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10/12/2009
My Husband and I have been together for almost 13 years and married 10 years- We have 3 little girls together - Our relationship has not been perfect to say the least- affairs- - trust- money issues - and the run of the mill difficulties with having children- no time for each other. Our family lives far away so it is difficult to get any time together-
WELL>>>
After Counseling on his part= and going to church as a family we started to get better- Things were looking up and now I feel that we are back to square 1 and struggling to survive- We as a family have stopped going to church and now I'm the one in counseling Last Valentines Day we watched Fireproof together- not knowing what the movie was about - we thought it was about a firefighter- action movie NOT about relationships
When we watched it he laughed at it the whole time - saying what bad acting it was- funny thing about it - We were married in Albany GA -Our first daughter was born in Phoebe Putney Memorial Hospital- I thought it was God directing us - trying to put us on the path toward God and a healthy realationship
Well as mushie as I am I rewatched it today after my husband said he doesn't know me anymore and how I don't trust him- I am and have been trying to trust him since the affair- It is hard - apart of me was lost- when I found out... it felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest and stompped on- Now there is a trust factor that has been hard to deal with lately-
Because...
Currently, He is in at a live in training academy 5 out of the 7 days -This is something I've supported him in doing for almost 10 years- and he has been gone since July and Lately I feel that he is just coming home because of an obligation to his children- I don't feel his heart is here with me- I've talked with him about it and we promised to work on things last weekend - THEN I did something I regret- I stole his cell phone to make sure he was not cheating again - Of course he found out... and now He says he doesn't trust me and that our relationship will not survive- because I will never let the affair go...
He came home this weekend - I've apologized over and over... cried over and over... but ... he couldn't hug me or kiss me without me asking - wouldn't even sleep in the same bed as me - wouldn't even hold my hand without me asking - He wants space and time to figure things out- I often wonder when I stopped being good enough for him - and our marriage-
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SO 40 DAY LOVE DARE - I've ordered you TODAY you should be here in about 3 bus. days- I want to save my marriage not just because of our children but because I truly love him and I told him if he wants out I will understand but I will do everything in my power to show him that I love him and Pray that with Gods help and guidence we will not only SURVIVE But we will THRIVE in our marriage and grow old and happy togehter- with GOD's love and blessings- I ask if you could say a pray for us - it's much needed
Much Love - Kelly
Kelly
10/12/2009
My husband and I have been married 10 years and been together 14. I was tipped that my husband was being unfaithful about 6 months ago. This has always been a fear of mine. He is a drinker and I don't trust him when we are not together when he does. We had a child two years ago after five years of infertility. It was a emotional rollercoaster for the both of us. When our child was born he was sick and he required my full attention which in turn led me to neglect my husband. He begin spending a lot of time away from home and we rarely spent any time together. I didn't notice because I was exhaust all the time and frankly did not have the energy to care what or who he did things with. Bad mistake!! After I was tipped I checked his cellphone and found numerous texts, emails from two girls. After hiring a detective I found nothing more, but I found out more about the identity of the girls. I say girls because that are young enough to be my husbands daughters. I confronted him with this and he denies everything or anything. I just feel it in my gut that he was unfaithful. I don't need to know detail but I am stressed that he is still seeing them. I have been praying and am reading the Love Dare book and I have seen God work in our lives already. It is humbling to find that I have been so wrong and selfish in alot of things. I don't take what he did as my fault but I definitely didn't help things. I am just continually praying that God can heal our marriage and my husbands alcohol problems. I think he is overworked and stressed and uses it as a release. I am although sad to know there are many young girls out there that would go after a man old enough to be their Dad. I am sure it is about money and gifts but have some respect for yourself ladies!!
10/11/2009
Nine months ago I reunited with the father of my 16 year old child. Ours is a true love story....or is it? I had not heard from him or seen him in 16 years. He called me in January to apologize for his past, the way he treated me and my son and for not being a part of our lives. He told me he was in touch with God and that his life was better and part of his continued journey was to reach out to me and ask for forgiveness. He was my first love and when I heard his voice and what he said; well I wanted to see it for myself. I made plans to visit with him and reintroduce him to the son he hadn't seen in 15 years. We met in his home town in early February ~ a blessing for us all. We've been seeing one another since but lately our relationship has taken a terrible turn. I found a text message he sent to this exwife saying "I desire you @##" I was heart broken. I thought I was the only one. He told me he sent the message because he was lonely and that we had been fighting too much. We live in different states and the distance has also become a factor. He told me that he loves me and that he was sorry. He said I should trust God and his message. I have been trying to repair our relationship for weeks. Trying to believe in Gods message. Tonight I watched Fireproof and I feel like God was speaking to me. This movie was a miracel message. I need to learn to be patient. Trust God and his word. Trust the love that is in front of me by being a stronger, kinder, gentler person.
