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6/1/2009
Myself and my wife have been married for a number of years now and although I love my wife with all my heart, I haven't been making her feel special or appreciated for quite a while now and I believe the love that she had for me has all but gone. We are having quite a rough time right now all because of my insecurities, which I have gotten over but it's a case of to little to late. I saw this love dare or 40 day plan and thought it a good idea. I have the film but don't want to push things to far just yet with my wife. She has told me she doesn't want to leave me and I wholeheartedly believe her. I just have alot of repair work ahead of me, hopefully god and this book (when it arrives) will help me on the path. All I want is to make my wife happy again. I stopped doing things with my wife like going out, going to church etc, recently I have started doing these things with my wife and realised what I was missing out on, I had almost segregated myself from my wife, to the point where I was lonely. Things started getting better where by I was trying to be more attentive, but I think I may have tried to hard which made her feel "closed in". I have seen the errors of my way and saw today as day 1, "Love is patient".
5/31/2009
I have just watched the movie FIREPROOF and I am utterly humbled. My husband and I have been married 4 years now and have gone through a great deal in the 4 years. I don't know where to begin but I do know that we need to fireproof our marriage. We seperated last year due to some issues that were out of hand. I did not want to be miserable and married. I could have stayed single and done that. Over the last year we have slowly found our way back to each other through God's grace and mercy. There is so much hurt and damaged due to trust issues and the like. I am unsure and scared. I do know one thing is that I am committed to the vows I made and that I know that God takes those seriously. I love my husband and can't imagine being with anyone else but I am praying that God shows me his will and that I am submissive to his will whatever the outcome may be. My husband is lost and does not know what kind of man he is. He feels like giving up on himself and sometimes our marriage. He feels like giving up on God. He watched the movie with me tonight and was completely moved to tears. I have not seen him that way in a long time. I know God wants our marriage to work and I know that he takes vows very seriously so I committ to God and his will in my marriage and life my husband.
Colleen
5/30/2009
Yesterday was Day 75 and our 5th anniversary. My husband went out of town on a trip he'd planned months ago. The enemy told me that I should be sad, angry, that there was nothing to celebrate. Thanks be to God that he has taught me to recognize the LIES of the enemy.
I celebrated in my heart. I remembered how anxious I was 5 years ago to get to that altar to marry him and was reminded that I must still have that same zeal today. I praised God that although we are going through this storm, he's still hasn't left home. No matter how much he says that he wants to "move on", he hasn't. Everyday when he leaves for work, he hugs me and tells us to have a good day, not with the same passion as before but he won't leave the house without doing it. (see God at work?)He hugs and kisses our children now more than ever. All God's handiwork, just to remind me that he hears my cries. My perspective has changed, my heart renewed and my life changed forever.
I AM A STANDER. I am standing for my marriage. I am standing for my family. I am standing in the gap for my husband who is wrestling with sin. If I don't then who will? The enemy has no control over anything. God allows him to shake things up to get our attention and cry to him for help. I cried and God answered and is still answering. I find God in every situation...especially the dark ones.
So to all you reading this wondering if this "Love Dare thing" really works...YES it does, but not how you think. It's not some quick fix for problems that have taken years to fester but it is a start on journey to help you fall in love with your one TRUE LOVE, GOD. When you dare to love him and trust him completely, accept his will and stop trying to force your spouse to change, you'll see a miraculous chnge happen in YOU. Then God can use you to work a change in your spouse. Don't expect the Hollywood ending. Expect the "HOLY-wood" ending. Don't be fooled by the enemy's lies...look for God in every situation. Commit to each day. Pray for strength for one day at a time...one hour...one minute if necessary. To God be the Glory for all the things he has done! Be encouraged saints! I am praying for you.
