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11/10/2008
I saw the movie for the second time today. I realized after reading some of these entries that the main person I strayed (emotionally) from other than my husband was God, Himself. I have been very angry with God for my husband's behavior. I felt trapped, and wanted to leave many times. Even thought of ending my life, I felt so worthless.
I have always prayed for God to change him. What I did without realizing it was to distance myself from the one person that could make all things possible. I shut myself off from my husband and created this whole little world for me and built a wall that none could penetrate until.......this movie and these blogs.
I'm turning around back to my first love where it all begins in the first place.
Thank you all for sharing your hearts with me.
J.
11/10/2008
My husband and I went to see the movie on Friday night. I had heard about it and I saw the preview. Friday afternoon it was a must see for me. I did not know if my husband was going to agree but I was very much willing to get rid of the kids for a night to get started on a fireproof marriage. My husband and I are both ministers and have been married for over 8 years. We have been separated three times during this time. We have gone through a year's worth of marriage counseling and today, I feel our marriage is on the rocks. Not because we don't know what to do but maybe the willing part is the problem. I cried all night after looking at the movie, that was me in the movie. I have been seeking approval outside my marriage because I feel left out by my husband. He loves the kids but to me I seem to frustate him for some reason.
Now I am really tired and I want to give up, since the movie he has talked to me very little but he has cooked breakfast and dinner (his actions but no emotions are attached to it.) I want to be loved like I know I am supposed to be and I think he is scared because he as been hurt so much in his life like I.
11/10/2008
My Boyfriend and I saw this movie this past weekend. We have been dating over a year now and marriage has been discussed for the future. My boyfriend is a firefigher so this movie really related to our relationship. We do have our disagreements but we talk about them and try to work out a solution. As I watched the movie I thought about how our lives maybe one day. I am glad we had the opportunity to see this movie now so we can work together to become a stronger couple before we decide to make the big commitment.
CB
11/9/2008
I saw this movie tonight with 4 other women who have went through a divorce or are going through a divorce. We all are Christians. I am presently going through a divorce. This divorce is the hardest thing I have ever went through in my life. I would give anything to be able to see this movie again "with" my husband. Throughout the movie I kept praying and thinking there must be a way. He is not a Christian and he really wants this divorce. I see my mistakes and his mistakes. I keep praying for reconcilation and a marriage that is "God centered." I know that God creates miracles. It will be a miracle if he sees this movie and wants to reconcile. I would recommend this movie to anyone who feels or knows their marriage is on the rocks.
Lannett
11/9/2008
My husband and I just saw your movie, "Fireproof" last night for the second time. We wanted to take another couple with us last night. We have been married 24 years, and it's been a strong marriage. We believe that the Lord being the center of our marriage has been our bonding strength! It's opportunities like this movie, marriage seminars we've attended and books read, which provides an opportunity for ongoing discussions between the two of us. We want our marriage to continue strong, but realize we need to feed it spiritually as well.
The other day, my husband had driven my car to take our daughter to school. I was starting to get a little impatient as he returned home a few minutes later that I had expected. I was loading up to walk out the door when cautioned me to be careful getting in because there was something in the cup holder. I got in, buckled up, and found a warm latte right next to me. Perfect for that cold morning. My impatience melted immediately, and I sheepishly phoned him and asked "what day he was on". His response was that he'd "lost track after all these years".
Yep, he's a winner! I love him tons, and want to continue finding unexpected ways to love on him (as he does me) so our marriage continues fresh throughout the years.
Thank you for providing us with such a fine movie to share with others. And one that we can use to strengthen our marriage as well.
Cheri
11/9/2008
My boyfriend and I have been to gether for two and a half years. We were planing on getting engaged this winter and getting married next winter, well there has been some red flags and struggles in our relationship but i didn't think they were that big, well basically he has been having a friendship with another woman for the last eight months, and being dishonest, it was devistating on us. He has been saying he would/had ended it for months but really only ended it last week. I am trying so hard to make this work, and we went to a couple from our church for guidence, they reccomended this movie and we went to it last night. It spoke so much to us, it was us. I am going to be honest i took him to this movie to show him what he needed to do to make this up to me, and we ended up getting in a huge fight after the movie, because i didn't feel he got what i wanted out of it, i wanted him to run out, buy the book and start it on me. He got a lot out of it and even cried and told me he was sorry and loved me, but being selfish that isn't what i wanted. This morning i spent a lot of time in prayer and with God struggling, because i want to start and do this book, but i also felt i shouldn't be the one trying to make things right, and then i realized this isn't about who is wrong and who made mistakes, it is about loving somone the way God wants us to. I am so excited to start this book, i printed the first chapter out today, so i can start first thing and later i am going to start the book. I am so excited to begin this journey with God and my significant other. It is amazing how i went into this with wrong expectations and wasn't planning on implementing this into my life how God can call you on it and end up changing your heart, when you think you aren't the one that needs fixed, but honestly a relationship is a two way street and it takes two not just one. I just thank the Lord and everyone who made this movie and are spreading the word, you have all blessed someone somehow. Thanks.
