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2/11/2012
I will be married 10 years in may if we make it there. My husband wants out and he wants it done now. I don't k ow if I should move or let him move out and still truth is love dare. I'm scared. I want him to know Jesus. I want to be happy but divorce is against God and I really feel my husband is lost. Has anyone don't this while living apart? Has anyone had this work while living apart? I need advice and prayers please. He wants me to go look at apartments today. I am falling apart inside. Please help.
Natalie
2/10/2012
Ok...well me and my husband have been together for almost 14 years. We were young when we began to date. He was 17 and I was 19. We've been thru many ups and downs. He's been unfaithful and I have forgiven him every single time. Yes it's been more than once. We got past that. It has been over 6 years in which I thought he was over that phase. We have 11 year old twin girls and 11 month old baby girl. Needless to say I've been pretty occupied with the baby and have not given him much attention. Well just two months ago I find out he was having an emotional affair with the wife of one his coworkers. Of which at the time was a very close friend. She too was in lack of attention. Ofcourse this hit me very hard because in the other occasions he never thought of leaving but this time he said he was confused and didnt know what he wanted. He has removed his wedding ring and because of that I did so too. Not that I don't want to be married but why should I keep it if he doesn't. That's not going to make me feel or act differently. Nonetheless I've changed my ways to his satisfaction. I bought the movie and we both loved it and have watched it a couple times more. I bought the book on Monday. I immediately began with the dares. Interestingly I had been doing what the book said so it really doesn't come as a difficult as I thought. However slowly he has become more distant and he just says its work. That it becomes more and more stressful. Yet he says he is still confused and wants to find his way back. I'm just trying to be patient and continuing with the dares. Although I just started I sometimes feel of just giving up. But I'm still here. I'm just going to continue praying.
Lilia
2/10/2012
It is Day 7 and I am soo hurt this morning. My husband and I have been seperated for 1 1/2 weeks, we have two beautiful little girls and have been married for 7 years. We have gone back and forth to our marriage counselors over the years. Two weeks ago I just couldnt take it anymore. My husband suffers from bipolar and depression, for most of the time the cup is half empty for him. So two weeks ago my cup filled up and spilled over with the chastizing, negativity and defects he would find in me. He would tell me that " I need to make him happy, my tone is what sets his", I asked him to leave. On the third day of our seperation I started the Love Dare, and right away I saw so many errs in my ways. I forgot how to love, be kind and be tender. I was quick to be selfish and proud.
Last night after hearing my daughters crying to their father to please stay, my heart just fell into pieces. I was over the resentment by then but afraid that if he came back things would just go back to being the same. The girls tears put a dagger in my heart and I asked him to come home and we would work on this together. He refused saying that he was hurt by all that had happened and it was recommended by our counselor to stay out because he would probably blow up, it was too soon.
I was so hurt by his response it triggered my defense mechanism and the wall came up again, thoughts ran through my mind - call an attorney, get finances in order, change the locks , etc. I'm in tears right now because I feel lost and feel like the last few days on the Love Dare have been in vain. Please help and pray for us, Monica and Ruben
Thanks
Monica
2/9/2012
My son called a few days ago sharing that his marriage was in crisis. I encouraged him to watch Fireproof and he did. I encouraged him to do the Love Dare and if he did, I would go through it with him. The next day he wrote me that he was starting, so I made myself a journal and got started too. After day one, my son called to tell me he was giving up--he was too frustrated and can't handle it. I couldn't talk much with him at that point as I was in a meeting at work, but told him I'd call him that evening. When I called him, he told me that he came across a Bible verse, on Jesus' Facebook page, that convicted him that he was just being selfish and it calmed him down. Today we start Day 2. We could use a lot of prayer to persevere.
BTW, I have been married for 30 years and have a strong marriage, but there will never be a day where there isn't either something more I can learn about love or something more I can grow in loving better. I'm so looking forward to going through the Love Dare in my own life.
Thanks to all who have put the Love Dare together,
Lloyd..
My son's name is Sergei, who we adopted at age 10 from Russia, he is now 25. Thanks for praying for us.
