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4/13/2009
I just want to thank everyone who had a part in Fireproof.I have been in a relationshipe for 6 years.About 3 weeks ago I got saved,along with my 2 sons.The man I am with always said he would never marry again.Well I knew I could not serve God fully by staying in a realtionship that was going no where.So I prayed and prayed.well oour church started this class based on the fireproof books and we are using them.on the third day of the book,My guy proposed to me in the ministers office.That is Gods doing.Because I told God I would leave him to make God happy,and I put it in his hands.And He blessed me wonderfully.My Fiance is a changed person thanks to God.I owe my whole life to God but want to thank the ones He inspired to put out the movie and books.May God bless you all!
4/13/2009
My husband and I have been married for five years and have two little girls. It's had it's ups and down and over the last year there has been a lot more yelling and less time for just the two of us. We watch Fireproof last Monday night and it was great. It was like something click and at the point I made my mind up that I was going to do the Love Dare on my husband. And the funny thing is that he was thinking that same thing. We have been working on day one because we knew what it was, till our books got here. The books got in today so I will be starting day two tomorrow. I can see it's going to be a big changes in my life. I have seen big change in the whole family. My kids are a lot happier and are listing better to us both. I think that everyone should watch Fireproof and do the book on top of it.
Amber
4/11/2009
if I starting telling you my story I wouldnt have enough room. We have been married for 11 years and we Have 5 children between the two of us. I find myself here because I think we are at the end of our ropes and I dont know what I can do to bring us back but before I give up or in I will do all that I can do in my humanly flesh that I can do to save my marriage. I want to take this challange and I will, please pray for us that what ever the outcome is that GOD gets the glory and that we find out some things about ourselves and each other that will help us. I want us each to be so close to GOD that we have to seek GOD to get close to one another. Love you all that had the courage to take this challange before me with me and behind me.I pray that the ultimate goal for us all is to get closer to God so that our lives will so shine that people( our spouses) will see the light in us. Thank you and I love you all.
Mrs. "T"
4/10/2009
My husband and I have been married now for 4 1/2 years. We have been together for 7 1/2 yrs. We have been on again off again for almost a yr now. We have 2 beautiful kids together. Right now we are going through more than i ever dreamed possible. Every time we get back together we end up apart once again. I have always believed in God but never truely the way were meant. Within this last time we seperated i just realized i can not do this on my own. I need to be right with God. He is the way for everything. I struggle with this everyday with people unknowingly trying to pull me back, but this time i pray for the strength to remain true. Even though our marriage has more problems than most, I still love my husband more than i ever have. Fireproof helped us once but we never followed through with the church part or being the christian people we were suppose to be. So of course we fell once again. And now im praying more than ever to be the person im meant to be. we dont go to church together. But i take our kids for us to go. i pray we will one day start going as a family and be the family God wants us to be. Neither one of us are perfect, only with God can we make it. I am going to keep walking the path God is leading me on. I cannot afford to get the Love Dave book at the moment. I am not willing to give up on our marriage, our life, and our family!!! Will everyone please keep us in your prayers?!!
brittney
4/10/2009
Friday, April 10, 2009. I have finished my Love Dare in a unique way. For two plus years, my loving wife and I, continue to be seperated by households- without contact- for an undetermined period, after restoration/reconcilation attempts;and, Pastoral counseling, came to a halt. I did this Dare without her presence, but speaking and doing each days challenges, as if she were there, to hear and experience it. I did the first half, and gave her the book-for encouragement, then we abruptly seperated. I prayed on the matter, and God's answer was : "Finish the Dare, you are not yet whom I want you to be." I picked up a second book, and continued from day (23-40). Throughout this Dare, I have always remembered, that this was about me changing, and drawing closer to God. One day, she will get this second half-and follow my journey toward a more Godly, christian walk. I have given it to my Pastor for safe keeping, until she seeks him out. This is some of what I've come to believe: I believe in God's promises, for He never lies. "I would have despaired, unless I had believed, that I would see the promises of the Lord, in the land of the living..." "I know the plans I have for you, they are for good and not disaster, to give you a HOPE and a FUTURE.""God has given us both His promise and His oath...we can hold on to his promise with steadfast confidence and assurance, like and anchor for our soul""Just as He promised, not one word has ever failed, of all His wonderful promises...""Keep on asking...keep on looking...keep on knocking, and the door will be open to you.""God blesses those wo patiently endure His testing.""Think about all he endured when sinful people did such terrible things to Him, SO THAT YOU DON'T BECOME WEARY AND GIVE UP""The wife God gives you, is your reward for all your earthly toil.""And we KNOW that God causes everything to work together for good...""Trust in the Lord with all your heart,do not depend on your own understanding...He will direct your path.""Be still and know that I am God." I know that fear, grows in the soil of doubt; and, is a direct result of taking my eyes off of God. Jesus, you have me right where you want me! My marriage is in Your hands-now. I ask, in Your Name, that You protect my family until YOUR time of restoration occurs. With tears on my face, and a longing in my heart.