11/8/2008
I just went to go see the movie Fireproof tonight with my boyfriend. Im not married yet but hope to be married some day. We are both Christians and we have been talking about marriage and about our friends who are getting married as well. I am studying to be a Christian Marriage and Family Counselor and I think this was a great eye opener to myself and will be to many more couples in the future. It showed the frustrations and the real emotions that couples experience when they are in the valley times--not every day is spent on the mountaintops. One part in the movie that really struck a cord with me was simply the part where Caleb was talking to his fireman friend at the table and he was asked what his wedding ring meant--so many people--nowadays especially--give up at the first sign of smoke and don't let the fires of life refine them to burn away the dross in their lives and make them shine brighter than they ever did before. God is definitely going to use this in a powerful way and has already done so. :)
Adina
11/3/2008
My husband and I saw Fireproof Sunday November 2, 2008. About a year and half ago my husband commited adultery and we almost got divorced but both us were willing to save our marriage and try to stay together but about two weeks ago I starting to think I made a mistake in taking him back and then we started talking to each other like we learned in counseling and we told each other how we felt and that helped so much. Yesterday with the movie that just soldified that we love each other and that we should fight for our marriage because that is why GOD put us together. My husband and I both felt like the couple in the movie both of us work and we hardly see each other but we make time and thanks to this movie we will start making more time for each other. I love my husband and he loves me and we want to grow old together. I want to thank the Sherwood Church for doing this movie I also want to thank KLOVE for telling me about it. The most important person I want to thank for saving my marriage is my LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST. Thank you and MAY GOD BLESS all of the married couples.
11/3/2008
Yesteryday, November 2, 2008, my fiancé and I went and saw FireProof, and found it extremely, and profoundly helpful. When we started dating 2 years ago (August 22, 2006 to be exact) her and I were in the "lovey-dovey" stage of our relationship. To be more precise, we never "fought," we always had plenty to talk about, we found ourselves in God's word constantly, and we spent almost every waking moment together since we were both attending East Texas Baptist University at the time. On new years day (2008), I proposed to Christy, and we have been engaged since. However, I would say around mid March of this year, our relationship started to get very shakey...we started arguing more, over stupid things, and yes, even things that were very important. We were verbally and emotionally abusive to each other, and later regretted the things we had done to each other. Over the course of this past summer, we were apart (I was here in Wylie, Texas and Christy was in Texas City, Texas) for most of the time. Our relationship started to dwindle as the time passed on...we didn't have much to talk about, there were days at a time when we wouldn't talk to each other, and our individual walks with Christ had rapidly dissolved into almost nothing. Once Christy made her way up to the Dallas area for Grad school at DTS, we were able to see each other more. We thought that it would get better being able to be with each other again, but things just got worse. Temptations came around almost all the time to do things that only married couples should be doing, we were basically at the point to which we desired so much from each other that God showed us our own idolatry towards one another.
With all this being said, this movie has shown us that "love" is so much more than just "lovey, dovey" all the time, it's a commitment. FireProof also pointed out to both of us that love is pouring all of yourself into a person and only that person, loving them like Christ loved us (to the point of death with grace and mercy), and not being ready to leave when the "warm fuzzy feelings" leave. The "warm fuzzies" are deceptive and temporary, but commitment is and should be lasting. It has motivated me to get the Love Dare book and cooporate it into my own daily way of showing the love of my life how much she means to me with the ultimate goal of doing the best that I can to love her in a way that pleases my heavenly Father.
This movie is one of the best that I have ever seen. Christy and I are have already tried and begun to incorporate the lessons learned from this movie into our own relationship, and have not only began to be in prayer for our relationship, but for all those others out there who are or who have gone through this/these painful relationship stage(s). In conclusion, the most profound thing that I took from the movie is the following: "I cannot even begin to love my fiancé (future wife) the way God would have me to WITHOUT God. I must work from the TOP to bottom and not from Bottom to top. Only Christ can bring us the sustaining, life-long, everlasting satisfaction that our souls desire." I try to remind myself of that everyday now, lest I try and depend on my future spouse's human, sinful, and fallable abilities to provide all my needs. Praise be to God that He is sovereign over all. Praise be to His name that He has brought Christy and I together, growing together in Him, and giving us both the courage and ability to come to one another in humility, where our darknesses have been exposed to the light, freeing us from selfish bondage, and helped save our relationship from what looked to be the end...not so long ago.