Thank God for this movie. It may have saved the love I have!
10/11/2009
A Love Story
By: Eyceebee
It was December 2004 when i met this guy. A week after a Christmas holiday. He came from other country but still his heart wants to go back to the Philippines.
And This is my love story....listen..
One Sunday he attended our church service and a friend of ours introduced him to me. A way back this friend of ours wants me to meet this guy so i said “well, fine as long as he is a good guy”.he introduced him to me and at the back of my mind and my heart “ This is the guy you’re gonna marry” wow! and after a week we exchange texts, so finally without my knowing he will come back to the country where he is staying..living...in Canada so he gave me a call before he left and gave his email so we could communicate with each other..then it went on..and finally he courted over a long distance expressing his feelings...so i said yes!..a long long distance love affair..hehehe..the relationship was not a smooth sailing because it was a long distance it’s hard for us to build the solid relationship and not having a “friendship foundation” but still the relationship went on and on..but it came to a point that we called a “cool off”..as same old saying..” “if you can give me enough space”..granted!..we cut our communication...have to move on...then i fell in love with other guy..it was a short period of time together..without further elaboration of what kind of relationship we had..we broke up..i was single again!..many guys attempted to court me but still my heart knows whom to beat..it was a journey and asking the Lord “ Lord bahala kana this time ikaw na ang mag direct..napapagod na ako”.. There were times that of course i’m still lonely because there’s a longing inside of me that i want to get married kaso sino?..wala naman ako mapili that time parang walang mag match..”walang bagay”..then i was reminded of my prayer a long time ago..and it goes like this”..Lord kahit matagal basta pag binigay mo sia na yun!..and ito yung gusto ko: he’s an engineer, mapag mahal sa parents, wag masyado gwapo basta di kami alangan,christian at siyempre ma a-accept ako ng buong buo without any questions..”.. and the Lord finally granted it after 10 years of waiting and journey..The Lord taught me to wait in his perfect time and trust him in his ways..though it went a lot of testing and flaws..but i know “he makes everything beautiful in his perfect time”..he said it in his word!..the bible!
It was January 2008 when Arman called me, it was not a kilig moment because it was not my focus anymore..still we exchange emails, and he phoned me once in a while..he said that he will come home in March 2008 to celebrate family reunions at the same his birthday..well i said it’s a good idea..a month before his arrival..we had a mis-communication..so i thought i will not push through anymore..
March.17...his arrival..he didn’t give a call or text..so i said to myself..”if he doesn’t want me to see or talk” fine!..”but Lord kahit 1 day lang to settle things and once and for all maayos na yung dapat ayusin..if this will not gonna work ok lang basta at peace kami both”..and guess what after 2 days.. he phoned me and ask me if its okey to see each other?..wow! finally this is it!.so i said yes!..we talked and settled things..we started with new beginnings..forget the past let’s start with a new chapter.
Before he came back to Canada..a day before his birthday..he ask me to marry him!.Lord this is it!..he proposed to me!..yes! yes! yes! A dream come true the man i loved for many years that i prayed for!..after a year and one half of waiting..we got married..it was July 25, 2009 when we exchange our vows..joining our hearts..he went back to Canada and hopefully by next year we’ll be together for life!..
We have this verse our covenant..Ephesians 1:16 “I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers”
..and this is our love story....be blessed!
10/10/2009
My husband and I have been married for six years, and just recently his behavior changes about four months ago, he now displayed no respect for me and started staying s out all night without contacting or texting, and speak to me badly, and may be involved in a emotional affairs or more with somone on his job as well, he hide his phone, and has spoken this woman over 3,000 minutes. My Husband has never hit me, and never called me out of my name. We"ve both said and done hurtful things to one anohter. Inspite of this I want my marriage to work, although at times I felt like walking away. We have three childern. Please pray for us that God will soften his heart, and his affection will be toward his wife and childern.
SW
10/9/2009
October 10, 2009
My husband and I have been married for 14 years, we went together to see Fireproof when it first came out in the theater. It was very emotional for both of us but we still had some issues to work on. I got the love dare book and began 31 days ago approaching our marriage with a renewed effort, I wanted us to be one again instead of two souls walking different paths. This has been very rewarding for me as well as my husband. This really does work and I can't wait to see where it takes us in our marriage. I love being married to my husband again and finally I have found my best friend again with this Love dare! I am looking forward to the future and where our marriage will go and how high we both can fly together as one!