Gary Vidovich
Springdale, Pennsylvania
Gary
4/9/2009
We are coming up on our 5th anniversary this May and have 2 beautiful boys ages 2 and 9 months. I have taken a year off work to be a stay-home- mom fufilling God's and my desire for my life. I never knew why God wanted me to be at home this long. Then it hit me like a mac truck. On March 13th, my husband told me that he feels like he is just going through the motins and has "moved on". Tears filled my eyes as he told me that the only reason he hasn't left was because we needed him financially. The next day after I watched him drive away with a woman who I now know is his "girlfriend" I thought my whole world was falling down around me. I watched the movie that day and knew that I had to do something to save our marriage.
Just like the wife in the movie, my husband is totally against the idea of any type of reconcilliaton. I am saved but I admit that being a working wife and mother had consumed my life and I no longer studied God's word and sought after him for guidance unless I was praying for something selfish. I bought the book the next day and started the dares. He resisted every advance and is still doing everything he can to shut me out of his life. Spending as much time as he can away from home and when he is at home I can only get his attention for a minute or two at a time.
I began to pray. I asked God for a sigh that there was still hope. He showed me that my husband is avoiding me. He still loves me but doesn't want to be around me because he is ashamed of himself. He is lost and confused. The woamn he's seeing is married too and she havs expressed her "love" for him. I know this man very well. God showed me that he feels trapped between what should be and what shouldn't. He doesn't want to hurt her anymore than what she's going through and it's easier to believe her promises for a great future together since they don't have a history like we do. He is focusing on the ways I have hurt him (non intentionally and most I was totally unaware of).
When I began the love dare, I thought it was about me and my husband and in some ways it is. Most importantly it is a dare to love God and take him at his word! All the areas in my relationship with my husband that I felt were missing, God has shown me that those were the same areas in my relationship with him that were missing. I now know wht I needed to stay home from work. To rekindle my love affair with the Lord. Something I would not have been able to focus on at work.
I am on Day 25. I have been experiencing a powerful move in my life and thank God for it. We talk frequently throughout the day about my fears and insecurities and he is constantly revealing new things to me. I wake every morning desiring to be with him. My husband and I are "functioning". But thanks be to God a breakthrough is on it's way. I don't know when or where but I am praising God everyday for my husband, his girlfriend, and this trial that has come to make me stronger. My praise is so high now that I might just explode when my husband sees God working in my life and humbles himself before the Lord. See God has shown me that THAT is why we're going through this.
I once told him that the one thing I could never forgive and would never tolerate wa infidelity. God has humbles me so on that. For better or for worse does not come with a disclaimer! I tell him I love him everyday "more today than I did yesterday" as he replies..."sure you do now or do you really?" I trust you Lord! God knew that I would come to him to pray for my husband and through this we'd both be redeemed.
So when I get discouraged I think on this, pray, cry, pour out my praises to God dry my face and keep going. So to all that have read this...be encouraged. The race is not given to the swift but to those who endure to the end. Lesson/dare#1...Love is patient. I am patiently waiting not on my husband but on God! In Jesus' name, AMEN!