11/3/2008
A month ago I found out that I had driven my wife to find a friend. For years I had walls around me, I shut her out of my life, I pushed her to a breaking point. She still stuck by me. When I finally realized what I had done, I stepped back looked at what I have done. I opened up, I let her in, we began talking, we began to communicate, I began to realize that the love of my life was almost ready to leave. As I began to open up, I began to feel better, I began to see what life was really about when you love someone. My wife picked up a copy of the 40 Day Love Dare and we decided to see the movie Fireproof prior to starting the book. I knew the movie was about relationships, she did not. As we sat and watched the movie we both saw ourselves on the screen. There were so many similarities to our relationship including the "friend". We cried more that day then we ever have. Because of something that happened as a child I have had hatred in my heart. I was using that hatred to stay away from God. After the movie I realized that I had been a fool all of these years. Blaming him for something that he had nothing to do with. I finally found it in my heart to forgive those that I could not forgive in the past. Upon forgiving I felt the world lifted off of my shoulders. I am now ready to get back to God and to continue to work hard on our relationship. We started the 40 Day Love Dare today and we are both committed to completing it and continuing our relationship with each other and with God in our lives.
11/3/2008
My husband and I saw the movie on 10/30/08. I saw my marriage in that except for the fact that I am already saved. At first I wanted to watch the moving hoping that my husband would change but honestly it helped me to be the wife GOD intended for me to be to win my husband over. One part in the movie that really touched my heart very much was when Caleb's father said: "You would never understand what love really is until you come to know CHRIST". It opened my eyes to understand why I continue to fight for my marriage after my husband cheated, lied, broke my heart, disrespected me etc. It's because I have the love of CHRIST flowing in and through me. That's the very thing CHRIST went through when HE died on the CROSS to reedeem us back to HIM so those are the things that we have to endure in order to win back our spouse. I continue to pray for my husband and sometimes it's an emotional battle but with GOD's help I can overcome the struggle. I know my husband will change because just like GOD didn't give up on me I know that GOD hasn't given up on my husband. I hold on to GOD's promises everyday. Even though with my natural eye I see no hope but with my supernatural eye I see all hope and HIS NAME IS JESUS CHRIST. I pray that GOD will touch each married couple that's going through the struggle and remember to keep your eyes on things above. Don't focus on the problem but on the problem solver!! :0)
Letitia
11/2/2008
My wife and I went and watched fireproof tonight and it was like watching our lives on the big screen. A family member told us we needed to go see this movie knowing that we are having a great deal of trouble in our marriage. All I can say is wow,
This was a great movie and couldn't have came at a better time in our lives. I was teary eyed the whole movie thinking about all the things I have done wrong.
I was thinking on the way home what I would do for a copy of that journal in the movie. I just ordered one and I hope it will let me show her how much I really do love her and want her to stay in my life forever.
Thank you so much for the movie and the love dare.
11/1/2008
My ex-husband and I saw this movie tonight. It was wonderful. It told our story, except they chose not to end their marriage. We did. I didn't know then what I know now. Instead of fighting for the marriage and my husband, I opted to file for divorce and let adultery end my marriage. Forgiveness was not even a consideration. I have questioned this decision for the last three years, while working on forgiveness. I still love him very much, but the wounds are still very deep. I am praying that God will heal this or show me what his will is for me.
11/1/2008
My husband and I saw this movie lastnight. We are just married now 4 months, but we have had a rough time through some of it so far. We are from two different cultures and countries, so some things are difficult sometimes. We love eachother so much though. We have talked about divorce about a month ago... it was scary to see that almost happen. God put us together for a reason... to spread the word of GOD together. My husband is a preacher, and that was different for me to end up with a preacher for a husband. I wouldnt change it for anything though. We saw this movie together and both cried..we saw a lot of us in it. How we treat each other sometimes. Made us really think and thank GOD for what he has done in our lives. This movie has really changed how we think now and we want to share with others how this movie is such an impact. Thank you to Sherwood Church for making this movie! We give thanks to GOD for the love he has given us as well. God bless those of you who read my story! We will keep all couples in these situations in our daily prayers!
Thanks..Liz
11/1/2008
The other day me and my husband saw fireproof And early in the movie I could relate to so much in that movie The things that they were going thru hit home so hard I felt tears in ny eyes and my heart just fell to the floor and I am telling my husband during must of the movie Baby thats how I feel. So after the movie that when we realized thatb we have so much to work on but before I thought that we were just fine with the key word being just and we were everything but just fine. If it was not for my boss and this movie I would have left without trying to fix what was broken it might take sometime but when it comes to my marriage I have akk the time in the world to fix it.
