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10/28/2008
My husband and I went to the movies yesterday to watch another new release. We purchased our ticket, and was walking into the theatre. When I looked up, and saw that Fireproof was playing in the theatre next to it, something was pulling me in. I mentioned that I had been wanting to see Fireproof to my husband as we continued to walk into our original destination. The previews came on, he looked at me and said, "Lets go." He thought Fireproof was an action movie, where a fireman lost his life, etc.
We sat down to watch Fireproof, and from beginning to end, it was like watching our marriage on film. From the candle issue, lack of groceries, bill paying, disrespect, to the internet porn addiciton. I even work in a hospital. It was amazing how that movie spoke to us. We had no expectations and walked out overwhelmed and moved by the experience.
I can not help but to share our experience with friends. Any married couple can walk away with tools, motivation, and a better understanding of what the endless possibilities and the gift of marriage can provide.
We are on fire and excited about renewing the intamacy and respect in our commitment.
Jami
10/28/2008
I can't thank the creators of this movie enough. My husband took me to see it on our 13th anniversary. He started crying almost at the beginning of the movie. I thought something was wrong with me, as I didn't cry until the scene where he found out that she knew about the book.
This movies could have been made about our marriage. Things that the couple was saying about and to each other were things that we had said or done.
I pray for God to fix us and heal our hearts.
Thank you!
10/28/2008
My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married 9. A little over two years ago, in September 2006, we split and started divorce proceedings. For two years we fought through lawyers and with each other. We went to court 3 times and had hearings scheduled and cancelled over 9 times within that year and a half. It was a nasty divorce.
In May of 2008, my husband called me and asked me if I would be in prayer with him. He wanted to work on our marriage, I was floored, I started crying and really felt that God was answering almost two years of constant prayers.
About two months after we decided to try to work things out, my husband was listening to a local Christian radio station. He heard about this movie and heard they were giving away tickets for a sneak preview. He called in on the next chance to win and won the tickets for us to view the movie early. That was our first day out together. I was a little nervous but excited as well. The movie was very touching. I LOVED IT! I haven't got the 40 day book yet but I am looking forward to getting it and working through it, if nothing else, for myself.
I don't know what my husband and I's future holds for sure. I do know that after two years of hate, arguing and bitterness, three court dates and over nine continuances, GOD IS NOT GONNA LET THIS MARRIAGE FAIL! We have to hold true to his promise and find a way to bring the love back. It takes two in any marriage to make it and only one to break it. You have to be UNITED! Remember it's not a separation, it's a tear, you were once one, when you decide to divorce you tear not only yourself but the other one in half. I wish everyone the best in their marriage and I truly believe a marriage truly built on God will never fail. GOD BLESS!
10/28/2008
I loved the movie and the way it moved the heart of both myself and my husband. I cant wait til the movie goes on sale because just like anything else the excitement wares away after a few weeks and I have to keep pulling myself back and remember why I watched the movie in the first place until it becomes second nature.
Love and good luck to all who watch -Mandi
10/27/2008
I HAVE BEEN TO SEE THE MOVIE "FIREPROOF" AND IT HAS DRASTICALLY CHANGED THE WAY I FEEL ABOUT MY MARRIAGE. MY HUSBAND WAS AT WORK , ME AND OUR DAUGHTER WENT TO SEE IT. I CALLED MY HUSBAND AFTER THE MOVIE AND WAS TELLING HIM ABOUT IT AND HOW I FELT ABOUT IT. I THINK HE WAS SHOCKED ABOUT THE WAY THE MOVIE MOVED MY HEART, IT HAS MADE ME FEEL EXCITEMENT ABOUT MAKING IMPROVEMENTS WITH MY LIFE PARTNER. I WAS ALSO GLAD MY DAUGHTER WAS THERE TOO SHE WAS ALSO MOVED , SO I HOPE IT LEAVES A LASTING IMPRESSION ON HER, ABOUT HOW MARRIAGES ARE SUPPOSED TO BE AND KEEPING GOD IN HER LIFE.