4/9/2009
After watching this movie I started to think about how much our lives were reflected in this movie. Several years ago my husband then of 3 yrs was talking to women online and he did not realize that I knew about it. I held my tongue and poured my heart into my marriage. This is both of our 2nd marriages. I said to myself that i forgave him but I still wondered if he was talking to these women. I have given it over to God and have now truly forgiven him. I am on Day 4 of the Love Dare and I am hoping that we can make it through for our 3 kids.
4/8/2009
Well, I guess I am a little behind because I just finished watching the movie as I write this. My husband and I have been marriage for 5 years. We have four wonderful children the oldest two are from previous relationships of ours, the oldest girl is my daughter and the oldest boy is his son but we have twins together. I love my husband dearly however the intimacy is not strong on my end; it not anything that he has done and he tries. However, I have become so overwhelmed with school, work, and home that I do not have much time for me or us. I praying that as I take this 40 day Love Dare that God will open my heart to first accept myself as I am and then allow Him to flow through me and create a love that becomes "fireproof".
Markette
4/8/2009
My wife and I have been married for 12 and in 1 month it will be 13. On March 20, following the usual Friday evening Sabbath call by my mother-in-law, I found out that my wife had been contemplating moving out of our home and into a place of her own. She has been unhappy for quite sometime and decided that she needed to be on her own to see if she wanted to remain in the marriage. Of course, I knew we had issues but I was not truly keen to how hurt and sad she was really feeling. While I was devasted to hear this, I encouraged her to do so if it meant the possible saving of our marriage.
Yesterday I finally confided in a friend that we were separated. He encouraged me to watch the movie and to try to get her to watch it as well. I watch the movie lastnight and was very moved. The story line mirrored our lives almost exactly. We have no kids, one of us is in the medical field and have for the most part, the same primary issues. I thought that I was being a good husband. I now know that my wife has been lonely and truly needed me to re-affirm to her my love for her and that she was still beautiful. I took so much for granted and over time stop saying and doing a lot of the little things that are so important. I don't know if our relationship is salvageable but, I do know that I am going to give it my all and with God's help hopefully succeed.
Gary
4/7/2009
Today, is my first day. I thought I had the "perfect" marriage. We have been married for 5 years. We did not argue, yell, etc, so I thought everything was going good. During the years, we have drifted apart with our emotional connection. We BOTH have noticed that we talked, but we wasnt communicating. Our days consisted of a "daily routine" of "Hi and Bye" but no real communication. Recently, we have been tormented with things in our marriage that would make the average couple divorce....BUT we are not going to get a divorce and I have decided to take the 40 Day Love Dare.
Kareem
4/7/2009
All I can say is "Wow". What a great movie and so inspiring to my husband and I. My niece and nephew are both Christians. We grew up in the Catholic church and was impressed by the universal message of marriage. We have been married for 5 years and need a real change. We have love but we need to rebuild our foundation. We have some soul searching to do, so I have purchase the Love Dare. Will keep all posted! God Bless.
Barbara
4/7/2009
I would like to reply to Dawn's story. Dawn, I just want you to know that God is hearing your prayers. He brought this movie to you, and that is just the beginning of what he is going to do for you and your family. I know that it is often hard to do but what we as humans need to do is just STAND STILL and God will do the rest. We have to remember that God works on God's time.....not ours. I will be praying for you and your family. Love, A sister in Christ
Kristen
4/7/2009
This is Day 1 for me. I decided to try the Love Dare to help myself and my marriage. Me and my husband have been married for 5 years, and last month I found out that he had been having an affair. This was devastating, but I am determined not to let it ruin my marriage. In my heart I know that he loves me, he made a mistake and is very remorseful about it. I know that the affair wasnt my fault, but I am a big part of what pushed him to look for someone else to confide in. We drifted apart and when he tried to fix things I wasnt ready, then when I was ready he wasnt in the right place. Now I think we are both in the right place, we just have alot of tough issues to work through, and alot of things to prove to each other. After seeing this movie a few months ago, I was determined, but just like him, in the first of the movie, I was easily discouraged. I bought the book and tried for a few days and then gave up. There's no giving up this time. I love my husband and I am going to fix my marriage. I havent told my husband that I am doing this, I dont want to push him, I want him in due time to want to do this for our marriage, not b/c I ask him to. Please pray for us.
