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10/4/2010
I just watched the movie Fireproof and I was absolutely interested in the movie and now I am wanting to find the book. My marrige to my husband has been for 8 years and it is rocky there are changes in us both since we said I DO and I personally want US to be the way we were before .... I can't wait to find the book and start my 40 day DARE... I know that with God's help he will set our marrige back on the right path.. The movie made me excited to find the book and take the 40 day challange of The Love Dare... Thank you for this movie.................
As soon as I find the book I am going to start my journey through The Love Dare and I plan on leaving my story and putting up blogs from day 1 through day 40. Thank you for movie and the book...
Thank you Cheryl Hinds
Cheryl
10/3/2010
My husband and I have been married for 29 yrs. For the most part we have had a wonderful marriage, managing to 'get thru' several trials (miscarriages, death of a child, death of parents/siblings). We have raised 2 Beautiful children and now have 3 Beautiful grandchildren. Approx 3 yrs ago we began to drift apart. We both saw what was happening but neither one of us tried to pull it back together. We 'assumed' that this would all work out on it's own. 1 1/2 yrs ago my husband had an emotional affair with a younger woman from where he works. I confronted him and he was not honest with me at first. During this time I fell in love with my husband again and we began working on our relationship but still had some issues of this OW contacting him. He had stopped communication with her but did not ask her to stop contacting him. Like I said, we had begun working on our relationship but still had the 'issues' of the OW. I then found out that my husband had began an emotional affair with a different woman from his work. He went to her regarding my issues of his 1st emotional affair. One day my husband came to me and stated that he needed some space. I agreed and he moved out. In less than 2 weeks, he requested a divorce. I tried to talk to him regarding waiting for a few months before making any snap decisions. Two weeks later, my husband filed for divorce. I was in shock. It took 2 1/2 more weeks to be served the papers. During this time, I have learned that my husband has "fallen in love" with the 2nd woman he was having an emotional affair with. It has since progressed to a physical affair. She is also married. Over the past month my husband has become very ill and been hosptialized for 3 weeks. I was told not to come to the hospital to visit him. He was required to have major surgery and he did call me to be there with him during that time. I was there for him but as soon as he was feeling slightly better, he asked that I not come to visit him again. I have honored his wishes but have been torn apart by his words and actions. We talk on a fairly regular basis and he always tells me that he loves me. I have been told that he is 'using me' and that I should walk away for good. I have turned this all over to God with the stance that God will put us on the path that he feels best for each of us. I do not want to quit on the STAND for my marriage even tho we continue with the divorce proceedings. Our temporary hearing is coming up later this month. I feel that God has already intervened several times. (My husband and the OW are not able to spend the time together that they so desired due to his hospitalization and our temporary hearing has been delayed once already). My life has already begun to change for the better. I have a much stronger relationship with God and I feel that my husband may be having less of a hardened heart. I have forgiven my husband and asked for him to forgive me but he says he cannot do that just yet. The main thing is that I have forgiven myself and asked God to forgive me. I have recently watched the movie "Fireprood". I feel God has continued to give me signs of continuing to STAND by my marriage by putting this movie into my hands. Please pray for us and that God gives us the strength and guidance to be patient for his will. And pray that God continues to 'speak' to my husband. God Bless you all and NEVER lose Faith. We thank You Father the complete restoration of our own lives, the lives of our spouses and the complete restoration of our marriages. We stand in awe of Your promises and Your Word. We are rejoicing the great miracles You have already done for us and our spouses because You love us so unconditionally and we sing Your praises for these great things we are testifying to Your people, for Your Will, be done. By the power of the blood of Jesus, we ask this in His Blessed Name. AMEN
9/30/2010
I have been married for 23 years. We have 3 children that we have totally devoted our lives to. However, in devoting so much of our time and enery to our children & both of us working we had no time for each other. In the last 5 years we have drifted farther apart both of us knowing our marriage was lacking but never taking the time to really fix it. I recently discovered that my husband has been secretly calling another woman for several months. There was no physical relationship but there was a definite emotional one. He has been very honest with me about everything including the topics of their conversations. He is currently struggling with his shame of what he has done but he also still struggles with not contacting her which has put a kink in our healing process. I know that he loves me and that he's extremely sorry & ashamed of what he has done but the fact that he contacted her several times after I confronted him has really put a strain on me. He has admitted to it each time and honestly can't tell me what the pull is. Trust seems almost impossible. Through it all neither of us has wanted to split, we truly love each other. I do take part of the blame as far as knowing that our marriage was in trouble and not taking the time to work on it. He has not contacted her in a month & told me immediately when she contacted him. I know that this has brought me back to God and that He put the movie Fireproof in my hands so that I could use the the love dare as a tool to help us get back on track & heal. I hope that you will pray for me. Anyone that has been cheated on knows all the paranoias, images and insecurities that you deal with on a daily basis. To make matters even worse we live in a town of about 800 people and our children are in the same class so we see this woman almost daily.