10/9/2009
I have been engaged to my fiancee for a year,and we have a almost 2 year old daughter. Been a constent struggle,been together for 3. I watched fireproof last night,and I will be watching it again with him. I want to fix things between him and I. I dont want to throw away what we have so far. Love is there,just needs to be worked on. I love him and I dont want nothing to happen to us. We are a family that does not need breaking up. Just need to work on this from the beginning of our future together and want it to last forever.
Terrilynn
10/7/2009
My husband and I have been married for almost three years and have a one year old son. Just this August I kicked him out of the house as I was under the impression that he was having an emotional affair with some whom he had worked with as he was talking/texting her more than he was me, his wife. I still want to be with him and make our marriage stronger, so I purchased Fireproof and am going to watch it with him this weekend. I just hope it makes him realize how much I care for him and love him. I have begun reading the Love Dare book and will adapt that to my lifestyle either way my marriage turns out.
10/6/2009
My wife and I have been married 29 years. We married young, worked hard and raised 3 great boys, one already married, one getting married in November, and one still living at home, completing University. To say things are bad, is wrong. There is no violence, no drinking, no unfaithful acts. There is just a loneliness and emptyness, which is growing. There is a seperation of hearts, there is a deprssion between us, and to be honest, I don't no where to turn.
I just happened to be home on my own, flicking the movie channel and saw the last part of the movie. It made me think. Its a start.
Bruce
10/5/2009
My husband and I have been married for 7 years, and it has been one trial after another. When you mix in alcohol abuse from both of us, and constant power struggles, we have both just about had it. We started counseling three weeks ago. This past week when it seemed we were not going to be able save our marriage, our conselor gave us a copy of "Fireproof" to watch together. We did last night, and the bells starting going off for both of us. It was the first night I have went to sleep with a smile on my face in many months. I think we may be on to something.
Sharon
10/4/2009
Wow! There are so many of us whom can relate to one another, and the only reason we know of each other is simply, "The Love Dare". Myboyfriend and I have only been together for 7 months, but i know in my heart he is "the one". I was in a horrific domestic violence relationship for over 6 years before getting divorced. Andy was (and is) my prince charming. We have already been thru so many 'issues & problems" , one would think we had been married for years. We are both parents, my girls live with us. We are in the process of remodeling our home. The biggest problem WAS drugs. We both choose a path of destruction with methamphedamines. We began to argue on a daily basis. He began spending time with another girl. However, for some reason, God kept us together. Then a few weeks ago, probably more like a month, a friend of ours rented "Fireproof". Talk about waking up to smell the roses! I noticed, although it wasnt discussed, the tears that ran down his face, and mine. See, he is a volunteer Firefighter and i am an auxillary firefighter. We both devote lots of time to helping others, but we seem to quit devoting time to each other. "Fireproof" and "The Love Dare" has crept up in my mind several times since the night we seen the movie. However, on September 24, after using meth again, i attempted suicide because i believed he was keeping things from me. The devil allowed me to believe that Andy didnt truely love me and that i was worthless.
After being released from the hospital, i am thrilled to say that he and I are both 12 days clean and counting. I know its a long battle, but i have regained my faith. I cant wait to get back to work so that i can purchase the love dare, because i know in my heart that God is changing circumstances and the love dare will save my relationship.
I will be praying for each of you and i hope you will pray for me as well. We are all in this together and it is our faith that will see us thru.
God Bless Everyone and have a prosperous and very blessed week!
tonya
10/4/2009
My husband and I have been married for 1 1/2 years and together for over 6 yrs. We just bought a beautiful house and started our lives together in a community away from home. I am a physical therapist and he works in retail. We definately have differences in contribution in regards to income which can cause some of our fights. Mostly because we both had different ideals of how much should be spent for personal use vs. saving. Although the biggest thing that has been difficult is feeling like he does not want to spend time with me. Hunting, xbox or computer feel like they come first. Although these things bothered me, we did not fight a lot about these issues until I discovered that he was talking to another girl from work secretly. Texting and calling her nonstop. This has been a struggle for me in trusting him again but I have been trying to put my trust in God. Shortly after I decided to do that I had a patient mention this book/movie to me in conversation without her even knowing anything about what I was going through. It was a blessing. I watched the movie and I am ready to take the Dare.