Amber
Amber
4/6/2009
I have been a firefighter for 29 yrs. yesterday I watched the movie fireproof and relized that the movie was about my life. My marriage has be declining for the past 10 yrs. I guess it took this movie for me to see just what I have been doing to my beautiful wife. I now will do all I can with the help of this program and God to win her back.
Charles
4/6/2009
my story is identical to the movie "fireproof" except the roles are reversed. I am the one with a business and running the family while trying to save our marriage and my husband was the one who had an affair with a hospital nurse. When I spoke to my best friend she told me about the movie "fireproof" and said what I was telling her sounded exactly like the movie. She bought me the movie and the book and told me to watch it with my husband. We watched it together and I vowed right then and there to take the "love dare". I would like to save my marriage, and my heart would like to believe that it can work, so Im hoping for a miracle. This love dare and this movie just may have saved my marriage and my family!
4/6/2009
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We have 4 children 2 of them are mine from another relationship, and the other 2 are twins which we had together. We have known each other for 8 years and have been together for 6 years. We were married in august of 08. The problem is im unhappy and have never been able to forgive him for cheating. He has a bad relationship with my children my family. I feel like a child when I’m around him. And I don’t seem to appreciate what he does do but in my mind he does everything wrong. The house is a mess and the yard work needs done. We both work full-time but I try to get it done on my days off...I yell and curse him and yell at my children and I feel it turns around on me. I'm a bad wife and mother and daughter and Christian. I pray but does He hear me..my husband is not faithful to a church, either am I but I love God. I need his help and feel like I'm standing in a room screaming and know one hears. I want my husband to love and honor me and not be annoyed and threatened. I have been wanting to watch the movie for awhile now but he said I don't think so. So today was my day off and I sent the kids off to school and I sat down and watched the movie. With tears of guilt and sadness flowing down my face, I looked at my wedding ring and felt lost. I know with God’s help my marriage can be great so without my husband knowing, I am going to do the 40 days. I am going to dare him, dare myself.
Jade
4/6/2009
I have just wantched the movie 2 days ago and have started dare one this morning! We read each chapter before the dare to prepare us and give us the tools to be sucessful with our dare! Both my boyfriend and I will discuss what we did and had to overcome with the dare. In the next 40 days we are going to perfect the things that are not only important for us, but what God expects of us. My boyfriend has never introduced a girl to his family and in 40 days we will be flying out there to meet them. I feel as though God gave him the ability to wait for the right one and it is my duty to respect that and call on God when we need it the most...I'm excited and can't wait to see everyone else transform, together!
Melissa
4/6/2009
My husband and i watched this movie last night, and wow i know God works in the most powerful and awesome ways and i know we can wait for results or God just works when he knows the time is right. WOW what awesome prayers answered.
I bought his DVD at a COLOUR Conference in Sydney 31st March 2009. So i suggested for my husband and i watch this last night being the 5th April 2009. We were both surprised with the movie and then we went to bed as usual night night to each other, and then roll over and go to sleep.
Well we have been together since 2005, moved into together 2006, then married in 2007, then 2 days after our wedding we started to have real issues and it has been hard ever since. We did Marriage Counselling etc. My husband wore his Wedding Ring only for 7 days after we got married and he then took it of and said he could not wear it due to irriation. So i believed this and left it at that i did mention over the past two years that i always wear my wedding ring and that it means alot to me and that it was blessed on the day of our wedding, but he just said no he was not wearing it. So we have just celebrated our 2nd Wedding Anniversary and still no ring.
WOW i woke this morning and the first thing i noticed was my husband was wearing his Wedding Ring and it nearly bought tears to my eyes in front of him but then he asked me not to make a big deal and i didn't i believe God whispered to me do not say anything but be blessed.
My husband said it was the movie last night we watched Fire Proof, and said this with a smile and laid down next to me and just held me for a couple minutes.
WOW GOD IS SO AWSOME AND SO WAS THIS MIRACLE CHANGING MOVIE....