2/9/2012
Kathy and I have been together for the past 2.5 years. I proposed ove a year ago. She is now peri-menopausal. I irritate her unknowingly. Recently she has asked me to move out. With the economy being the way it is, I am unable to do so. I have moved into our spare room. I recently purchased the Love Dare almost three weeks ago. I am at day 20. She is aware and has said this will not help. "We are friends." After starting the program, I am for the first time in my life doing things the right way. I have learned more about myself in the past few weeks and am really learning how to love her as well as how much I love her.
She is sending mixed signals where she wants me to move, and later is handing me things that we would share in he house much later after I would have moved. For years she has asked me to read a book on boundaries. Since I hate to read, I didn't read the book. I recently picked it up and completed it again learning how many times I have violated her boundaries. I see us together in our future. We are foster parents and recenly completed a program to become adoptive parents? I know that God has plans for us. I will not give up. I believe in us. I believe in my family.
I have hurt her badly and never realized it until recently. The extent is still unknown, She is having a difficult time trusting me. Lord Jesus, I ask that the trust is restored. I ask for prayers from all that read this.
Joe
2/8/2012
I'm on day 3 and am already seeing the error of my ways with my fiance' "T". She is the most beautiful person in the world and we fell in ove with each other and became close enough to try for a child prior to marriage. Well needless to say once she became pregnant, hormonal and very sick all the time, I did not think of her and her needs and had a very short temper. NOT FAIR. This book after only three days is showing me what kind of a monster I had been to my pregnant love of my life AND that the dares are relativiely easy to practice, but I know its going to be alot of work to just keep going with these dares until we grow old together. No matter what state your relationship is in, there is always hope and faith to consider as God knows what he has planned for you. God is great and we get along now. I even prayed the other day and said he reminded me of Hannibal Smith from the A-Team. "I love it when a plan comes together" Use this book, read it and keep reading it. It feels so good to give love again. And my little daughter Bug is benefitting from this also. She desreves better, they both do from me.
Mike
Mike
2/7/2012
I am in my second marriage and 4 months into it we are struggling bad. She brought two kids and me one into it. I know we love each other, but just can't seem to connect. I feel so broken and afraid to lose her and the kids! We both bring issues and just pray for God to intervene. Day one of patience was tough, but She is worth the pain.
Mark
2/6/2012
Where to begin. I have been with my husband for 23 years. We have endured much love over the years, and of recent a lot of pain. He is a hard worker and a great father. In all the years we have been together we have been on separate working shifts and whats happening is that we have become distant, and the common thread is our younger children and I tend get overlooked and taken for granted. I am afraid that what we had in the beginning is gone. We seem to be strangers with differnt ideals residing in the same home. I always felt that he was my soul mate, and I want to have those feelings again. I have asked and prayed to God. Maybe some of those changes are with me too, but I don't know how to change. I bought the Love Dare book almost 1 1/2 years ago, so this is not something new that I am feeling. I look at the book read the first pages and try. He's a stubbon man, who learned from a stubbon and lazy dad and that has been passed down. It is difficult some days. I want to love that man I fell in love with again...I just hope it's not too late.
2/6/2012
I met my husband almost 11 yrs ago in September. From the moment I met him I knew he was the one. We married a year later on October 19, 2002. We had a son a year after that. Then we seperated in August of 2004. We have kept in contact and everything through that time. He has been in and out of prison for his drug addictions. We have recently talked about him coming back home once he gets out and giving our marriage another try. I never filed for divorce because he wasn't just my husband, or my best friend, he was my soul mate. I have missed him so much and I have tried so hard to pray for him to get better. How do I know he is better. My son really needs his father in his life. Our son is almost 9 yrs old and this is the time where he needs a father the most. He is excited that daddy is coming home but, I'm worried that he will fall back into those same patterns again. I have missed him so much and not once have I ever really considered giving my heart to another man. I've gone out on dates but, I made that vow to my husband to love him and him only and I think that's why I never divorced him even though I told him I was going to. He still holds the key to my heart and I love him so much. How can I make sure He knows that he is the only one for me?
tracey
2/2/2012
I love my husband and we have been or would have been together for 12 years and I want to do this love dare but how does one do this dare when the woman he claims now is the love of his life lives with us and he sleeps with her constantly living in the bedroom that was supposed to our 3 sons bedroom.And says he can't stand me and that he should have killed himself along time ago type thing but then says he really deeply cares about me. Please pray for my marriage and husband. God has confirmed to me that he wants us to be together. Please pray that God will show me exactly to pull this dare off. Thanks!