10/4/2009
So I've been married for 23 years - not many of them happy. My husband is a firefighter. I happened to pick up the movie not really knowing about it or how it would impact me. I actually thought that someone had been watching us and made the movie from it. The only excption - we have three children - and they are the reason I stay in my marriage because I still believe that it's better for them. I've pretty much given up on trying to fix my marriage and live happy as I truly feel that I've tried for years - giving, giving, getting nothing in return. I stopped giving a few years ago and now I just go through the motions and try not to get angry or frustrated knowing that this is the decision I've made. Today I ordered the 40 day dare book - had it shipped to my house in my husbands name. I'm hoping that he will open it and take the dare - more so I'm hoping that I have enough courage to take the dare too. It's taken many years to build the brick wall - excessive drinking, afairs, disrespect and suspition of even more. I'm hardened and hurt and letting go of the anger will be a difficult task for me. I do understand that the only person we can control is ourselves - really needing assistance to help me be able to change what I can - not sure if I'm ready. Will let you know how things progress.
10/4/2009
I have just celebrated my 13th wedding anniversary with the love of my life. We got married young at just 17. We have two beautiful daughters. Until the last 5 months I have been pretty happy with my life. My husband and i have had to fight and claw our way to get what we have, but I have always felt blessed. About 5 months ago i noticed my husband starting to act funny. He would leave the room when a text would come in and started not coming home at all on the weekends. After looking up cell phone records and bank statements I found out he had a female friend that he was talking to all the time. To this day he swears that they are only friends but now she is working with him (we own our own company) and he goes to her house all the time. I am so hurt by this and yet all he can say is he needs time, he swears that there is nothing physical in their relationship, but I think the emotional part is the hardest. I pray all the time for God to give me strength to get through another day. My kids tell me to divorce their dad, but some part of me wants to hold on. The Love Dare is going to be my last effort in my marriage. It is currently 1:15 am and he is still not home. I pray for him to come back to me, but dont know if its what God wants. Does he want someone to be this unhappy with their marriage and partner if the partner does not put time/effort into it? I hope that this works this is the only thing I can think of, he wont go to counseling and we both watched the movie. Please keep us in your prayers.
10/4/2009
My husband and I have been married for two years and have a one year old daughter. Just this June I kicked him out of the house and he went back to his ex wife, I have know once I found out that I want to save our marriage. He relize that he wants to be with me and his daughter so I let him back in our lives and everything is going real good right now. We set done for the first time and watch fireproof tonight and that made us both realize that we want to make everything work out for us. So we are going to start our own love dare and see how everything works out.
So for everyone who is reading please pray for us and I will do the say. I love him with all my heart and I really want this to work out.
Amber
Amber
10/3/2009
Hi, I been Married for about 2 years and together for about 4. Me and my wife have a beutiful 2 year daughter and I also have a 4 year step daughter that i consider my own. Everything at first was great, we met at work, fell in love and moved in together. We were always near each other. every job we have been we have been together. It got to a point that our lives only revolve around my daughters. Me and my wife would not communicate like we use to, I always reminded her that she was not loving enough, and she never showed me any emotion, so i began to wonder if she really loved me or not. well it got to the point that i didnt trust her, because she would not communicate with me, show emotion or told me that she loved me, so i began checking her stuff, emails, txt msgs, phone calls. I have never done this but unfortunatelly i began. My wife has left me, she claims that I didnt trust her, and she got fed up with no trust in our relationship. It has been 3 months since we been separated, we have already talked about divorce, made arrangements as who is going to keep what and what kind of child custody we are going to get. I was beginning to accept this. you see i have always put my wife first, we hardly argue, i was alwasy loving to her (at first) but it slowly began to die out. My cousin mention me about this movie call fireproof and said i should watch it. after watching it, it opened my eyes to a lot of things that it was wrong with me. I called my cousin to ask him why had he mention the movie to me and he said that he did not know, that it was pretty random. so i decided to start this love dare thing, at first i didnt want to because in my mind i had the thought that she is the one that left me, she gave up, however in my heart i want my family back so that way this time we can ground our marriage God's way. I started the love dare and I am on day 4 today. I have seen some changes in me, and she seems to be responding to it. I dont know if this changes from both sides are for good or for worst, but i do know this, I have given it to the lord and he led me down this path. so if you are reading this please pray for me, for i want my family back.