Loving God and my husband more each day,
Mygavin mommi
5/30/2009
My husband and I have been married for going on 4 years in July. I met James through his high school sweetheart (I know funny place to meet your spouse huh). He was handsome, funny, charming, everything I could ever want in a spouse. Well I was 19 and he was 29. (yes there is an age difference). Anyhow, We hit it off right from the start. I found myself visiting him at work, then going to his house to visit,then we moved in together. Things were going good and we were doing everything a young married couple should do. Paying bills, being faithful to one another or I was at least. Only one problem we were actually living in sin. We were not at that time CHRISTIANS. We swore, drank, I smoked untill but one day my whole world came crashing down around me. After a year of living together an ex-girlfriend of his came back with horns and changed my life forever. She accused my now husband of a very henios crime and he went to prison. I tried to stay faithful but temptation set in and we split up. However, in 2003 with the help of Jesus Christ we found our way back to each other. It just felt right. We continued the visitation in prison for about a year in half when we finally decided we wanted to be together forever. In July of 2005 we were married in an Indiana prison and I decided at that time things had to change for us. We really tried to make our strange and often difficult relationship work. I would write letters only to get a bunch of negativitey back. I got the blame for him being were he was. Our relationship was alot like Caleb's and Catherine's due to the fact we obviouslly had no time to spend together, but that our worlds seemed to be pulling us in different directions. I quit writing and he got more negative. I had thought about giving up untill one day I while I was on a visit he told me about the movie "FIREPROOF" and that he had actually cried. NOw people, I want you all to know my husband dosen't cry so for him to cry at a movie, I knew I had to watch it. Im ever so glad I did. It made me understand things about marriage better. Im trying really hard to be the supportive understanding wife that he needs. Im not trying be however, a nagging inconsiderate person. This Love Dare has really opened my eyes in the fact that I no longer take things for granted. Thank you for taking time to read a short version of my story. I hope to make a lot of new friends on here. my email is christina_rickey2006@yahoo.com. Looking forward to talking to alot of you in the near future. For all of those couples out there who are hanging on by a thread. Hang in there!! With alot of prayer and the help of this book. Your relationship CAN BE saved.
Christina
5/28/2009
Chris and I have been married for 5 yrs and have been together for 9 yrs. It has had it's ups and downs. On May 4 I told him to leave our home because I caught him chatting to another girl on the internet. Since this has been a problem for most of our marriage I felt I could not take being second to other women. This movie is a true blessing. I ordered the movie and had it sent to his mother's house and he watched it and told me that he never stopped loving me but he needs to find himself and God. He does not want to move back to florida but wants to get his own apartment. He has told me that he has watched the movie 4 times. I will definately order the book for him and myself so that we can bring our marriage back to what God has ordained it to be. I ask for your prayers and I am also praying for your marriages. God bless you.
Melissa
Melissa
5/25/2009
Wayne and I were married for almost a year. We have a 2 year old daughter. He walked out with his daughter 9 months ago. He immediately started with divorce procedings.He also was suing me for custody of our daughter. Through a bitter divorce and custody battle I saw the dvd fireproof. I said to God there is NO way i am going to do this. No Way. My husband and I had spent so much timje fighting in front of attourneys and the family advocate. It was about 2 weeks before the divorce was to go through and also 2 weeks before our 1 year anniversary...I bought the book...love dare and started doing it. Because we were not talking...i did it through text messages. It was so scarey and in another way so funny. We hated each other so much. There was so much hatred and bitterness. God performed a miracle and 3 days later we watched the dvd together. We have called off the divorce and we celebrated our 1 year anniversary. My husband has moved back and i have my daughter back. We continue each day with the love dare book. Where would i be without that book and the way God has moved through the dare's each day. Thank you to everyone connected to the book and thank you to my Saviour who is the ultimate forgiver and restorer.
lisa-karmine
5/24/2009
I was visiting my mother this weekend and going through her movies. I found "Fireproof" and she said I should watch it. We sat down and started watching it, and I started seeing reflections of my own relationship. My fiance and I met over 3 years ago and became friends. He deployed to Iraq then I also deployed to Iraq. We kept in touch and stayed friends. When I got back from Iraq last October, we went on a date and have been inseperable since. We both believe that God had a plan for us and that is why we are together now! We recently got engaged and he is currently in training and about to go to Iraq again. We have started pre-marital counseling, and I believe that this movie and the Love Dare could only help us more as we begin our lives together. We won't be getting married until after he comes back from Iraq, but I believe even though he will be a billion miles away from me, God will help us work through this deployment. He has yet to see this movie, but I know he will watch it with me and he would do anything to help our relationship also. I can't wait until he gets back from training to share this wonderful thing with him!