Terri
2/1/2012
Hello, My name is Jared I am on day 21 on the Love Dare. I met my now wife through work a little over five years ago. She always wanted to get married sooner than I did while we were dating. We got married October 2010. Our first year was rough as all are. We had our fair share of arguments, but we had more good times than that. She left me right before Christmas of last year saying that she did not want to live where we were living. I hunt and fish alot and she did not want to live that lifestyle. I started the Love Dare 21 days ago because I feel I have been sliding away from God. It has been a long rough battle and my wife has yet to return home from her mothers house. Through this book I have come closer to God than I have ever been. It has opened my eyes up to how selfish I was with my time. My wife is now wanting a divorce even tho I followed the Love Dare everyday. I know that the Lord will lead me in the right direction even if she refuses to work through this bump in the road. I love my wife more than anything in the world. I pray for the others going through the same thing the pain in your hearts are felt by me also.
Jared
1/31/2012
Hello, I just got my book today because my 2 year relationship is on the edge of being over. I always thought it was because of him that we were having so many troubles. I have very bad anger issues and I am always complaining instead of appreciating the things we do have together. Our relationship started off so well. But lately I feel him drifting apart because I have damaged us so with my mouth. I get so angry with with, i have hit him, belittled him anything else you can think of. He says we can't get married because we fight too much. Only after reading Day today I realize how I can be pushing him away. I have a good man. He may not be all that romantic as I like but he he everything else you could ask for in a man. I love him so much but feel him slipping away and I feel like if i don't get it together I will lose him.
1/30/2012
Hi, Here goes! I am with my bf. Not married yet! I have God in my heart and I Have been married several times and divorced several times. I am scared to remarry again. Money is a big issues, but we can over come that. The biggest issue is his drinking and him not turning to God for help. He refuses to go to Church and go as a family! I am thinking about leaving, but I will and want to try out Fireproof 40 day challage before I think any further. I have given my life to God and need all the prayers I can get and guidance to help me figure out which way I am to go. I have a 17 yr old daughter at home. He also has a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. He says that he loves me, but I want to make sure it isnt because he don't want to be alone. No one likes to be alone, but you have to be happy as well and not be together for the wrong reasons. Marriage is very important to me and want to share it in the home with Jesus Christ and make sure it is Fireproofed. Make it stronger. Please pray for our family.
Glenda
Glenda
1/29/2012
Hello, my name is matt. I have been with my high school sweetheart for almost 4 years now. The beginning of our relationship was so wonderful and innocent, and over the years we ended up going to separate colleges which caused distance between our relationship. During this time I put God on the back burner. 4 days ago, my future wife said that she needed to end this and that we need to move on and that she needs to find out what she wants in life. I respect her with all my heart and i hope and pray that she finds answers for her life. It hurts so much right now. I need true peace and comfort, and my hearts desire is to be with this woman for the rest of my life. I am giving my heart back to God and rebuilding our relationship first. In time i know God will reveal his plan for us wether it is to be together or not. I choose to follow God for the rest of my life and pray. If we do decide to get back together I will have God fireproof our relationship to a very strong, loving, and caring one.
Matthew
1/29/2012
Let me start by saying I've known my husband since kindergarten, we have been together for 12 years and married for 10. We have two daughters and one child on the way. He came clean with me about cheating back in August and I haven't been able to get over it. I've been praying to God to help me to not only forgive but forget. I know He doesn't put us through anything we can't handle but this is a test that I'm failing miserably. I love my husband more than he will ever know and I feel that this is the only way I will be able to forgive him. The funniest part of this story is that I get emails from a blog sight in my email and that is how I found out about this challenge. I'm believing that God is going to help me save my marriage through this program. I start tomorrow and am pretty excited about completing these challenges. I think this will not only help me in my relationship with my husband but with everyone. I just ask for prayer as I start cause I know that I tend goblet my temper control me.