9/29/2010
I am supposed to be celebrating my 5 year anniversary with my husband on Jan 3. We are high school sweethearts and have been through a lot already. A few years ago he and my best friend of 12 years had an affair. He and I tried to work past that after a short separation period. I never really gave him my full trust back and we have fought off and on ever since. For three years everytime we would start to get along it was like waiting for a dark cloud to break with rain, waiting for us to start fighting again. We got to where we went for 3 weeks without speaking and then decided to separate. It was supposed to be to figure out what to do to fix our relationship but after 39 days he says he doesn't love me anymore and hasn't for a while. That I never gave him a real chance and it is over. I have begged him to give it another try and he has shut me down cold. I am starting the love dare with a heavy heart that it is too far gone to help. Please pray for us as I will be every day. I know that one more try is all we need but I need him to be willing to try as well.
Sherry
9/27/2010
Me and my wife are currently split apart, we have only been together married for a year. It has been one of the hardest years of my life, we argue over everything our communication is not there. We have been split apart for about three weeks now and at the end of week two I was ready to call it quits and get a divorce our relationship had become threats and hatred towards one another. On the Sunday of week two my wife lost a very close dear family member in her life on that same day I re-dedicated my life to Jesus, since then I was so sure that my change in heart and her need of affection and comfort would pull as closer. However my wife has pretty much shown she does not need me to be there and she has not asked me to be around for her at all. I had thought I had hurt in the past over things but this truly hurt me like never before. I know after talking to the pastor at a church, God does not want us to hurt and he also no matter whether you gave your vows to him as a christian or not does not want or marriage to fail. I want so much to hold my wife in my arms again and feel the love I once felt. I give my marriage to God and ask him to please fix it. I am also going to start this series I am not going to tell anyone I am just going to do it !!!! I ask anyone who reads this to please pray for my marriage and my wife as she struggles with her lost love one. Our One Year Anniversary is October 3rd which is this weekend..... Please Pray for us !!
Jason
9/27/2010
there are some things i have done in my marriage i am not proud of at all and in all honesty i am surprised jeannie has stayed with me with everything i have done against her and i have decided that i was going to go back to church and i did i found a great church and it was actually on a day that jeannie and i were going to call it quits as far as our marriage is concerned and go for the bid d god interviened in my life and brought me to church to get me back with him where i needed to be but i let satan get ahold of me and went back to doing what i was doing before that hurt my wife so bad to where we were heading for divorce i can see so much of myself in caleb in this movie it is scary cause when my wife would say something about divorce i would say maybe we should and even told my sister - in - law that the thought of divorce actually lifted a weight of my shoulders and the minute i told denise that i knew i had to do something to save my marriage cause i do love jeannie i love her with all my heart and i know that the only way i can save this marriage is to get my life back on track with god so i can learn to become a better husband to become the husband i am supposed to be to be there for my wife and not do just for me and end up doing things that hurt her cause they temporarily please me when my wife pleases me every day when i look at her face i havent told her that like i should either and i may not act like it at times but i do love her and i honestly dont think that i could manage my life without her she is the best thing to come into my life and how god works it with two people that had walked so far away from him that couldnt even see the light brought us together and eventually back to him i dont know but i do know i need to start wearing the full armor of god everyday as soon as i wake up in the morning and trust in him or i know satan will get his hands on me again and i am honestly getting tired of failing god and failing my marriage every time i turn around i do need a lot of help and a lot of guidance to be the mad god wants and needs me to be so i can in turn be the husband jeannie wants and needs me to be i know it is a long hard road but with the help of god on my side i will get there as long as i truely turn it over to him and leave it in his hands
this is my vow i am making right now and i will try my best to stick to it
God, I now turn my life and my marriage over to you. I am leaving it in your hands. You God make me and my marriage to Jeannie what you want us to be.