5/21/2009
Hi my name is Amanda me and my husband nate will be married for 2 years in september and have an 8 month old! we have had our ups and downs and it has been hard. He has cheated on me and lied to me. and our marriage has been rocky from the beginning. We are doing the love dare together.. And it is definitly helping!! we aren't very far. But we are taking it slow trying to remember everything and trying to stay calm. Its hard at times. But we are doing well and hoping to get better!
amanda
5/21/2009
I started the love dare today. My boyfriend of four years decided to break things off with me on Monday and I have been so upset, lost, and pretty much just miserable. I tried talking to him about working on our relationship but he seems to think it should be over. I don't want to lose the one man I fell in love with. He is so right for me. I have never loved until I met him. So, today is Day One, Love is Patient. Since we don't live together I can't be around him all day to demonstrate patience, but I did call him and I told him how wonderful a person he is and that I love him. I think he might have been confused as to why I called to say this but I made sure he understood and I just told him this was part of something I had to do and not to shut me out of his life completely. I'm not sure how much or if he even misses me, but I definitely felt so much better after making that phone call this morning. I haven't been able to eat, sleep, or think straight since Monday. A little relief has come over me since I talked to him, even thought it was a short conversation. I can't wait for Day 2. I hope that I can continue this journey and learn to be a better person and make the man I have loved for four years realize we cannot be apart. Please pray for me as I follow this challenge.
Alyssa
5/21/2009
Brad and I (Alice) have been married for 18 years. Mostly, we have had a very good marriage. He is a great father to our two sons and a very loyal husband. We saw the movie, Fireproof, with our church. Brad thought it was the best movie he had ever seen and was very willing to get the Love Day book. Honestly, we have had so much fun as we have each gone through the book on our own. We are not always consistent each day and we are not in the same place in the book. Because of that, I never know what Brad is going to do to surprise me and he doesn't know what I have been reading and will do for him. When he called from work to ask what he could buy on his way home, I giggled and remembered doing the same thing a few days earlier. But I was thankful to have an errand done and he was happy that he could help me. I surprised him with his favorite meal (more expensive than we would usually do) and he has brought flowers to me. I can see that even the smallest reminders such as how we great each other when he comes home from work, have made us appreciate each other even more. It feels great to make each other happy. This movie and book are not only for couples who are struggling, but also for those of us who are content with our spouse, but want to do our very best to have fun and live HAPPILY together for life! Thank you for all the encouragement and great ideas for a true "love life". I feel like we are more "in love" now than just "committed".
Alice
Alice
5/21/2009
Hi, my name is Lorelle.I am a divorcee with 5 kids,currently in a 8yrs relationship with a wonderful man who is also divorce. I was brought to tears when i watched the movie. It was as though i had moved back in time.You see i had married at 18yrs and being naive the marriage went from bad to worse.It was not until recent that i have come to know the LORD JESUS CHRIST and have realised that HE has given me a second chance at happiness. After watching the movie i was so excited to tell my partner about it who by the way has been working in S.America for the past year.I promise to use the movie as a tool of guidance in this relationship and not make the same mistakes as before. I am prepared to take up the 40day love dare challenge. I CANNOT WAIT FOR HIM TO GET TO WATCH THIS INSPIRATIONAL MOVIE.
I will take it one day at a time.and know that as long as WE have God in our midst the enemy will NOT prevail.
LORELLE
5/20/2009
Hello - My name is Heather and my Husband Matt is in the Navy - Seabees now serving in Iraq. We have been married for 5 years as of May 2009. Two beautiful little girls Alexis and HannahBell. We grew up in steady Christian homes and went to Calvary Chapel Caldwell and Middleton, Idaho. We have always taken considerate action to treat one another with respect, trust and love. We both have very strong relationships with our God and Savior. As a Navy Wife for 5 years, I don't always have Matt to rely on but my God is always there! We've had some speed bumps along with 4 deployments but we love each other with all our hearts. The Power of Prayer is a wonderful thing. God Bless you and DON'T Ever Give UP! Heather
Heather
5/20/2009
I have just wrapped up the 40 days. Through the journey I learned so much about myself and absolutely enjoyed the peace that has been in my heart knowing that the anger that I felt for so long is gone and that is through the grace of God. My husband and I have been separated since October of 2008 so it has been difficult to do some of the dares but I did the best that I was able to do. Until May 3rd I hadn't been wearing my wedding ring but since that day I have been. On May 1, 2009 my husband ended up in the Emergency room and ended up having Gall Bladder surgery the following week. That made me realize just the love I have for the man which I have had all along but with that everything else hit home. The surgery that was to only take a couple of hours took 4 hours. One of the longest days of my life. They ended up running into complications. I was able to help him as much as I could with us not living together, he wasn't able to come back to the house which I didn't really like but he needed to watch and care for his children. I did all that I was able to do for him and I enjoyed every single minute. I don't know where God's path is going to lead us because my husband is fighting this but no matter what happens in the plan I know that he is my husband and always will in my heart no matter what. There are so many worldly forces that are getting in the way. It is out of my hands and it is in God's. I have and will never have any regrets especially doing the 40 Day Dare. It taught me so much. It brought me back to God's love so that is the best thing that happened through doing this.