chris
9/29/2009
I have been with my boyfriend for only a 1 year and a half, which really feels more like a 5 year marriage. We moved in together incredibly fast which helps account for the additional time I mentioned. We immediately believed we were soulmates and I truly had the man of my dreams. He sent a diamond necklace across the ocean while I was staying in Hawaii, he would constantly make me extravagant dinners and show me places I had never been. While I still thank God every single day for his love and generosity, we had definitely hit problems most married couples don't hit for years into a marriage. Financial...boredom...spending too much time away....emotional blackmails....you name it we have been through it...already! I knew I was not bound to him and had every reason to walk away but the book is right when you choose to love someone you truly love them regardless of what reasons they give you to do so. I watched as he slowly morphed into this man I had never seen before. I was his punching bag in so many ways. He began to be angry all of the time and everything began to be my fault. As is natural for a woman to do, I blamed myself and began to feel like I wasn't good enough for him. Surprisingly he seemed to feel the same way towards me. I began resenting him and giving the stone cold treatment. I began to shut down in many ways. Finally, I realized that despite what I had invested in us, I was not married and too young to be living like I had no options. So as I began to plot how I would leave, striving for the least confrontational method.... a friend laid the "Love Dare" book in my lap. I glanced through it and read it secretly afraid to be mocked for my "mushy" side. The more I read it, the more it spoke to me and I began to relate our problems to the chapters in the book. It made me realize that I played a lot larger of a role than I thought and that I had unknowingly perpetuated his negative reactions that I despised so much. So I took the dare. I began looking at him again as I had in the beginning. I changed my attitude towards him and began showing him the love that he hadn't seen in months. I decided that the least I could do was be responsible for MY actions and make sure that each and every one of them declared the love I still felt for him, as the book describes. My boyfriend noticed an immediate change in my demeanor and asked what had changed. I described the book in a way I knew he would understand (he is not a believer), he said he liked that book and may look at it some time. Since I have been practicing this attitude at home I have seen him respond in a way only God himself could have done. He is slowly morphing again into the man I always desired. Lately he has had such a curiosity in faith and God, etc. I pray for us daily and have faith that God will show him what being a christian man is all about. This book saved my peace of mind and heart, and rekindled my faith.
Meg
9/27/2009
My husband and I have been married for two years and been together for six, at first our relationship was wonderful he would help me around the house, understand the moods I was in, and know he doesnt even seem to care any more. He does not help me with anything. I hope by watching this movie will help change our marriage and make it better, our fights we get in have seem to be getting worse and worse everytime. He tells me he does not care anymore if I go and file for divorce that he is just so tired of having to deal with me and my problems.Thank you all for listening.
Sharon
Sharon
9/26/2009
Today is September 26, 2009. I watched Fireproof for the first time....by myself. I'm feeling drained, emotional, stunned....I have been seriously weighing my pro's and con's on divorce over the last month. I've been married for 8yrs, 2nd marriage for both of us. I could completely relate to Kathryn.....right down to the computer issues. I was smart enough to add one component more though....food! I've been wonderful enough to take all my anger, frustration, stress...you name it....out on me...and have gained a whopping 40 lbs. My rationale for that...simple....as i have told my husband, what I have learned over the last 5yrs is it doesn't matter if I have short hair or long hair, straight hair or curly hair, thin or fat.....he has completely forgotten about me.....us. He takes such superior care of his cars, garage, yard.....and bends over backwards to please his friends...but has neglected me in the process.
a nurse and a cop we are....both of who give of ourselves daily for others....hero's to some but not to each other.
My mom is always telling me to put GOD first, to ask for his help, to ask for his forgiveness. I go to church....sometimes.....but that isn't enough.
I am willing to take this 40 day Love Dare.... I am wanting to.
For anyone who read this, I am asking you to pray for me, my marriage.... I will do the same for all of you.
Vicki
vicki
9/25/2009
My husband Tim and I just got married last June. We have been together for a little over 4 years and have a 2 year old little girl together. My story is pretty much like everyone else's. Im wondering when it all changed. We used to go out with friends every weekend. And actually we never went out on the town, we all got together for pizza and beer, the guys played music and the girls would chat. When I got pregnant is changed a little. Maybe it was just me. I wanted someone to be able to help support our little family but Tim only worked part time and wouldnt look for a full time job. Then he was helping paint a house and he fell and broke his ankle. He now has 2 plates and 9 pins in his ankle. So while I was pregnant, and not working, neither was he. He finally healed just in time for the birth of our daughter. I thought things would get better, but they really havent changed. Skip forward a couple of years. After sticking it out at his job for 3 years working part time, they gave him full time just a few months ago. So he went from working less than 20 hours a week to over 40. I am not complaining about that at all. But he's now always at work and when he's not at work he's sleeping or playing his xbox360. He plays that thing for hours on end. And I've tried to tell him that its affecting us but he doesnt listen. We dont fight at all. But I feel that if he keeps living like he's a single teenager playing his video games, we wont last much longer. We dont do anything together anymore. And Im afraid it'll not only affect us but our daughter. So when I saw the movie i decided to take the dare in hopes it'll do something, spark something new. He knows im doing the dare, and Ive tried to get him to watch the movie but he said he didnt need to or want to. Maybe he'll just read the book with me and hopefully we can get something out of all of this.
Meshele
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