Debra
1/26/2012
me and my wife have been married for 3 and a half years now and earlier this week she told me she wanted a divorce she says she is not in love with me any more we have a 2 year old son . my aunt told me about this love dares and i started them tuesday im on a emotional rollercoaster right now i will do anything to get my wife back i love her with all my heart and want to change to be perfect husband for her. need prayers they will be greatly appriciated
chase
1/25/2012
I was engaged to this man for two years, we moved into together & well being completely out of God's will raved havoc on our lives. We now live separately & I just order this book last night. I am hoping will it not only help out relationship but help- me find roots in my Saviour... Giving my all to Jesus...
sharon
1/25/2012
Well here's my story. My husband and I have been married for 5yrs together for 6 we have 2 children that are ours together and one that is mine from a previous relationship. Just over a year ago I found out my husband was having an affair. Yeah I know it devistated me beyond belief. I kicked him out but still I love him dearly. I recently accepted Christ, I've always been a believer but never thought Christ loved me, I had done too many terrible things in my life for Him to possibly love ME. But my eyes were opened and I asked the Lord to show me what I needed to do to fix my marriage because I love my husband and am committed to my promises not only to my husband but to God as well. HE showed me I never listen. And I was selfish as well. So after changing the way I dealt with the situation after a year things were getting better and he was home not seeing this woman anymore then all of a sudden he's back there again. He's an alcoholic and former drug user. Which he kept a secret from me for years. He's always been a drinker but he had control of it but over the past year he's gotten worse and will stay at the bar all day, literally all day no joke. I believe he does love me and the children but this woman is close to his work and bar he frequents and he gets too drunk and can't drive and home is 45 min away where as she is 10 min if that Well long story short this was day one of the love dare its my last hope.. but guess what I failed miserably. Our conversation ended with me crying him screaming and he still isn't home. So I guess i'll try again tomorrow. Pray for us, our marriage and our family. Pray for his deliverance from his addictions and pray for my strength and guidance.
angela
1/24/2012
My fiance and I plan to be married in June. The way we began dating is a miracle that could only have been put together by God. Our relationship used to be seemingly perfect, and we never fought. Then, all of a sudden, we realized we were fighting every day. We've had problems recently with finding what we lack from each other in other people, and just can't seem to make each other happy. We are both saved, born-again Christians that love the Lord, but we need to recognize the love He's given us and hold onto it this time. I know we are supposed to be together, and I don't want to ruin this. I know 100% for a fact that God wants us to glorify Him through marriage; we just need something to help us get there. I pray that this 40 day Love Dare will make us focus on our relationship with God and with each other, and be what He wants us to be.
Victoria
1/23/2012
My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. We dated for 5 years before we married and we've been together for over half our lives. We have 2 teenage sons and we adore them. We've had our ups and downs over the years, but we've always been best friends and most of the time communicated very well. Until he had lap band. He's lost approx. 140 lbs. and this has had a drastic change to his pain level in his back (he's disabled due to missing disks in his back). He also has become a little cocky and enjoys the attention he is getting. Over the last 2 years I became menopausal after having a hysterectomy and this and lap band don't mix. These drastic changes in our marriage caused us to stop communicating and he met a person on line playing Poker Stars. He wouldn't talk to me and because I guess I wasn't as attentive as he expected me to be after his weight loss he turned to this woman over the Internet, that before I had any idea what was going on he was planning on leaving me and moving this woman out here from another state! I attend church fairly regular with our kids, but he rarely goes at all. After I found out and was shocked, angry, and devastated beyond words. I went to a hotel for 3 days and read Fireproof and a friend lended me The Love Dare which I have been doing since Jan. 1. Even though I got help for my menopause and am doing much better, he is still emotionally attached to this woman and says he would always wonder if he still should have left me for her. He is remorseful and says God has told him he's not being fair to either one of us. So this weekend he has gone to see her in person to make sure he is doing the right thing by staying with me and telling her it's over. I've told him that whatever happens while he's there he will be forgiven by be and we will move forward if he will let me show him the wife I can be. He admits he has not been himself and this has been killing him. Please pray that he gets this out of his system and will come home to stay with his family and not look back.
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