5/20/2009
I just watched this movie today. It was suggested by a complete stranger. I decided since I couldn't sleep, I would watch it. I think this movie was a perfect glimpse into my mess of a marriage. I had to really look at what I have done to the woman I truely love. Unfortunately, she decided two weeks ago she had had enough. I have been devistated since. I made a decision to turn my life over to the care of God and accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and savior. I pray everyday I will have the chance to make up for the horrible way I have treated her for the last 7 years. I am going to take the love Dare and pray.
Joe
5/17/2009
HELLO MY NAME IS AMANDA. IT WILL BE FOUR YEARS DECEMBER 2009 THAT MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED. WE HAVE TO SONS A FOUR YEAR OLD AND A 2 YEAR OLD. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE HAD SERIOUS PROBLEMS FROM THE VERY BEGINNING. YOU SEE I WAS SAVED DOING MY BEST TO LIVE FOR CHRIST AND MY HUSBAND WAS AND STILL IS NOT.WE HAVE ALSO SEPARATED TWICE,BUT THAT WAS IN THE BEGINNING OF OUR MARRIAGE. IT SEEMS LIKE THE CLOSER I GET TO GOD THE FURTHER APART MY HUSBAND AND I BECOME. I KNOW THAT THIS IS A TRICK OF THE ENEMY,BUT I MUST BE HONEST AND SAY I WAS READY TO SAY THREE STRIKES I AM OUT. MY HUSBAND HAS NO RESPECT FOR ME, HE CURSES ME OUT,CALLS ME OUT OF MY NAME AND HE EVEN USED TO PHYSICALLY ABUSE ME,BUT WORST OF ALL HE IS A HORRIBLE FATHER.ONE MAY ASKED WHY WOULD YOU WANT THIS MAN. SEE WHEN I MARRIED I MARRIED FOR LIFE AND SLOWLY BUT SURELY I HAVE SEEN IMPROVEMENTS IN OUR MARRIAGE. AFTER WATCHING FIREPROOF TOGETHER WE BOTH WERE CONVICTED. WE HAVE ORDERED THE LOVE DARE. I KNOW IN MY HEART THAT ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. I JUST WANT TO ENCOURAGE ALL MARRIED COUPLES TO BE STRONG TRUST IN GOD AND DONT GIVE UP. PRAY FOR ME AND I WILL SURELY PRAY FOR YOU
AMANDA (NOT GIVING UP)
AMANDA
5/15/2009
Hi, my name is Stacee. I have been married for 13yrs. My husband brought me to the Lord and was first baptised on my 25th birthday with him. We were rebourn on the same day at the same time. My husband is my second and it was God that brought us together. We have been seperated before. Our daughter was 18months old and he left for his duty station in Japan. I stayed behind in the states for what I thought was a good reason at the time, but now I see that was a huge mistake because that is where our marriage to a hugh turn downward. After 8yrs of fighting to keep it together he moved out in Feb. 2009. I had been starting back to church and praying. Our pastor challenged us to pray, fast, read scripture, faithfully tithe, or what ever God was telling us to do. I took him up on that and I was going to give $40 x 40 days, pray for 40 people daily, and rest. I have 8 children in my home now and days can be long and nights short, this made me very irritable and hard to live with. As I started this my husband became more and more unsetteled and would not talk to me only argue. I had a minor surgery on the 14 of Jan. I then became very ill and was in bed or 2 weeks, in the ER twice, and then on the 26th he did not come home and when he did on the 27th moved out. Since then I have been through many more trials that would make even the toughest christian discouraged. I have been in church weekly, paying my tithes faithfully and praying for my family and husband without fail. He comes around to see our children sparaticly at best and they are both struggling with daddy's decision not to come home. A couple of weeks ago I bought the movie "Fireproof". I came home and immediatly watched it. When the movie started, it was me and my husband to a "T". Then in the movie the roles switched a couple of times, she was my husband and I was him, and then back again. When the movie was over. I went right back to the store and bought the Love Dare book and started it right away. I am only on day 5 because it is really tough to do some of the things while we are separated. So I have to wait on God to present a situation for that the day will be completed. But, I am determined and we have an AWESOME GOD that will work according to his word. As I read the other stories on this page I was compelled to share mine. I will pray for all marriages in this country, because we can and will defeated the Devil that is trying to kill, steal, and distroy this sacred union God has given us. I have also purchased extra copies of the movie and book to bless other couple I know that are struggling right now. May God be with us all and touch all of our spouses that they not only return to us, but to come home to our Father in heaven. God bless and keep the faith.