10/27/2008
Oh my goodness. This movie is so true to life. My husband and I actually had to laugh because we experienced a big argument on Saturday. If anyone had come to my house Saturday, they would have thought we were practicing a scene for the movie. Hurtful things were said and I said we should just call it quits. Although, I didn't mean it, he told me words can be very damaging and hurtful. I agree. I love my husband and only want what God has planned for our lives. We have since agreed to take 60 seconds once we become angry to K.I.S.S. (keep it (words)soft and sweet) before saying anything. Try it. This movie is so true to life the things couples go through. It is amazing how satan can ease his way in so subtly and make your spouse seem to be your worse nightmare. Stay in the WORD and ask God DAILY to sustain your marriage. We have only been married a short while but with God's help we will continue to love and grow in our committment to each other and to God.
10/27/2008
I went to see the movie yesterday with my husband. We have been married 13 years and have 2 children. The road has not always been easy, and we have had a lot issues that we have always tried to work out. On my part, i had become overbearing over the years and bitter even though we were going to church. A lot of our words would always be hurtful to each other. I myself found that i was becoming paranoid and extremely jealous and suspicious of him. I was tormented by my fears and would express it by throwing up in his face an incident that he had done to me 12 years back. Seeing the movie, made me realize that I needed to seek God for myself. I had let him go, and therefore, had let myself go as well, and the enemy was tormenting me. It made me realize that my husband is a good guy and have always tried to be good to me. He also is a firefighter, so the movie spoke loud and clear to us but mostly to me.
Another issue, is i always hated my mother-in-law with blazing hatred. I would say it and not even hold my tongue to my husband. I didn't realize how my words hurt. In the movie, i realized she truly knew her husband had changed when he paid for her mother's medical needs instead of his own need (the boat). This made me realize that the best way i could really show my husband that i loved him was to truly love his mother as well. The way i have behaved for 13 years have always been wrong, and I have always torn him apart by making him choose sides. I am going to buy the book, and try it out. I am afraid, because i have a lot of hurt and ghosts that i need to clear out of me, and i would be stepping out on the line. But I am going to change.
They should make more movies like this. AWESOME!
10/27/2008
My wife and I have been married for over 17 years. She was my high school sweetheart and we married before we finished college. We have 5 children (13,12, twins who are 3 and a 2 yo). Our marriage has probably been unlike many of yours with periods of pure bliss and periods of extreme stress, anger, bitterness disappointment.
We are currently in the most extreme winter season we have ever encountered. We relocated two years ago to a city we had never even visited prior to my promotion. Our kids have settled in well and have found great relationships. We finally found a church (this past summer) that we all feel at home in, but my wife and I have continued to grow further and further apart. My new job is less flexible than my previous roles and our older kids are also extremely active with their sports so I am often away from home and my wife from 600am to after 900pm as I coach my kids sports and do a lot of the carpooling, grocery shopping, etc. My wife, in the meantime, is at home...away from immediate family and friends, isolated with our 3 little kids. We are so blessed to be the parents of all 5 of our children but there are times where my wife needs a break.
As you can guess, we have read Gary Chapman's books (working on the Four Season's of Marriage now) and my wife's love language is the Gift of Time...just being there, listening to her, being attentive, but not trying to solve any of her questions, just listen...which is incredibly difficult for me as my love language is Acts of Service and I run around the house when I get home speaking my love language (not hers) by picking up, helping with our little ones, cooking, etc.
To get to the point, my wife asked me to go to the movie yesterday. I had NO IDEA what it was about...I thought it was another action movie like Backdraft. It did not take me long to get into the movie as it hit so close to home. To see the disrespect, the anger, the lack of love between to the two of them. It was our home...I cried many times as the pain of each of them is felt first hand. I love my wife and think she is an incredible mom, the best friend a person could have, but she is utterly bitter about my lack of time at home (even if it is with our own children at practices, etc)...I don't take the time to schedule a date night, I don't send flowers, I don't make a big deal out of birthdays, etc. So she "doesn't feel picked" (by me) and her reaction is anger, bitterness and words that cut deep (even in front of our kids). I came away from the movie hoping that she would want to visit about it but no conversation was to be had. I tried to hold her hand afterwards and she would not reciprocate. We are surely in winter and I pray that we can get to spring. She has told me she wants out...I am going nowhere.
