has done in my life. Thanks for all the prayers for me out there as I have left a couple of messages when the times have been tought.
R
6/4/2009
alex and i have been married threes years and a few months.when we first got married everything was great we were the happiest couple there was. well he went on deployment and and when he got back everything change. nothing was the same. nothin is the same now. we fight all the time. i tell him he drinks to much and he tells me i comlain to much. we fight about money and about who does things around the house and who don't. everyday we have a fight. and i have tried to tell him how i feel and open up but i just can't get through to him. he don't eve tell me his feelings. the only thing he tells me is when i tell him to stopp drinking so much i sound like his mother. we have seen the movie fireproof and i for one love it. after that movie i wanted to jump up right then and there and change my marriage.and i have tried over and over again to change things i do or the way i say things. but my husband has gave me no effort what so ever. i work every day nine hours a day 6 days a week and everyday i come home but i don't get to relax because there is always so much to do.and if i dont do it does not get done.i love my husband with all my heart, but he is not the man i married and i'm not the woman he married. i am afraid that we have changed for the worst. we have seperated twice already but not because i wanted to just because he said he was not ready to settle down. 2 years into the marriage. i was hoping someone could give advice but no one seems to be able to. i have nightmares everynight about my husband leaving me or being with another woman. and i know it should not be that way. and another thing thats bothers me is that we are so far in dept that we are swimming in it but yet we are so young. he's 22 i'm 21. and we fight alot because i get mad at him for drinkin so much and he gets mad at me for me being mad at him. i have tried to change him but then i relized i need to change myself before i change anyone else. i want my marriage to work and i will go to any extent to make it happen.
6/1/2009
Okay... I haven't actually started my 40 day (and then some) journey yet.... I have the book, I'm just waiting on my fiancee to return from his two week adventure with the Army Reserves. This gives me time to plan my days around taking the challenge. The relationship between my fiancee and I is one that some people can only dream of. We don't fight or argue much, there's nothing I hate about him, just minor issues that plague us. For him, I'm taking this challenge to AFFIRM our love and commitment. We will be getting married on July 25th of this year, and I believe this dare will only make that day more special.
I also am taking this dare for my daughter. I figure if I change a few things up a bit, it will help with her too. It can't hurt. She has lived with my mom for 10 years, recently my mother 'dumped' her back off to me. I love my daughter and won't turn her away.... However... the mother/daughter relationship is so strained, hurtful... it's just missing. She has so much hate and anger inside and I've tried so many things to fix that. This is my last idea.... if it can help couples stay together and become closer.... it can help my daughter and I.
Wish me luck as I double my 40 day journey.
Aimee
6/1/2009
Freddie and I have been married for almost 3yrs now (14 July), but for the last year we have had more downs than ups. Financialy we were going under and i lost my job. Things were just getting to tough on me, because I had to do everything in the house and if something was out of place i was to blame. About two months ago i spoke to one of my friends and she told me to take out the movie Fireproof, I told her that i have had enough off my husbands verbal abuse and towards our two children (which isn't his - but he accepted them as his own). I was as down as could be and didnt really want to divorce him but couldnt stay in such a relationship. There was no communication between me and Freddie and if there was it always ended up in yelling and swearing. Then if i give him the silent treatment he would knock holes in the doors. He would never lift a finger towards me. So we took out the movie and that Saturday 2 May 2009 evening - Just Freddie and me my kids slept out - we watched Fireproof. The movie was an eye opener and so much what happened in the movie was happening in our marraige. We spoke till late that evening and we watched the movie again this weekend. We always thought that we were Christians but one never realise that you do sin and no one is God to tell you what to do. I thank Him for sending my friend along the way to tell us to watch this movie. For the past month we have gone to church every Sunday and my children and me arent scared to go home any more. My husband has gone into therapy for his anger problem and we both are going for marraige counselling.
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