In Jesus's name
Thank You
Darrell
9/26/2010
My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We were high school sweethearts and destined to "make it work". Over the years, we had gotten way too comfortable with each other and forgot about each other as work and other commitments got in the way. 53 days ago, he told me that he cheated and wanted a divorce. During these past weeks, I have had so many emotions that I could not even keep them straight. But, the bottom line is, I love him and I am committed to doing whatever I can to show him that...hoping that will help him find his way back to me. There is not "another woman" so to speak, similar to the movie. I will have to continue to work on forgiving him for these choices he made, but I do not think it should ruin our marriage.
This is our real first "worse" in our marriage, I am afraid that we are calling it quits as soon as something gets tough. I take our vows serious and believe we should be giving it everything we can before signing the divorce papers. He has, however, filed and we have 46 days until the court day.
I believe that I am a very spiritual person, but private about my religious beliefs. He has said that he does not believe and has many struggles with this realm of his life. He also struggles with alcohol. I know that I have a very tough road ahead of me/us. But, I have nothing to lose at this point, before calling it quits.
Pray for me and wish me luck.
9/23/2010
I am not married but there is a man that I love deeply. I had problems with differentiating the feeling of love from what love really is. I betrayed his trust multiple times because I felt that his expression of love was inadequate and sometimes absent. I realize all that he is as a man and I want his forgiveness and one more chance. I'm not sure if this can help with broken relationships but I am praying for God's will and continued discernment.
9/23/2010
Although I hate that so many people are dealing with the same issues, I am comforted to know that I am not the only one dealing with this. My husband and I are seperated at this time. It has been almost three weeks. We have seperated more times than I can count in the few years we have been together. We always have good intentions but then hit a bump and it goes south from there. We have screamed, argued, fought and really tried to knock each other down emotionally. We both brought alot of insecurities into our relationship from our previous marriages. I am so ashamed of my actions regardless of what he did or said. I know better!
I am working on The Love Dare. Day two with the act of kindness was today. I attempted to send him a gift through the mail and he refused it and sent it back to the company. I am grasping for hope and pray constantly that God will heal our hearts and restore our marriage.
Your prayers for us are greatly appreciated as we all go along this difficult journey.
9/22/2010
9/22/10
I have been married 8 1/2 years. My husband and I have two children together and he has a few children from a previous marriage. I have completed the love dare once before but at that time my spouse and I were living separately. I have attempted day one several times and have failed misserably. I have trouble being patient with my husband and staying positive.
There are some decision that my husband made while we were separated that cause me terrible pain and I am working through those decisions. I want to figure out how to rebuild trust in my relationship with my husband and right now he has no clue about this love dare and I am not sure that he would be interested in participating.
I want to move forward in our marriage and I want our relationship to be renewed - a renewed commitment, love, intimacy, sharing, mutual respect, and devotion. I have found that our communication style differ drastically and this causes most of our problems with misunderstandings.
Please pray for me - I need a miracle.
9/22/2010
I have been married to a wonderful woman for 18 years. The story in the movie "fireproof" is almost a mirror image of our marriage. I tried to bluff her with divorce papers because I thought that her issues with spending were just as bad as mine witht he internet porn issues. She saw it as reallity and flew to the arms of another man. That has to be the worse pain there is. Is to know that I was the one responsible for her actions.
She had made me watch "fireproof" once before but because she demanded it of me I was reluctant to get the message. Today I watched it for the 4th time becasue in spite of everything I still love her and want her to come home. I told her i do not blame her for running and being with someone else. But please be patient before making any serious commitments to another.
Until my book arrives I had got the first 3 days from the movie and applied them. Probably a bad idea for i may have been missing something and now she ignores any attempt of communication from me unless it is in reguards to our son.
But one message I did get from it was to have faith and I have been on my knees crying and asking God to forgive me for my sins against my wife. And I pray that I am not too late to save us. Even though she has repeatedly told me that I am too late and will not hurt her new beau of 2 months.
I just pray that it is just a new infatuation that currently has her dazzled and that I have a chance for my 40 days to work. Because the very feeling of not having her in our future is devestatingly upsetting. for the past six weeks I have not been able to eat, sleep, or function.
If I had only had the opportunity to see this is how she felt so long ago. I may not be losing the very love of my life today.