Thank you for movies like this...it gave me hope. I can only pray that it spoke to my wife too.
10/26/2008
Just wanted to let you know that my husband and I saw Fire Proof tonight. This is a movie we wish every married couple would go so and also any couple thinking about getting marriage. We truly believe that the world now honors divorce instead of marriage. My husband is a retired fire fighter and he went through 2 marriages before we got married and he says he can relate to Caleb. We are lucky that our marriage has grown in God and God has strengthened our marriage and love. Bless you and this movie. We will encourage all our friends to see it. If their marriage is solid then it will only remind them of how to keep it strong.
10/26/2008
My husband and I heard about the movie before it even came out. We loved Flywheel and Facing the Giants. We finally decided to go see it yesterday morning. On out way to the movie, we got into a huge argument and he actually almost turned around to go home. I told him we were not going to waste the gas and convinced him to stay and watch the movie...even though I didn't want to be there myself at the time because I was so mad at him. We both went in there mad. When the first part of the movie showed them arguing, I felt like they had been at my house taping the moive. It really hit home for both of us. After many tears, we decided to go straight to Mardel's to get the "Love to Dare" book. We are starting it today and I truly believe this will be the best thing we could ever do for our marriage. Thank you Sherwood for producing so many good movies! Keep them coming!!
10/26/2008
My husband and I have been married for 5 years now. For the past year we have been separated. We went to see Fireproof last night. I had no idea, but i realized after seeing the movie last night, he has been doing the love dare on me. Seeing the movie has helped me realize that marriages are not meant to be easy, it takes alot of work and alot of love and faith from God. I am very glad he invited me to see the movie with him.
10/25/2008
My husband and I went to see the movie this week after hearing about it at church and on Christian radio. I LOVED the movie, cried during and after. Felt like some of our same arguments were playing out on the screen before us, and I was relieved to see some of those challenges in the movie must be very normal for many couples. My challenge has been that my husband wasn't as sold on it as I was. I felt enormous hope after seeing it and wanted to talk about it. He didn't have much to say and conversations about it since have led to more arguing and comments about it "being just a movie". I ordered the book and am going to try this if it kills me. I'd recommend this movie to anyone - movie or not - it touched me and changed me for the better. I'm so grateful to the writers and the clear message about people needing God in their lives.
10/25/2008
Hello everyone, today I saw the movie "FireProof" it was a blessing movie. I'm married for about two years, and this movie has taught me more....I really could not imagine my marriage like in the movie..I'm very thankful because I have learned that we can avoid many bad situations...Thank you for this great movie it blessed more my marriage thank you....
10/24/2008
My wife and I have been married for 16 1/2 years. I was thirtysomething when we married and she was nearly a decade younger. But she was so much wiser than I about just about everything. We had been Christians for about the same amount of time but her Christianity was so much more grounded than mine. We both worked in ministries in our churches but hers again was way more effective. The difference seemed to be her extremely close relationship to her first pastor, mentor and friend. While I really had only had passing relationships with my pastors and no mentors. While I had been around the the world in the Navy, had lived on both coasts of the U.S. and was a recovering alcoholic, she still had experienced more life than I had. We married in a whirlwind, met and married in three months.
In 16 1/2 years we have been through so much. And really I have never had a clue about how to steer away from the troubled waters of life. We as a couple have tried to help everyone we have come into contact with from troubled kids and teenagers to dying parents. And through it all I have grown but somehow she has begun to feel invisible. I have accomplished many of my goals in life, I recieved a bachelors degree in Bible college, ministry opportunities seem to be open to me everywhere I go. And all this has come on my the back of my wife as she has supported me and encouraged me everystep of the way. And what does she get for her trouble, most people treat her as though she is a witch and has major pychcological problems. And I have not stood-up for her the way I should have. She quite frankly is like a boiling pot of water that has nearly boiled away, everything has gone up in vapor. And we are at the brink of divorce due to my neglegence. This week she discribed our marriage from beginning (itimacy often) to end (disappearing). And with that I have begun the "Love Dare". I am forever hopeful that our marriage will survive, although I believe I almost waited to long.