10/31/2008
My husband and I just saw Fireproof the other day. I haven't cried that hard in a movie for a long time. Like some other reviewers said, it was like watching our marriage on the big screen. I could relate to the time early in our marriage that my husband was incredibly selfish and I felt worthless next to beer, his friends, and pornography. Every time that our marriage was in this situation, I experienced attention from someone else that made me feel good about myself and made me feel like a woman who was appreciated. When I came home I came home to someone who didn't care about my feelings. Eventually I succumbed and had an affair with a co-worker (he doesn't know to this day). I hated myself for it and have regretted it every second since, but it was so easy to draw closer to someone else as my husband pushed me farther away. Eventually our marriage got better, especially when my husband became a Christian and really started to change. It is so vital for two people to work as a team in a marriage, or there are bound to be problems. It can't be "mine" or "yours", it has to be "ours", in everything. We are finally happy in our marriage, even though it's not without some hiccups in the way we communicate or with misunderstandings. I urge everyone to go see this movie, whether you are happily or unhappily married, engaged, or even if you're single. Knowing what a healthy marriage is supposed to look like before getting married is just as important and renewing your marriage years later. I am so thankful to the creators of this movie and to God for giving us talented loving people who are willing to step out in faith and reach millions for His sake.
Thank you!
10/30/2008
My husband and I saw Fireproof about three weeks ago. We are working through the Love Dare book and are at different points due to having only one book and passing it back and forth. The movie impacted us both and I believe it touched my husband more than I knew. He has been bringing up scenes from the movie and mentioning it during our day together. I am intrigued by this as he is used to be so preoccupied and our time together was usually brief and he was looking toward the time he was with his friends. He has made an intentional effort to spend quantity time as well as quality time with the kids and I. He is working through the book and is much more attentive to my needs and desires. Our son remarked, "I don't know what you and Dad are doing but it seems to be working. You all are not so angry with each other all of the time." My husband is more physically affectionate and attentive than he used to be as well. We have had a lot of water under this bridge that we call a marriage. Two children born with birth defects within the first five years of our marriage, a couple of affairs, and some other serious infractions that should of torn us assunder. I won't lie there are battle scars from these but the wounds are finally healing and this is in part thanks to this movie and the 40 Day Love Dare. I praise God for his work in our family and am looking forward to our 20th anniversary with anticipation and not dread. I didn't know a few months ago how things would be by that time. Now, we are discussing renewing our vows, at some point.
10/29/2008
I also can't thank the creators of this movie enough as well as this website. As a career firefighter and firefighters being a major part of both our families this movie has turned my other half completly around. She as minister had lost her faith in God and our relationship when I gave everything I could to save it. After seeing this movie she realized how much I was trying and that she was not. It has been like falling in love all over again. People cannot imagine what it is like being a fierfighter/paramedic and the day to day stress that goes along with the job. Its just not running into burning buildings and saveing lives, Its constant non-stop training, reports, shift duties,vehicle maintenance,the decisions that you make all through your shift depends on wether a person lives or dies and the decision you make could be the wrong one and you have to live with this the rest of your lives. then you have your brothers and sisters that you work with and the responsability of keeping them safe and if you send them into a burning structure the possibility of it colapsing on them is always in the back of your mind. Those of you who choose firefighting as a carreer must be mentally prepared at all times to see the worst any human can imagine even in your realtionship at home. Dont try to live with it alone or be the tough guy, communication is vital with your spouse, pastor and or couselor.
James
10/29/2008
My wife and I went to see movie yesterday and I can honestly say it was the best movie I have seen in a long time and all the facts were what so many couples are facing today with so many people not living in the now and not spending quality time together . I also know that this movie came at such an important time in our life and a true blessing from heavenly father.
Thank you!!!!
10/29/2008
I read April's story and found it to be very touching and inspiring. I would like to comment that me and my husband have been separated for about a month now due to problems that we had in our marriage, but most of all, due to his unfaithfulness. I forgave him and continued to stay in our home for a couple of more months but then discovered that he had never stopped commmunicating with this other woman who lives in another country. When I found out, I made the decision to move out and did. We have been married for 12 years and have a 6 year old. The problem is that during all of this month, we still talk to each other and the phone and I even seen him once. I asked him if he is still communicating with this woman but he said "No, because I wanted to you and myself another opportunity." However, he also tells me that he has doubts. I asked him about what and he never responded. The problem is that I am getting full of anger, hurt and resentment towards him because I don't feel like I should have to put my life on hold for him or until he can make up his mind as to what he wants to do. He plays the victim, when in reality, I am the victim! I was invited to go see this movie and absolutely LOVED it! I am willing to fight for my marriage but don't know how since I no longer live in the same house. I thought of doing the 40 day love dare but don't think that I should be the one to do it since I am not the one that was did the act. I would really to receive other's comments as to what they would do if they were me. Please help me!
Desperate!
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