Katie-Maree
Katie-Maree
4/5/2009
my ex-husband to be and i are filing for divorce and will be final in sept. i wish and pray for this not to happen. he works for emergency management and is a volunteer firefighter. he met an emt woman that he closely works with even now. she led him out of our house. he told me he had been having lunches with her and meeting her at night til 2 am but telling me that it was a fire call. i finally caught him in the lie and threw him out of the house. i still love him and still want him back. i cannot stand to see my sons hurt. we have triplet boys aged 11 yrs old and one is already talking suicide. i believe in my vows and everytime i try to "date" i cant and end up cancelling it. it feels like i am letting God down. when does the season of sin end with him and when will he wake up and realize what he is losing? the boys are bitter and have no respect for him. i am tired of trying to keep the communication going between them. the ex's excuse in all this is there was no communication between us and that he couldnt talk to me so he went out to "find someone" who will listen. Funny thing is, this woman steered him away from us but ended up dumping him when he was kicked out of the house. but they do see each other time to time and do things together with her boyfriend included. would this be a waste of my time in this marriage that is about to end or do i still try with him? i have prayed and prayed but i am beginning to think i am not praying right to God or i have turned a deaf ear to Him. i know if he was to come back i would take him back with the grace, mercy and understanding that God would give me. it would be hard even to let him back into my bed but i would do it for God. PLEASE PRAY FOR MY FAMILY THAT WE WILL STAY TOGETHER IN ALL THIS AND HAVE HEALING UPON OUR HEARTS FOR WHAT THE EX HAS DONE. PRAY FOR MY EX TO BE IN THAT HE WILL SEE WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME AND THE BOYS AND THE DAMAGE HE HAS CAUSED AND BE GUIDED BACK HOME TO THIS FAMILY IF IT IS GOD'S WILL. THE SEASON OF SIN HAS TO STOP NOW!!!! IT IS NOW TIME FOR HIM TO TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE.
dawn
4/3/2009
Today I decided to take the 40 Day Love Dare. It is also my birthday, and my wish is for a
peaceful, happy home in which we can all thrive.
My husband and I have been married for 11 years and together for 16. We have 3 extraordinary children, who have become my life, and in the interim pushed my relationship with my spouse to the side. I have rated my marriage a 3, and that is after much improvement. At this time last year, I would not have rated my marriage at all, as there was no number on the scale low enough to accommodate it. I wasn't contemplating a divorce--it was inevitable, just a matter of how soon I could get out and still be able to take care of my kids. So I set out on a journey, a mission if you will, of self preservation. I got a good paying job, opened my own account and started hording money. This was no surprise to anybody, not even my husband. I have tried for years to hold my marriage together, but the volcano it has become erupted one to many times. While there was no physical abuse, sometimes the emotional neglect can be as torturous.
The turn-about came one day during an argument...Surprise!! After many idle threats over the years of leaving, something within him knew that this time it was for real. Maybe it was the steps I was taking toward dissolution, but something changed in him that made me drag my feet about leaving. He actually even surprised me on my birthday with a cake--which he has NEVER done. He doesn't even remember my birthday (or our anniversary). And I know it wasn't the Love Dare, because (1)he isn't much of a religious man and (2) he watched the movie with me, but made fun of it the whole time!!
So why start the Love Dare now?? Well, I miscarried five weeks ago, and I have been battling a form of postpartum depression. Since this tragic event, I see signs of the "old" man he was creeping back in. The lack of emotional support, and the innate ability he has to just dismiss my feelings, has left me beside myself once again. Our potentially peaceful home is almost back in shambles.
But it's not so easy to just pack up and leave this time. I saw the man I fell in love with all those years ago, if only briefly. And our kids have started to feel comfortable in their own home for the first time, possibly ever. I am determined to get us back on the high road, and fight for us, for our family.
The ease of walking away leaves me with a striking thought. I could be a statistic. How effortless is divorce?? I'm not sure, but it would be more difficult to stay and fight--not with each other this time, but FOR each other. And I've learned that nothing comes easy and you have to fight for what you believe.
Deanna
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