I wish "Promise Keepers" had put this in my hand years ago. When Howard Hendricks told us "men if you want to know how you are doing, look at the countenance of your wife." I for one am doing miserably, but now at only day 4 I am doing better. Pray for us, and I will pray for you.
10/24/2008
My wife and went to see the movie a few days ago on a Tuesday. She had told me on Friday that she wanted to move out and divorce. We have married 16 years the second time and 2 the first time. We have 3 beautiful kids 17,15 and 13. I have never been one to show my emotions good or bad and my wife wears hers on her sleeve. This has been a problem for years with her on my lack of communication. I have been in sales and management for most of my 23 year professional career and I have no problem communicating there. I had agreed to the divorce and given up until I heard about the movie. I told her I was going and would like her to go also. We went and it had an immediate affect on us both. She is moving forward in the divorce but I am moving forward to try and save the marriage. I took from the movie to save anything I must save myself first and rededicate my life to Christ. I have been a competitive power lifter for years and used my life verse of Phil 4:13 but it is time for me to surrender my strength and accept God as the true power and search for his will for my life not my own. The movie was great, the timing a true miracle and a great message that all things are possible when we put God first.
10/23/2008
Last night my ex-husband and I went to see the movie together. I can't tell you the last time we seen a movie together when we were married. The movie touched both of us on so many levels, him especially. The message was crystal clear to both of us and we are taking small steps to work on what we could not fix alone last year. We were married almost 13 years. We have been apart since 12/07 and our divorce was final April 2008. We have not been together physically or emotionally over the past 10 months, but on the date of our anniversary in September I reached out to him because I was absolutely miserable. Neither one of us have really moved on with our lives. There were many things we had to experience apart from each other to really know who we were. This movie came at the most appropriate time and the Lord really spoke to my heart. We have a long hard journey ahead of us but I can tell you that with the right guidance it won't be near as hard as the last 13 years.
10/22/2008
I saw the movie the very first day it came out with a friend who wanted to get a divorce I am married and I also saw it with my husband. YES I saw it twice i loved the movie and what it stands for We need more of these movies with positive messages. Its not only for those with issues in there marriage its for all couples even if your not married good counseling tool. My husband loved it. we just bought the book and started reading it together it has great information inside I recommend you buy it if you havent yet. I am very happy to say my friend never got divorced it touched her in a way words couldnt express I am glad I took her to see it. God Bless.
10/22/2008
I just saw the movie with my husband. Our marriage has been secretly in trouble for the past 7 years. We don't talk, we yell. We don't listen, we condemn. This movie was a turn around for me. Instead of placing the blame on my spouse, I need to look at myself. In this world we live in, we need more movies that focus on God, love and marriage between man and woman. I highly recommend this movie.
10/21/2008
Like many others, my fiancee and I were really blessed by this movie. It amazes me how God truly works in mysterious ways. The events leading up to us choosing to see this film were ones that would never usually happen. The film could not have come at a better time. Even during the movie, we were discussing aspects of our relationship that we needed to improve upon. The movie really gave us both hope and impressed on us that to have the type relationship that we want, we first and foremost have to include God in our lives and union. I feel that in just a few short days, we have both grown in our love for God and each other. I tell everyone that I possibly can about the film, hoping that it will be a blessing to them as well. To often, we overlook the little things. Life has a way of being so overwhelming at times that we forget to show our love and appreciation to those who love us and who we love. After watching this film, I take time, even if it is just a few seconds, to do something or say something that will demonstrate my love. I will order the book soon and can't wait to make it a part of our everyday lives. I know now, that truly with God involved, there is only success and happiness to be had.
10/20/2008
On Friday Oct 17, I took a group of college age young people to see Fireproof. We found the movie to be very enlightening: real people with real problems and real answers. The story line is excellent and easy for people of all ages to follow. The struggles of marriage were well depicted, yet with sensitivity. The process of both sharing and accepting Jesus shows the turmoil that most people experience; there is a war being fought for the hearts of men and women. Following the movie, we shared and prayed together. Today, Mon. Oct 20, I've ordered materials and we plan to do a congregational seminar followed by small groups. By the way, I've begun using to 40 Day Dare in my own marriage too.
Best wishes on your journey.
Gary J Weber - Pastor
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