Ron
ronald
9/21/2010
I have been married for 17 + years and my wife recently went and paid a lawyer for a divorce. I am hoping that it is not too late to save our marriage as I love her with all of my heart. We have 4 beautiful kids together. We have had our ups and downs along the way but have always managed to pull through it. I am now on day 10 of the book and have since moved out of our house together at her request; it is day 6 not living with her. I do each dare as if I still lived with her and the kids, but it is not easy. Please pray for me, my wife and our children.
9/21/2010
MY BROTHER IN LAW AND HIS WIFE ARE STARTING ON THIS TONIGHT....I AM ASKING FOR A FEW PRAYERS TO BE SENT THEIR WAY...HOPEFULLY IN THE NEAR FUTURE I WILL HAVE A SUCCESS STORY TO SHARE!
ANNIE
9/20/2010
My and My husband will be celebrating our 3 year anniversary Sept,22. I am considering starting The Love Dare book. I want to do it more for me then for him. After being married 3 years I realize that if it wasnt for the children I won't be with my husband. I dont want to feel that way so I pray that with this book I can find a way to love him again. Keep me in you Prayers.
9/19/2010
I am head over hills for my beautiful wife. I have made so many bad choices and have said so many horrible things to her. I see myself as a good man but how could I mess up so badly with the person who makes me the happiest. My wife recently took her ring off and will not put it back on. I asked her to go to the fireproof class at our church. We plan on going again next week. The next day I picked up the movie and we both enjoyed it. I will do everthing I can to save my marriage. My next paycheck I plan on buying two copies so that my wife and I can take the DARE together.
Brian
9/18/2010
Hi,
I have been married for little over a year.. but me and my husband have been together for 8 years. We have two beautiful girls and a little boy on the way. We recently have just started argueing again but this time it has gotten really bad and out of control. Over the years we have done some hurtful things to each other but being married is completely different then being boyfriend and girlfriend. This book is truely my last stop cause I have fallen out of love and I have lost all trust in our marriage. So I am going to try this and I am praying that GOD will save our marriage. We are still in our 20's and I would love to grow old with my husband that is what I believe will happen if I truely work at this. I am asking for much prayer through my journey of this 40 day experience for GOD to give me the strength to it doing this even on my worst days.
9/17/2010
My wife and I have been married for for years today, and she left me 3 weeks ago, and just last week she told me that she hasn't love me for a few years. a friend of mine told me to do the Love Dare and i am going to start it as soon as i get the book, I trust the Lord my God that His will will be done, but PLEASE help me with your prayers for this long and very painful journey
9/16/2010
I'm a Christion, I think, but I'm also an adulterer. We have been married 8 years and have 3 children. A couple of days before our anniversary my wife found a love not a girl wrote me. Then everything changed, I'm so embarrassed and ashamed. I'm not in love with this girl and sometimes wonder if I really love my wife. I'm hoping I will find out how to love, the love dare seems like the best formula for learning to love.
I can't do it without God, I know this because that is what I've been doing all along that's how I got to this point. It helps to know that my story is not the only one and that there is hope for a future with my family. If It works and I remember how hard it was, hopefully I won't make the same mistake again.
My wife is beautiful, Wonderful and patient, like a rare flower I hope I can learn to water, feed and love her.
9/14/2010
I am at day 6 and I can say : THIS WORKS!! It has been hard work, I have started over and over and could never get passed day 1. But it was not before I realised that I had to let go of all my wants that this really started working and that I was able to stick with it. I wanted to do this for me, instead of wanting this for us and for him. And yesterday, I got a text that said: Thank-you for caring about me. He does not even know that I am doing the love dare! I praise God for this small miracle and for giving me the strenght and faith to hold on step by step.
Annamarie
9/14/2010
My husband and I have been married just a little under a year. We have been together for over 5 years and between us have 5 children ranging from 19 years of age to 5 months. We were both married before and those lasted 17 years each. We have only the one daughter together that was planned and already we are talking divorce. I started the Love Dare after speaking with my pastor at church because of our issues and than I really tried to throw myself into doing all of the day to day dares and I even made it to day 23. However, our baby became ill and needed surgery and because of this, everything was put on hold to focus on her. Now she is better but our marriage kept spiraling out of control. We argue, we fight, and we scream even in front of the kids and at times I say the most hateful things imaginable. I want us to get better and I want my marriage and our family but I don't know if we are going to be able to get over this hump this time. I am trying to start the Love Dare again but because of all the constant bickering, I am having a difficult time getting off of day 1!!!! Please pray for us. We are good people and deep down I know that the love is still there. I believe that it's just buried so deep that I am having a hard time finding it again.
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