Stacee
Stacee
5/14/2009
I am a Marine, serving in Iraq. Just watched the movie on my own time and was very touched. My wife and I just hit our 4th year of marriage, but unfortunately were not able to celebrate it together. We have a very strong and powerful relationship and watching this movie really made me take a minute to stop and reflect... and it felt great. I may have shed the unusual tear.... no witnesses. I love my wife so much! And can not wait to get back to her. I miss the things we do together and I appreciate every chance we get together. I am not a very religious type, nor is she, but I believe in the vows as a covenant, the rings as a circle of trust, and the one code I have learned in the Marines that I forever commit to her, Semper Fidelis.
5/14/2009
Hi, i'm patience, married to Joshua, 2 children 2yr boy phillip and 4yr old girl gail. we live in Uganda, Eastafrica. Serve as pastors and administrators at a childcare programme of the watoto church(824 children, 56 trs, 114 mothers)
when I watched the movie, I was greatly inspired in various ways but the one lesson I learnt was that unconditional love is the way to go and the only one that can avail this is Jesus chris t 'coz he is the only one who has been there done that. Besides he is our creator, has a purpose and plan for our lives including our married lives but this calls for total surrender and great Faith in the Lord God Almighty.
The main church has about 3000 married couples so while at a pastors' wives meeting I shared about the movie and if all goes well we will be watching it in August or earlier after our family week so we are hoping to get the follow up material to the movie probably the love dare book and curriculum to help us in the marrieds cells.
Thanks its been a great blessing
patience
5/14/2009
RK
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I love this man some wonder why we were together for 4 years hes an alcholic and when he would drink to much he would become abusive he never hit me he shoved called me bad names but I know he is a good man he was a youth pastor at one time and I know that the Lord is dealing with him. I left him and moved to another state for 5 months I felt that the Lord wanted me to do so I learned alot during that journey. Now I'm back home and we have been talking he says that he was crazy in love with me but his feelings have changed hes very guarded he says he will always have a love for me and that hes praying that the love he had before will return and so am I so he wants to take it slow I know that the Lord can and will heal and restore and I'm trusting God to do so so please pray for him and us hes a good man who has made wrong choices and been broken but God will bind up the brokenhearted
Gyla
5/14/2009
So much to say, I found out my husband was talking on the phone with someone he works with and say he never had sex with her. and she told me the same thing. He says he doesn't love her. We started to go to marriage conseling and the a terrible thing happend. He favorite brother was killed in a motorcycle accident in oct. since then he was not been dealing with anything he needs to. stopped going to the marriage conselor and just recently told me that he has not loved me for the past ten (10) years!! shocking because i love this man and thought we were in love. We have a young teenage boy that we would do anything for. Even if i means staying together for his sake. we sleep in separate bedrooms since i found out about the other woman. He has stopped loving me completely. But i haven't given up on him. I pray for him everyday. This is my third day and its very hard and sad, when i think about what he has said to me about the not loving me for so long. By the way, its been almost a year now i have been dealing with this. saturday is our 22nd wedding anniversary. I am not planning anything.. i am afraid of more disappointments. I keep praying for us and for him to find some kind of comfort in the passing of his brother and our marriage.. please can someone please pray for me and my husband..
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